Just curious, is wanting to talk or chat with somebody is ethical for a married person, if he/she does not have any other intentions than just making friends?
If Yes, means its ok, then why mind does not allow it?
And, if No, means it is unethical, then why this questions arises at all?
2006-07-30 01:36:38 · 9 answers · asked by GS 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
women and men cannot be friends for a long time, the men will eventually fantacize about his female friend. Believe me, I thought alot of guys were just my friend. I cought them having crushes or fantacys about me. Thats why the mind doesnt allow it. It feels it. Sexual fantacies can be very dangerous Because there is a chance to make them come true. No wife should have male friends unless is family or co-workers that she only sees at work. Understand. Im a girl I know.
2006-07-30 01:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by skdfjasl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are talking about a married person chatting with or hanging out with another person, be it married or unmarried, it is okay. I do it all the time and my husband knows about it. People have friends. But the other party should know about it. If it is hidden and the other person finds out about it, even if it is innocent, it won't look that way. Also, it may start out innocent and turn into something else, so one must make sure that doesn't happen.
So, to answer your question, it is okay, but the question arises b/c a) it should be out in the open or it looks like more than a friendship, and b) things can start up if they are of the opposite sex, even if the two parties have the best of intentions.
2006-07-30 12:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by kristen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married then mayb you should start making friends for both of you. Don't try going out to make friends just for you. The man should have guy friends for those "night with the boys" type thing and the woman should have lady friends for those "girls night out" nights. Then there should be friends that are for both of you. Since you are married the best thing to do is find other married couples for friends. Just becaues you don't have any other intention doesn't mean the perosn you are talking to doesn't have some intention of more than friendship. Try making friends with married people for the two of you and then making guy friends for you and girlfriends for her. Then start doing things together. Also go out and by this book called The Fun Book for Couples: 102 Ways to Celebrate Love written by Melina Gerosa Bellows.
2006-07-30 10:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by lmfansler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is who the person is that your chating with. A lot of friendships start off platonic and lead to more. If it makes your spouse feel uncomfortable, the answer is no you shouldn't. It's not unethical but disrespectful if your spouse is not comfortable.
Your intention may be to be friends but the other person may have other plans for you.
2006-07-30 08:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with people talking. Married or single.. dating or on the mend. We all are people that sometimes have similiar interests. Some of my best friends are male and I am very much married. I do not see these best friends as male.. I see them as friends. I do not and would not ever view them as anything else. I have some friends that I chat with on the internet that are male.. or so they told me they were. We talk about children, problems with their wife or girlfriend.. and I try to give them my honest opinion, we talk of the weather, and sometimes just life in general. Maybe I am wrong.. however I have nothing to hide and if my husband or children walk up behind me while typing to them.. I keep on typing. They sometimes read what I am typing and sometimes they keep on going by me. I guess its all whats in your mind and what is allowable in the eyes of your partner. Good Luck.
2006-07-30 08:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see no ethical reasons not to chat with a married woman in our society US as long as no other intentions are there. Make friends with her husband, too.
2006-07-30 08:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to do as long as you are not flirting or expecting to get anything in return.
2006-07-30 08:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one.
2006-07-30 08:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
2006-07-30 09:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by arifin ceper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋