Who difines them?
could it be that they are same?Just like two sides of a coin?
If so why do people get married ...,to MAKE LOVE?
If so why get maried at all? JUST
Do it?????????????????
2006-07-30 00:40:38 · 25 answers · asked by leo m 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
i did not get married to make love...i married my husband because he is the one i wanted to bare witness to my life. it's like the old saying "if no one saw it, it didn't happen". i wanted him to be the one who gets all of my jokes and the one who knows exactly what i'm thinkning when i say "you know what would be good right now?". to love someone is to make a connection, not just a physical one, but an emotional one, a spiritual one. to be in lust, is to feel that burning in your loins for someone, to feel short bursts of passion that soon fades, to want them only because of what they can offer you, not what you can offer them. hope i helped
2006-08-06 17:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok the first question first...how can one differentiate between love an lust...first off let me start by asking you something...do you love your mother...most likely you do...but hopefully you are like most people and are not in lust after your mother
well in a sense the same holds true to relationships as well...the differance between love and lust is... lust is just for the moment...if the person did not excite you physically, then you would not be wanting to be with her (or him)...with love...i doesn't matter
second question...who defines them...we all do...words are nothing more then just a way to comunacate our thoughts and ideas with the people around us...certain words over time have come to have certain meaning so that we can all understand the basic meaning
next question(s)...could it be that they are the same? just like two side of a coin?...for you moms sake, i hope not
next question...(i am leaving out the "if so" part)...why do people get married...every person deside to get marrried or not get married for their own reasons...and there are to many to list ...but i would imagion that there are some people who get married just to "make love"...sadly
but i don;t agree with just having sex without marrige...and granted...i did not follow this when growing up...in fact i was really young when i lost my virginity...too young...but now looking back i realize how stupid that really was...and to be honest...i honestly wish i would have waited
when i lost my virginity i lost it partly because i was in lust with the girl...but i mostly lost my virginity because i thought i would be cooler if i did...and now that i am older and wiser i realize how stupid that line of thinking really was...to be honest... no one really cared who i had sex with..not only that but when i lost it i had no way of supporting a kid if we did have one
i think i answered your last qustions thoughout this answer but let me just say one more thing...wait....if it is love...it will be worth the wait...if it is not...then both of you will get bored in a week or so...and nothing will become of it
2006-07-30 02:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was a teenager, I read the following definition in Ann Lander's column. I clipped it and saved it for 20 + years, now, and I am happy to finally have a reason to share it:
Love or Infatuation?
Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows - one day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is quiet and understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence, even when he/she is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him nearer. But near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you will admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end in intimacy.
Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away, you wonder if he/she is cheating. Sometimes you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure, and unthreatened. He/She feels that trust, and it makes him/her even more trustworthy.
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I think that Henry David Thoreau best captures the essence of a true and lasting love:
Two sturdy oaks I mean, which side by side,
Withstand the winter's storm,
And spite of wind and tide,
Grow up the meadow's pride,
For both are strong
Above they barely touch, but undermined
Down to their deepest source,
Admiring you shall find
Their roots are intertwined
Insep'rably.
So, you see, LOVE goes much deeper than fleshy desire--it is an inseperable bond with another that exists at our very core. That does not mean that love and lust do not go hand-in-hand. They do. A healthy relationship is built upon BOTH!
2006-07-30 04:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a multi-layered emotion that can be expressed in different ways towards different subjects, and is primarily concerned with the welfare of the other person or object of one's love. Interestingly, in Greek there are 5 different words for "love." Lust is a selfish physical desire for gratification, usually sexual. True love is guided by standards and principles, and gets better with time. Lust is uncontrolled and can never be truly satisfied. Love is all about giving. Lust is all about taking.
2006-08-05 06:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is greatly misunderstood. Love treats others as equal beings. Lust looks at things to make it his/her own for the pleasure.
People get married for sex and the result is children and family life. It is fulfilling the need of each other. Sex is the most sacred feeling in human body.
Marriage is a legal commitment to ensure that the children will have their mother and father.
2006-07-30 01:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by latterviews 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a good question dear. i too was confused before, but wen i was getting married, i saw the big difference between the two....who defines it, of course the two people involve in the relationship. though both would mean the same at a glance, they are totally two diffirent words...lust is simple sex, intercourse without any expectation of having a meaningful relationship with a partner. love or lovemaking on the other hand is also sexual intercourse, but, with the expectation of being together afterwards..be in a relationship with the partner. looking after each other or spending more time with each other not just for sex, but building their lives together too.
2006-07-30 00:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by mela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually both are needed for survival. Love is an emotion of the mind. Lust is an emotion of the body.
2006-07-30 03:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a respectful belonging between two people (unless its equanimity) which holds them as seperate dignified and yet together. Lust is ownership and possession and claim and desire and want. If you want healthy sexual relations between two people lust should be substituted for sesuality and passion. Lust creates jealousy and overpossession.
2006-07-30 00:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Krishna loves a significantly better guy's spouse. it is divine love. If that is going down in this society, it is unlawful affair. concepts pave way for gods. Krishna abducts rukmini. we are celebrating. If it really is occurring in this society, the mum and pa will *****. even if, there's a distinction. The rukmini love with krishna ended with marriage, while the krishna finished a sturdy element no longer married. the love between rukmini and krishna is a real love. the different is allure love.
2016-11-26 23:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by vaux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no boundaries. You can love anything on this earth without expecting any return from it. Whereas, lust is purely physical. It urges person to get more and more.
2006-08-06 21:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by rajiv s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋