I feel completely disconnected from them. What should I do?
2006-07-30 00:23:28 · 9 answers · asked by mx3baby 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you Country Girl. I have done all of those that you have suggested. =)
2006-07-30 00:27:50 · update #1
Thank you everyone for your answers EXCEPT Son of a Brunhidle. I reported him.
2006-07-30 00:34:09 · update #2
I've also disconnected from my in-laws... it happened 6 months ago and I am not ready to let it go.
Contact me, I'd like to talk to you.
2006-07-30 12:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by bonjovifan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you did to disconnect in the first place if it was something painful you may never be close to them and if it was something small give them some time they will come around just don't force yourself on them when you know they are angry if all fail move to another state that way when they see there son they will be more than happy to see you.
2006-07-30 07:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by missey8743 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why you feel that way? Maybe your husband can offer some insight, or perhaps it's time for a frank discussion with the most approachable in-law. Ask them if you've offended them in some way. Without knowing the specific problem, its difficult to give specific advice.
2006-07-30 23:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have done everything you could but still there is disharmony between you. Is it you mistake. have you tried to analyse why this happened? You can clap with two hands not with one. you might have said or done something for which they are pissed off with you. Just do one thing catch the bull by the horns. ask them outright what the problem is and say you are sorry if you have offended them in any way intentionally or unintentionally. You lose nothing in saying sorry except your bloated ego does not permit you to do so. sorry thanQ excuse me are all magic words. try them. try to bridge the gap yourself. no use asking strangers like us to give you advice cos we dont know what you are or your inlaws are like.
2006-07-30 07:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them over for dinner.I'd tell them you want to start doing things together as a family.Family gatherings or have a picnic.Start with the mom and tell her you want to go shopping would you like to come.Then buy her a nice gift as a peace offering in other words suck up.A nice blouse would be nice.Good luck My mother and law and I are so close he can't stand it lol.He says we are like twins.
2006-07-30 07:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and your husband can lead a sucsessful life without your in laws support, then move out of that place, the far you will be from your mom in law, the better your relations will be, meet her just once in a week, discuss your children, i.e her grandchildren, and tell her you are hectic sch. because you are learning to live like she does. she will be happy, and your relations will be better, this is what i did, when my wife and mom used to fight on pitty small things, now everything is ok. and my mom now never calls me, she infact has more faith on my wife than me
2006-07-30 07:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by jp shahani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why you feel disconnected in the first place.
2006-07-30 07:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start slow. Go over there and visit them and also invite them to you and your husband's place. Just don't try too hard. Be yourself and be open to their point of view and try to start some traditions- family events together. Good luck.
2006-07-30 07:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,start being friendly....share things and confide in them....make them feel important by asking help....offer help when they need some.....
2006-07-30 07:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋