2006-07-30 00:21:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
try and do things for yourself that you enjoy. it is not easy, but you will build your self confidence back up and find out more about yourself this way. when we humans have a loss of the heart like a break up it is like part of ourselves that we loose also. This is because people while they are in a relationship forget that they are a separate person emotionally and forget to be/do things for themselves. they are only doing things to build the relationship. building a relationship is good, but we tend to forget about maintaining and continuing to build who we are personally and it goes to the wayside.
so try something new like a photography class or an exercise class or try a new book you didn't think you would read. find out more about yourself and have courage about it. good luck.
blessed be
2006-07-30 00:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is not so simple.
There are many variables to consider in determining the correct answer. Depending on an individuals psychological make up, there could be any number of ways to help you move on. Things like how long you were together, weather or not you were emotionally dependent, or sexually active. CMF is partly right, time dose play a big role in healing broken hearts or gaining the confidence you need to start dating again. It's important to ask yourself why you think you need to be in a relationship. After you really do some serious soul searching to determine why, be open minded about your findings and face them head on. By knowing oneself, and being your own best friend first, you'll be better equipped in making relationship choices. Relationships don't just happen, they require nurturing and balance in compromises. Try being responsible in something else first to test your ability to move on. Building lasting relationships takes work. I think many people don't realize if they can't be a friend to themselves first, they won't truly be able to build any new relationships. It's important to be honest with yourself first. Do you like who you are? Do you take care of your self, and treat yourself well? or do you drink, smoke, and eat poor foods? Do you like to keep yourself organized? Is your Work, play, and spiritual time balanced?
If you don't like you, what makes you think anyone else will? Sure there will be friends who like you for other things rather than who you really are. Only you have the ability to see the real you. It's not like we are all clairvoyant or something like that. Other people can't read your mind. Because of this, projecting who you really are is entirely up to you. If someone doesn't like you, do you beat yourself up? or can you be comfortable and confidant in the real you?
When you are, you'll be ready.
2006-07-30 07:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by wernerslave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes more time to recover of being a broken hearted! Cry it out to make your feelings ease, avoid all the things that reminds your ex, focus with works and friends,talk with your family and friends and ask some advises from them,then if you feel that you can live without him,go for dates and entertain suitors or go to a new relationship(never use someone)! At first you think you would die or totally devastated but soon you will realized that you deserved a lot ahead!Good luck!Have a good time!
2006-07-30 07:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad that someone who didn't love you enough to stick around...didn't. This now opens up the door for new possibilities for you. It can be a reflective, exciting time for you when you see it this way. This is your chance to get it together and move onto something much better for yourself. I know it cheers me to think how much better off you will be. Take this time to do nice things for yourself...things you always wanted to do, but couldn't. Learn from the experience...and get it right next time. God Bless.
2006-07-30 07:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy.
Fill UR days with things 2 do 2 divert UR mind.
Find a new GF/BF asap, some call it on the Rebound but as long as U know UR limitations it can take UR mind of all UR woes.
2006-07-30 07:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say people have diffetent ways to move on.
Some people will just go out and get blind drunk.
Some people will jut hop into open relationships for a while to
get it out of there system.
Some people will hide themselfs from the world.
Some people will be postive and throw themselfs into doing new things and meeting new people.
2006-07-30 07:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Hex Vision 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes one step, then you can decide whether or not to do something about it or move back where you were, it really is up to you. My advice is weigh the situation and really ask yourself, Is it worth fighting for?
2006-07-30 07:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jetty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue working, exercise and friends support, move on as per normal. You will definitely go through it.
2006-07-30 07:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u cant do anything to arrange the situation, u should start going out with some friends and leave sometime for ur self to think and sort everything out
2006-07-30 07:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by scartissue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dispose everything that will remind of him (pic, his fone #, email addy, clothes, gifts).. there's no need 2 throw away gfts coz it serves as remembrance of ur gud tyms 2gether.. just keep it somewhere..
never lock urself in ur room
call ur closest gfs & hang out
open up 2 ur family & release ur sorrow
2006-07-30 07:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋