His Previous wife is passed away , he has 1 son . Now,he wants me to go visit his mother in law because she is ill . I have been there couples of times and she doesn't like me . Now I feel so up set and mad because he always wants me to sacriface for anything . I want to go home to Indonesia , but I have to book ticket first , can't go NOW ! Im confsue and angry !!! :(
2006-07-30 00:26:38 · 20 answers · asked by Rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been talk to him many times how I feel and he still want me to go !
2006-07-30 00:36:14 · update #1
If she doesn't like you, then there's no reason for you to have to go. You will only be upsetting her.
2006-07-30 00:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by David B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's good that your husband wants you to go with him to see his former mother-in-law... but the finally decision to go should be left to you... Tell him the trip and visit there makes you uncomfortable and the way you are treated upsets you... Tell HIM to make a sacrifice for once by going alone for the visit... You 're really not confused, you know the way you feel and the way you get treated... So don't concentrate your feelings on anger... Just be blunt and straight forward with your answer... Let him know what you expect from him for a change...
2006-07-30 08:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you just have to live with the fact that your husband is just kind-hearted, and if it really annoys you to go there after all that's been said and done, you can talk to him about it and tell him how you really feel about the situation and how his ex-mother-in-law is treating you. You are one brave person to do such a thing, but you've done it before so there is no reason for you not to do it again. Just be patient and just take it all in stride my friend. Everything has a purpose.
2006-07-30 07:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jetty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear you really are tuck in the middle here!....you could always book your tickets to visit home, that way you are both ding what you wish...go and visit your family, they maybe need you too..as his ex-mother-in-law needs him at the moment!
They do say absence makes the heart grow fonder...maybe it will make him stop and think what he is missing.. if you are in Indonesia and he is elsewhere!..
Whatever you decide to do about this....I wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-30 09:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by SUI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesnt like you because you "replaced" her daughter. And every time you visit her, you remind her of her daughter, who she obviously cant have because she passed away. Its likely to be a case of she missing her badly and taking it out on you. I suggest, you love her even more! I know it sounds silly. But she misses her daughter so badly she sees you as an enemy. The more you love her, she will slowly realise that you are not actually her enemy and hopefully she will start loving you as her daughter. And as shes ill, that contributing hugely to why she dislikes. The emotions can get messed up when a persons ill. So love love and love her even more!! Wish you all the best :)
2006-07-30 08:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by CSI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, All I have to say is if you love your husband unconditionally you would support him on his decision wether it is right or wrong... As wives we have to support our men as they have to support us. He has a son with his deceased wife so her mother is the childs grandmother.. You dont what to have the child think you are not a nice person and only think about yourself..You have to open your heart sweety. Okay the mother doesnt like you. That is something she has to deal with But you be the stronger and better woman and suck in your emotions and stand by your man. It will be better for everyone in the long run... Trust me I know .. Experiance.. And I am still happily married and my son sees his stepfather as his daddy... His father is deceased. And my husband took him under his wing as his own son... Bless Him Good Luck Sweety
2006-07-30 07:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is all about supporting each other.
I am sure you have asked him to do things that he did not really want to do but did so because he loves you. IF it is always you that sacrifices everything thats different - in that instance I think you need to examine your relationship.
I hope it all works out for you - Take care & good luck
2006-07-30 07:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that she does not like me an i dont feel comfortable going there if you want to go see her go but say politely im not going
2006-07-30 07:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by featherman_65018 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a grip and accept that things like that just dont happen...
2006-07-30 07:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by sco_jam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humour him, tell him his mother in law asked for him and she wished that he is by her side
2006-07-30 07:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋