Confused Teen?

Question

I'm 13, & my uncle molested me when i was 4 till 8. My uncle is not much older than me. He's now 20. So when he was molesting me, he was 11 and i was 4. For those 4 years he molested me when ever he could. At first i wouldn't resit, but as i got older i thought we might get caught and refused to do anything. Now i am 13, and i feel as though i want my uncle to offer me sex. Everyone tells me i'm really pretty, but i dont like kids my age. I have developed early, and i dont like guys my age cause i know thay only want one thing. With my uncle, i know that he has liked me from the start. I sometimes flirt with him to see if he does anything. And when he does, he asks me if i want to go with him to the room, but when that happens, i get scared and say no. I want to have sex with him, but i dont want to get caught cause we'll both get in big trouble. I love him, what should i do?

To questioning
I know i am someone special, i am happy with my life. I know people like me, but i dont want anyone else. I want my uncle

To Katie,
My family (mum and 2 brothers) moved to the US when i was 4. And we lived with my grandma, and 2 of my uncles. My mom did not know what was happening, so why should she care if i was with my uncle. There were alot of times when i was younger that my mother and grandma would go out and would leave my uncle babysitting me and my brothers. We stayed there for 3 years and then we moved into our own house. Then he kept molesting me for another year and then he stopped, i dont know why.

To Sis,
My uncle does have a girlfriend. But i have only meet 1 off them, cause he took one to my house one time and i got REALLY jelous and went to my room and cried. He came in and talk to me, and i told him i didn't like her so they left and i have never met another one. But i know he has girlfriends.

My uncle does not come to me for sex. I want him, and i try to get him to do it but unless i say something or do something he will not do anything. I know this because, he has not tried to do anything since i was 8. We have ben left alone alot of times, and he has not tried anything. I have really wanted him to do something but i have been to scared to ask.

Answer 1

you should go to a therapist. you only think you love your uncle because of his perveted interest in you when you were younger. he has done a very serious thing and this is affecting you by making you think that youre not worth anything and noone likes you. you need to talk this over with somoeone. and good luck i hope you figure this thing out.

Answer 2

Okay honey, the first thing you need to realize is what your uncle is doing to you, is wrong. okay? It is not your fault, but it is wrong. This started at a very young age, so you have been brainwashed into thinking that this is okay. It is not okay. You need to stand up to your uncle and tell him NO! Then you need to go to your parents or another adult you trust, and tell them what has happened. I chose to tell a school counselor, then my brother. I developed early too, and I hated all of the guys at my school too, but just because you develop early and don't like any boys around you, doesn't mean that you should be flirting with your uncle. It is wrong to flirt with your uncle. You have got to stop doing that right now! You do not want to encourage this behavior. You and your uncle are relatives. It is illegal to have sex with a relative. If something happened and you got pregnant, your baby would have very bad problems and end up dying. And you too would end up dying of birthing complications. Do you want to die because of him? It is okay to love your uncle as an uncle, but sweetie, you can NOT love him as anything more. You 2 would never be able to be together. And if you guys get caught, he will be in more than just "big trouble." If you like your uncle molesting you because it feels good, that is normal. It feels good to have someone touching you. But there is a time and a place and for that. And also a person. But 13 is not the time and in a room with your uncle is not the place, and he is not the person. Now, If you like what your uncle is doing to you, because you like your uncle, then I can't help you. All I can do is say tell your parents, and get into therapy. Best of luck, and God bless.

Answer 3

Don't be under the impression that ur uncle loves u or somethin. He just want's to satisfy his hunger of sex and lust. I know when people tell u , not to do it with ur uncle , u don't listen, but that's the truth ur uncle is just satisfying himself.He will end up marrying another girl n u will then realize that.Also 13 is too early kid. 7 year age gap is not big, but when ur so young don't fall for guys more than 15-16. Only after ur 20 or somethin a 7 yr gap is not big, but right now go do find some guy ur age , 16 at the most

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say that because your uncle sexually molested you that you have developed some psychological problems in the area of sex. You need to have counseling so that you can sexually mature properly and have a normal sexual and married life. It is very important for you to never have sex with your uncle again. Actually, you should report your uncle to your parents and to the police so that he can get the help he needs so that he does not molest other little girls.

It is not good for you to live or be in the same house as your uncle
as the temptation is too great there for you and he to have sex again.

I hope you take this advice to tell your parents because I care very much about you, even though I have never met you. We are brother and sister under God and He is our father. Please get help for this problem so that you can have a normal married life with a good husband and and as many children as you desire.

Answer 5

Why would you want a sexual relationship with your uncle, not only is it wrong, this is the person who robbed you of your childhood.you are 13,be 13, not 13 going on 25.Please don't try to grow up to fast embrace being a kid while you can, because it really won't be that long before you have to play grownups for real, and l'm tellin you playing grownups for real isn't always that great,and somtimes it isn't that easy, and please think about what would happen if your parents found out, and l am pretty sure that the consequences won't be very good if they do,or is it that you want them to find out?If this is the case it's still not a good idea. take care of youself.,and don't do anything daft.

Answer 6

If you are scared, you shouldn't do it. Only when you are comfortable. This is illegal, but if you love him then nothing I say to make you stop, will actually make you stop so I have to treat this like a relationship. Honey, your uncle is still not old enough to want MORE than that one thing. So my advice is, don't do it if you're scared, worried, or have any doubts at all in your mind.

Please make the right choice. Listen to both your head and your heart.... love electricarizona

Answer 7

U have a problem.But u really need to know that incest is not good no matta who the person is.U should take the time to find a person who is ur age but really ur mind should not even be on havn sex cuz u r sooo young.Love urself more. Ur uncle needs to get caught becuz incest is not rite n it will lead to sins.Please get help.

Answer 8

This is wrong! Having sex with a relative is never ok. If you dont want to get him in trouble go find therapy and dont tell them who he is but get help please. Your uncle wants the same thing all the guys your age want. I would suggest you encourage your uncle to seek some help and a girl his own age.

Answer 9

I wish I have a niece like you. Just kidding. I'm not so sure I should give you tips on how not to get caught.

edit - a 4 year old and an 11 yr old? I don't think your uncle likes you more than kids your age. Please listen to the others, but just in case you don't, use protection.

Answer 10

Get counselling! NOW! You have been terribly screwed up and need some help to figure all this out but definitely don't have sex with your uncle or anyone else for that matter!