I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. In that time our relationship has been great and really strong. We have been living together for 2 years A few days ago she was out with myself and a friend. She wanted to stay out for a little longer, which I didn't have a problem with. She didn't come home that night. She had never done that before and I feared she had cheated on me, but I trusted her and let her explain herself. When I came home after work she told me she had slept with another guy. I was gutted and just didn't know what to do. She was upset too, crying and telling me how much she wished it hadn't happened. How she didn't want to lose the most special thing in her life, which was me.After a couple of days away I have calmed down a little. I just don't know if I can love her again. I want to hear from anyone that has had a girlfriend cheat on them and been able to continue the relationship.Can it work?If she did make a mistake how can she prove her love for me
2006-07-29 23:15:40 · 7 answers · asked by Unsure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Things never go back to being the same.
Your pain is (and will) affect your behaviour and things may go downhill quickly from there.
For me, if it were due to alcohol it might be a bit easier to forgive, but knowing that she planned to do it by sending you home early. That's too far.
2006-07-29 23:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a male just so that you know. I thought I would help a little. I was with the same guy for over 20 years, ended up marrying him and he cheated all along. I was blind...it finally hit me one day and I we got into it. He abandoned my kids and I. The best thing that ever happened by the way. I then met this wonderful man and he told me this had happened to him. His gf had gotten pregnant by this other guy and he left. He said he lost the trust in her and just could not stay with her knowing he could not trust her. They remained good friends but that was all. He passed away and I now am in another relationship. This man says the same. My opinion is that once a cheater always a cheater. I wish the best for you. Good Luck!
2006-07-30 06:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this shakes your trust. Having been in this postion before with my now husband. It is hard, and you really have to look in yourself and find if you can forgive and forget or not. The way she can "prove" her love for you is to slowly build trust with you again. It is not an easy thing to do. Believe me i know. If you love her the way you say you do and she is otherwise a great person, I say try to forgive and forget.
2006-07-30 06:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by gothgirl13131 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a boyfriend do that to me, and the person that i am, no i could'nt carry on with this person, the trust for me died the day i found out and i could never be the same with him again,i guess its up to how deeply this has effected you and how you feel it will in the future, but my moto is once a cheater always a cheater, so be wise in your decision, i would leave her and start again
2006-07-30 06:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by pebblesandkara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat now cheat later, I've never cheated on a guy. You can't get that back that innocence. They will just do it again later.
Say goodbye now or hurt more later.
Proving her love would mean not cheating on you. It's too late move on.
2006-07-30 06:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by double v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive her it will be worth it the reason ur asking this question is bec u still love her she was honest enough to tell u so give her a chance u have lived with her for 2 yrs no one knows her better than u give ur relationship one more chance
2006-07-30 06:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to?
2006-07-30 06:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋