my partner seems to have lost her sex drive when i want sex she is 40 years old?

Question

is there anything she can take or is it me

Answer 1

Its not the menopause at only 40, thats silly, you dont say anything about your relationship, other than she is not interested in sex, maybe she is resentful, maybe you have treated her badly, but still expect sex, maybe she feels ignored, there are hundreds of variables here, the best thing you can do is get off the bloody internet and talk to her, not strangers, it makes me wonder why you havnt talked to her, do you expect a row over it, or maybe you think shes got someone else....

Anyway, if you do talk to her, and she says she has just lost her sex drive and nothing else is wrong, then Damania will help, but talk to her first!!!!

Answer 2

Desire begins in the brain. TALK to her. Explore why she is unresponsive. You can't address the problem until you know what it is.

A lot of women become so exhausted by job, child care and housework that sex is the last thing on their mind at the end of the day. Another thought: variety is the spice of life. Try a different approach. A different place. Can you get away for a weekend? Or cook a meal and serve it by candlelight? Would she watch an x-rated video with you? Use your imagination and your communication skills - not a pill for a quick fix!

Answer 3

It may be the beginning of menopause, some women begin this earlier than others. If its not that, try putting some romance back into the relationship, a nice weekend away where you spoil her, or flowers, perfume chocolates etc etc, spoil her, make her feel she is so very special. Whatever you do, dont pressure her too much, just try talking softly and ask her whats wrong, she may just have things on her mind that are worrying her about getting older, or pressures from other areas such as work or family? Sexy underwear, scented candles, massages, try something new....

Answer 4

its an art to makeup a women's sexual drive and make her have sex with you

she might be working so tired or possibly ill at time you want to have sex or not in mood

40 is not the age of menopause

you must not insist her to have sex with you

1)first create a romantic atmosphere
2)bring her some roses,chocolate,take her for movie
3)take her out for diner
4)be a gentlemen
5)take her for long drive
6)talk about wats going on in her life or other general issues concerning her
7)then take her home play sweet low music
8)dance with her
9)slowly slowly make moves
10)give her a sort of light message
11)start wit hug then kisses slight pressing of breast and other sensual parts like neck , back , butts
12)now is the time go for it
13)try new positions and places like have sex in car , floor ,garage etc
14)take her for walk every morning and make her do exercises with you also do exercises in which you can touch her
EXERCISE ENHANCES SEXUAL DRIVE


IF ALL THESE THINGS DOES NT HELP FORGET HER
FIND SOMEONE ELSE

Answer 5

I am 40 and my drive has been getting slower for about 5 years now, I feel that life just goes that way. Women today have more to do, and bigger responsibilities. We get tired.

Answer 6

Usually women at 40 can still perform...perhaps its time to device a new sex play

Answer 7

women cannot be turned on like a light switch, you cant ignore and suddenly the urge hits you and you expect us to be ready. Do and say nice things to her cuddle and be patient.

Answer 8

talk to sex therapist, ask your GP or check in yellow pages,
dont be ashemed to talk about this to your GP as their should be trained in handling such problems,
you didnt tell what your woman says about this, i think you should talk to her too,
i know that for good sex life talking is important:)

Answer 9

could b you been going with each long time try wineing and dining her

Answer 10

sad