I met him almost a year ago, he was about to deploy to Iraq. We talked and he said didn't want to get serious because of his deployment. Ok, no problem. When he left, he called from the tarmac to say good-bye, and he told me he would call when he arrived in Iraq. He called. I kept my feeelings in perspective. He calls when he can. I have sent him a few things. The last box i sent him a journal of letters I wrote to him when I didn't hear from him. He emailed me to tell he got the box (he never emails me). Anyway, he told me I was pretty, smart, deep, and great in bed. He then proceeded to ask me if I could cook. This is the part that threw me : he said if he wasn't so fickle he would be shalking me. At first I didn't take it seriously, but unpredictable and stalking in the same sentence...I don't know.
2006-07-29 21:25:51 · 10 answers · asked by jhaiop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Perhaps he just got a little carried away in what he was saying...I dont think he really meant it quite that way. After all you must remember that you were quite taken with him before he left right?
If you like him enough to sleep with him, it sounds as though he likes you more than a little bit...what have you said in your letters? Did you make him think you were waiting still for him? If he were here...would you go out with him still??? I can tell you that email time is very limited where he is and I can also tell you that he is in a very stressful situation, give him the support that you can if you would...but only if you intend to follow through when he returns...
Lying to him would not serve anyone, but to continue to talk to him in the same way you have may let you find out more about him and whether or not you would like to continue to see him
later...good luck
2006-07-29 21:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Walter J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let one sentence, that could be taken entirely as a joke, ruin something with potential. That said, be careful. The pressures of being in Iraq are extreme. He barely knows which way is up. He probably thinks he's developing feelings for you, but doesn't want anything serious because he's scared. Of the situation, and of being in a war. You won't really know if you two have anything meaningful until he's back in the states. Keep up the relationship as it is now, but don't try to progress more yet.
2006-07-29 21:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, listen...I supported a guy who went to Iraq for the entire year. And I probably suck about 2 grand on this guy. This guy told me he was using me for my packages. He was moody and nasty to me when he was having a hard time (in other words, he took out his anger on me), he NEVER once called me. He was a complete loser and a total waste of time, energy, feelings and emotions. THIS GUY told me he wanted to marry me and be a father to my daughter. Then three months later, he said he didn't mean it.
Sweetie, these guys are not all there. They are in a very difficult situation and are not able to really think clearly.
My advice...and I so wish you would listen to me because I went through SO MUCH pain and sorrow over this man...
MOVE ON! Don't talk to him anymore. I know it's hard. YOu think he needs you. But you really don't understand how terrible this can get. If you need to talk about it further, just IM me at lindakb24. This is a very serious situation and I know how badly damaged I was. Just please...I am begging you...move on.
2006-07-29 21:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by lindakb24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do much about it now anyway so wait until he gets back. There are a lot of emotions and loneliness involved in being so far away from home for so long so he won't even be able to figure out whats really up until he's been home for a while. He's in an unstable situation and unstable condition I wouldn't take anything too seriously.
2006-07-29 21:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... sounds like you're not comfortable with this and feel uneasy. I say follow your concience/instincts, and to me they appear to be warning you of impending problems.
I've never had a guy ask me such a strange question like that and they say what this guy said. So weird.
You don't know him very well, anyway, so if I were you I'd just stop writing him. You can explain to him why but then you're bound to get a letter back from him explaining to you why he did it and try to make you feel good about it again. Follow your first impressions. I wish I had..... I didn't and got myself into lots of painful circumstances.
2006-07-29 21:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't freak out, Think about what he's going through. His mind has got to be a little preoccupied when it comes to relating to civilian life.
2006-07-29 21:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by theenormusnorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, art is art, isn't it? Still, on the other hand, water is water! And east is east and west is west and if you take cranberries and stew them like applesauce they taste much more like prunes than rhubarb does. Now, uh... Now you tell me what you know.
2006-07-29 21:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not getting what you are trying to say here....but lera does make a very good point.
2006-07-29 21:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Zara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM not sure if i want some one stalking me.THATS scary words.
2006-07-29 21:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmm food
2006-07-29 21:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋