why are some people such unhelpful assholes?

Answer 1

Ebaystm,

It is easy to jump to conclusions about people who are offensive. I spent over thirty years working with some of the most unpleasant people on the planet, and I have got some ideas about why they are the way they are. First of all, nobody wants to be known as an asshole. They may say they are assholes, and proud of it, but it isn't true. Everybody wants to be liked and accepted, it's just human nature. Through experience, I have found that most of the people who we find rude and offensive, are angry, and afraid. The tougher the nut, the softer they are inside. Something happened to them. It most likely happened when they were children. They were probably hurt, either emotionally, or physically. It may have been a single incident, or something that happened over a period of years. It more than likely involved someone they trusted, or loved, such as a parent (or lack of same). One thing I have learned about them, is that deep down inside, they still want to be loved and appreciated. They may act like they are no longer human, but they are still very much needing to be appreciated. I have found that many people of this type are very talented, sometimes only at one thing, and they like to be recognized for it. After doing mental battle with "assholes" for a few years, I finally decided to try a radical experiment. I read in the book of Mathew in the Bible, where Jesus says to love, do good to, pray for, and bless your enemies. Just the opposite of what you really want to do to some of these people. I figured it doesn't cost anything, and I have to put up with them anyway, so why not? Well, I'm here to tell you that it works. Against all my expectations, I saw one after another begin to open up, and start to let down their psychological armor. A few of them actually began the process of turning into decent human beings. I have never been intimidated, or upset by an asshole since that time. Now, when I meet one, I start to pray for them, and bless them right on the spot, and remember that behind the rough and ugly exterior, there is a scared little kid. I just use my imagination, to see them as really great people, and ignore their innapropriate behavior, never even suggesting that they change. It puts them at ease, and makes it possible to actually communicate with them. Some of them are actually exceptional people, trapped within the walls of their negative expectations of others. Some aren't. I just know it's a waste of time to try to argue with them, or criticize their behavior, cause they can hold their breath longer than you can.

Answer 2

There can be many reasons why some people are unhelpful. Often the reason they are lies at some point between the kind of day the person being questioned is having and the actual question itself.

When someone behaves like an asshole after having been asked a civil question, I tend to think. That they are either a born an asshole or they are having a terrible day and it is up to me then to diffuse the situation with a thank you. Sometimes politeness and a smile will brighten up the dullest and fullest of days for those whose life is one stressful situation after another.

The question of course could be the key to the answer or behaviour of any given individual. I laugh if someone asks a silly question and may return the jesture with an equally daft question. Maybe we should do this more often.

We are all human, and someone somewhere will think that we too can be an asshole. Such is the nature of being human. (I need a winking smilie here.)

Answer 3

As in all countries all over the world, there are always those who enjoy being perverse
ignore them, most folk on here are brilliant,and sometimes the cheeky answers are very amusing

Answer 4

With two points awarded to any answer one gives; it pays to be an unhelpful asshole.

Answer 5

I've heard it explained as you get like the company you keep, the way your raised and some people are naturally born A** holes

Answer 6

Because they aren't smart enough to know the real answer or because it makes them feel good to put others down. Also, because for some crazy reason, they think we're laughing with them, when in actuality we're laughing at them!

Answer 7

Low self esteem and low inteligence on their part so instead of working on being bettering themselves they just take the easy, lazy way and take their anger and shortcomings out on others ...

Sad really ... :-( ...

Answer 8

Because they have to answer dumba** questions such as yours!

Answer 9

Because they are human beings.Any doubt.Ring up Pres Bush.

Answer 10

becasue helpful assholes smell and are generally disregarded