Why do guys have to be the one to ask a girl out?
Why can’t girls take constructive criticism?
2006-07-29 23:58:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Girls don't love guys who are jerks just because of the fact that the guy is a jerk. They fall in love with a guy and THEN find out he's a jerk. By then, it's 'too late'; they're already in love and it's not so easy for some girls to fall out of love.
Guys don't have to be the one to ask a girl out. It's just that's an old habit from way back and it's hard for people to change. 200 years from now our culture might be used to the fact that either a guy or girl can be the first one to ask the other out. So you'll have to hope for an enlightened girl to take the first step and ask you out.
'Why can't girls take constructive criticism?' is not a valid statement or a valid question. It's more of a generalization. There are lots of guys who can't take constructive criticism either. It would be a better question if you had asked 'Why do some people have such a hard time accepting contructive critism? And that is better answered by someone who has studied psychology since it is more of a personality issue.
Thx
2006-07-30 00:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by PonderinStuff 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They love jerks because they take it like a challenge. Good guys are to easy, it's like they want to teach the jerk something and a good guy is just not for her. Or maybe they don't want to love a smarter, more educated, better guy, so that she is the best in the couple.
I ask myself this question every time I walk on the street and see a couple, I keep asking :"what does she see in him? what?" and I say to myself either I'm blind or I have to be a woman to understand. Jerks go out with smart, funny, beautiful girls, and good, responsible, hard working guys have to be with the rest.
"Why do guys have to ask a girl out?" is the question every guy in the world has been asking himself since the dawn of time. Women have very little self esteem which makes them take the worst possible scenario (they think you'll laugh and say no way).
They can't take constructive criticism because they are more sensible and have little self esteem, they tend to take everything serious, which is a real turn off.
2006-07-30 09:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Faust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to love a jerk. I have NO idea why. He's AWFUL!
I have taken the initiative to ask a guy out. It's cool.
Yes we can take constructive criticism, but men do not know how to constructively criticize.
2006-07-30 07:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by mx3baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerks are a challenge, girls love a challenge.
That doesn't hold true so much any more. A guy asking the girl out, use to be the proper thing to do.
Some girls take it pretty well, if presented in the right way.
2006-07-30 07:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For men and women both, it is difficult to understand why the opposite gender prefers "that sort" of members of our own gender rather than choosing individuals more like ourselves.
If a few people have problems accepting one's "constructive criticisms", it's just human nature that some people can't take criticism. If MOST people (or most people of a particular group) have problem accepting one's criticisms, then the problem is the way YOU are presenting those criticisms.
2006-07-30 07:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls go to bars and encounter jerks. Jerks go up to them, descent men are quiet. Women often think that all men are jerks, therefore.
Many women ask men out now.
Many women have low self esteem, it is practically an epidemic. So they hate all criticism, taking it personally even when well meant. Be careful with it.
Women know that most men can't take criticism. If you can, you will stand out.
2006-07-30 07:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls surround themselves with friends, usually girls, who are if anything complimentary. They don't tell each other bad things they are there to boost each others confidence and egos.
So when you start dating and the guys don't get that little rule and make such comments most girls are devastated and don't know how to handle such critiques.
I blame society and parents who let their little girls be "the little princess" who can do no wrong.
As far as guys having to be the ones to ask girls out, again society. A straightforward girl is usually labeled as a skank. A girl who sleeps around a lot, especially when they are high school age. I guess it just carries over to adulthood, I see girls that still act that way.
If they were smart they would pull their heads out of their butts and realize that guys aren't a big mystery and many don't like the demure act one bit.
2006-07-30 07:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Guided 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's three questions...
1. what is your definition of a jerk? Mine is a guy who thinks he's it and a bit and wants to be the centre of attention. And I don't love guys like that.
2. guys can wait for the girl to ask them out, but they may miss out in the mean time.
3. I can take constructive criticism.
2006-07-30 07:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its a puzzle why girls love jerks...but you can probably find the missing piece of the puzzle if you know the answer to the question "Why guys dig girls with big boobs?"
Guys should definitely be the one to take the first step since they are always the one to initiate e first kiss as well!!
It's not that girls can't take constructive criticism....we can..but not from you..coz we just want to be the best in your eyes!! It's similiar to guys' ego thingy...Can you bear it if we praise your best bud's six packs or football skills in front of you?
2006-07-30 07:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by ferline13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people in general (including both guys and girls) are dumb and don't know what they like or want; they only think they know and are very often wrong as they find out when it is too late.
2006-07-30 07:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kitkat Bar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋