OK, to the people who quote the bible all the time with the Genesis versus, that was the Old Testament, so please do not post those to fear someone to stay an unhealthy relationship. Read the New Testament, where it does state divorce is acceptable when a partner has cheated. So please stop with the Genesis, that's the whole reason the New Testament was written. Jesus came so our sins could be forgiven and if we are in a marriage where a partner cheats it is not wrong to leave. Please people, even Jesus didn't think cheating was OK as this is the ONLY reason that is justified for divorce in the New Testament. If Jesus didn't even think we should put up why do so many people here seem to think they do?
2006-07-29 23:39:53 · 6 answers · asked by lilos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. I feel your pain. The reason so many people encourage reconcilation and forgiveness is because just like Christ is married to the church (presented as a WHORE in Hosea) He does advise forgiveness and reconcilation. He permits divorce in the case of adultery, He does not endorse it! Remember the vow, "for better or for worse." That is what that was all about. The worst that could happen. Be healed!
2006-07-29 23:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOODNESS, JESUS DIDN'T THINK CHEATING IS OK,, OF COURSE NOT,,
you know this is the thing,, every situation is different, every couple has to live with the decision they make,
If a person is a lying cheating dirt bag, and this is not a new behavior, then by all means, even give them some lashes,,,
If a person made a choice to do this, and is seriously sorry, and ask for forgiveness, then it is up to the person who has been betrayed, it is not cut and dry,
Sometimes there is a lot more at stake, family, children, finances, love,
If a couple can and want to salvage the relationshp, and are willing to forgive, this is a good thing,,
it can make the bond stronger, set an example for those involved, learning to forgive, really forgive, is a gift to yourself not just the person in question,
you seem to plead your case, and with Jesus on your side, and you are correct,
and guess what,? JESUS, is also on the other persons side, because he does believe in forgiveness,
remeber the harlett, he did not condone prostitution, but he was kind, forgiving and gave her good advice, along with love and hope,
It hurts like hell to be cheated on,, what also hurts is when the offender does not really think it is a big deal and just wants to dismiss it, thus, they do not care about the damage to ones marriage, or the feelings of the people they hurt,, then i would not eagerly run to the forgiveness line,
On the other hand, if a person just did something out of fear, depression anger, or whatever and is sincerely sorry, for the pain, theyh did cause, and they humbly turn to the one offended and ask for forgiveness, and the fact that their heart is broken and ashamed, well, if i were in love, of course i would forgive, this does not mean that everything will be the same as before, trust and new guidlines must be practiced, with all of this energy, and all of the feelings, it might be a powerful thing to overcome and grow stronger in love, in which you were commited to in the beginning,,
SO if you wont forgive their cheating spouse, just be glad that they aren't yours, and let them live lwith thier dicision
i do know you mean well, and i wish you well, nomatter how you think,
2006-07-30 06:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is justified. Maybe people love their spouse so much, that they try and forgive them in order to continue on the journey they began together. If the cheating spouse shows true sincerity in their mistake, and the spouse of them, is compassionate enough to forgive them of this, I don't see why there would be an argument concerning this subject.
Of course, if you have a repeat offender, I see no other way, it is a blatant show of disrespect.
2006-07-30 06:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Carioca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos there are alot of things that u need to understand y did it happen.it can be on of ur own mistakes that u did not spend time enough for your spouse or did not give proper attention or it can be pure lack of sex.It can also be a single moment of lust in which your spouse got carried away.Even if 10% of the above is true,you gotta give ur spouse benefit of doubt cos it can even be u 2morrow in ur spouse's place as monogamy is not something which is a natural tendency for human beings unless they are fully satisfied in all senses
2006-07-30 06:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by chooseme_only 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I find it completely mad. It is a dreadful indictment on our Society that people have such low self esteem they will accept someone in their life who can lie and be unfaithful to them.
Just how weird do you have to be to lie in bed alongside someone who didn't love you enough not to make love with someone else?! There is no love without trust and if my husband was ever mad enough to be unfaithful to me, whilst I broke my heart I would be packing my bags.
2006-07-30 12:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it is easier to put your two cents in when it doesn't involve you. People pretend their marriages are invulnerable to adultery.
2006-07-30 06:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋