we get married for past 15years. with 4 kids. for past 1 year she was very closed to her friend, whom i really dont like. but for her he is very special and respected person. After some argument she start to contact him secretly.Recently i found them at a shopping complex walk together after lunch. Due to uncontrolable anger i scold him, push him and warn him to get away from her.
And i call his wife and inform her what happen and i begged her to save my family. That night the guy call me and appologise to me and he said, his only a good friend of my wife and no more than that. I know that they are only friends but i very jealous to see my wife very close to him. Now my wife not very close to me. She say, her happiness only with him and not with me. She want his friendship more than mine. She willing to divorce me. And she dont want me anymore. But i need her. my life is empty without her. My life is meaningless without her. Please help me to get back to her. i want my happy family.
2006-07-29 22:46:13 · 11 answers · asked by Siva . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately,you have accused, threatened, embarrassed and humiliated your wife. She would probably have enjoyed talking to you if you had made yourself available to her.Husbands often take their wives and their needs for granted.
You need to get that jealousy issue under control if you want to have a prayer of getting her back.
2006-07-29 23:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM IN THE SAME BOAT 14 YEARS,3 KIDS WIFE IS RUNNING AROUND WITH A PERSONAL TRAINER,WHO I CONFRONTED JUST LIKE YOU.YOU HAVE TO BE TOUGH ,NO BEGGING NO GROVELLING GIVE HER SPACE THE MORE YOU PUSH THE HARDER SHE WILL RUN .IF YOU CAN MOOVE OUT STAY POSITIVE TELL HER YOU ARE TAKING THE KIDS EVERY SECOND WEEKEND MAKE HER REALIZE WHAT SHE WILL BE LOOSING RECORD EVERYTHING IN ADAIRY .GO TO COUNCILLING BUT GET A GOOD REFERAL FIRST PRETEND YOU ARE HAVING A GOOD TIME DONT LET HER SEE YOU DEPRESSED DONT TELL ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS ONLY THE COUNCILLER BE THERE FOR THE KIDS DONT TALK TO THEM ABOUT THIS JUST LOVE THEM MORE THAN EVER SPOIL THEM ALITTLE TAKE THEM ON A BREAK SOMEWHERE DONT LET ANGER AND RESENTMENT GET TO YOU FOR MORE HELP EMAIL ME AT red.hot.rob@hotmail.com sorry about the stupid email adress that was my daughtres idea keep your chin high
2006-07-30 06:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that your wife has already decided to leave you but she was waiting for an excuse and you gave to her by doing what you did which is in my opinion the right thing . Think a women of 4 children in 15 years of marriage doesn't prefer ( a friendship ) to her family unless ............!!!!
2006-07-30 07:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by so fragile !! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you sit down and tell her this, exactly? Did you ask her if she wants a divorce?
If she shows no emotion when you ask her this, then it is too late. (It sounds too late to me in any case.) It is obvious that she is already involved with her "friend". Your jealousy could only seal the end of your relationship with her.
Now you have to start thinking about what is BEST for the kids. That doesn't mean fighting over them either.
2006-07-30 05:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, looks like they are way more than friends. How does the guys wife feel about their friendship? Were they friends before you got married? You don't leave you spouse over a "friend". If he is married she can't have him anyways.
2006-07-30 05:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you and your children. Your wife, even though you love her, is a very selfish person who seems to care very little for your emotions. You can't be with someone who does not want you. Move on, and take your children with you.
2006-07-30 06:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve someone that wants to be with you.Don't waste your life trying to make her Love you.If she was worth it,she would care how you feel.My life was torn apart by a lying selfish woman,but now that I'm free from her I'm much happier & so are my kids.
2006-07-30 05:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you're screwed. yep she had a change of heart. She gave her heart to him already. You watch if things don't work out between her and him she will move on to someone else. Anybody but you. Move on with your life man. Life is suck sometimes.
2006-07-30 05:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your wife wants a relationship with this man and if she does than there is nothing you can really do.
2006-07-30 07:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you desreve someone better you didi your best.but if you insist talk to her and explain whats in your mind and what you feel tell her you want to save your family.
2006-07-30 05:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by Cecille D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋