The problem is as the days r nearing i am getting really nervous n have mood swings cos of it, eventhough i have been going around with my beau 4 the past 5 years how do i get this fear out of my system.help
2006-07-30 00:37:37 · 9 answers · asked by nikkitasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Congradulations honey
2006-07-30 00:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be stage fright? Could it be that so much planning and scheduling etc. has been done prior to this that you are simply just tired? Are you getting enough ME time? Since I really dont know any of the answers to my questions.. I would suggest you do this. First.... take a couple of hours and go to a local park or a big secluded field.. anywhere with some wide open spaces. Take a blanket. Spread the blanket down and make a list of all the pros about you and your boyfriend. After you had made your list.. lie back on the blanket and let your imagination take you to the pros on the list. Reminece about the times you and he have had. Let your mind wonder about the past and imagine the future together. This exercise should clear your mind somewhat and hopefully eliminate some stress.
Its important to always, always take some time for yourself. It helps clear the mind. It works for me.
Good Luck.
2006-07-30 00:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time away from your husband to be. Do not talk to him, do not email or text him, do not go to him in person. Cut off all communication and contact for a week or two weeks. See how you feel not having him. If he wasn't in your life this week or two is how it would be. You will feel not complete without him, I'm sure.
when the fears come back think about how much you love him and how much he completes you,and how you felt that week or two without him.
I'm sure if you spend time without him your fears will be over weighed by your longing to be with him.
GOOD LUCK sweetheart, and know that it is normal to have fears, and fear causes mood swings, however if these fears are overwhelming then you need to talk to someone including your husband to be
2006-07-30 00:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well been nervous is one thing and have fear is another. You have to define how your real feelings are because this commitment is forever. After you discover if this is fear because you are not sure or is just the emotions that grow inside of you that make you nervous then you go for it. But you should talk to him also and let him know how are you feel.
Good luck
2006-07-30 00:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by YO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wedding jitters and OMG it is so normal for you to feel this way. All brides seem to stress out about their wedding day. All brides want a perfect day and there is so much to consider. Catering/food, wedding gown/bridesmaid dresses, weather, function, music, invitations, and of course if you feel you have made the right choice.It might be a good idea for you to do a bit of meditating just to relax and keep you in control of your mood swings.
2006-07-30 01:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling nervous for the upcoming wedding is normal. Just make sure that you are marrying him because you love him and you know you are meant for each other.
2006-07-30 01:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by ellysee2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,theres nothing to worry at all.its absolutely normal for you to feel nervous before being married.even if you had to know him for last 20 years,its very common and normal to be nervous....it will be there untill the D day and will automatically vanish so dont be tensed just enjoy it,be positive that you are getting married to the one you loved!!
2006-07-30 00:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its totally natural! Congrads on the upcoming marrage and I hope all the best for you and your future family.
2006-07-30 00:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Medic Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations and happy marriage with lots of kids :)
Your feelings are natural, don't be afraid.Best wishes
2006-07-30 00:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋