I quit my job to go to school full-time. My husband & I have four children, 7, 9, 11 & 13. My husband works 40-60 hours a week average. The kids do chores. I keep the house fairly clean, make all the meals, mow the lawn, and take out the garbage. My husband thinks because he is the "bread-winner" he shouldn't have to do anything after coming home from work except play video games or go to the movies. I can't seem to get him to pick up after himself at all. All I'm asking is for him to do the little things, like wipe off the sink after he shaves, put his dirty dishes in the sink, pick-up his undies after taking a shower, etc... Am I asking too much because I don't work. He will go to the store or run other errands, but nothing around the house. Between cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids and studying for school I think I pull my weight. Do you agree or disagree?
2006-07-29 19:52:09 · 5 answers · asked by Feeling Froggy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Family is Priority One. Career is Priority Two. One works in order to support Priority One. So if your husband spends 40-60 hours a week on Priority Two and little other time with Priority One, he has his priorities mixed up. Taking the family to a movie is OK. Being by himself often at the movies and playing video games all the time is not Family Time and is not OK for a father.
You should be gentle and gradual. Suggest a weekly Family Games Night and play various board and card games (with the TV and Computer off)
I would not worry about giving him chores for now.
2006-07-29 20:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Your family and married life seems very nice, please worship it.
As long as expectations are concern will never end. Your hubby never hate to help you but he actually is not habitual. Bread winning is also not an easy task but most important one. You can try to ask him to help a little.....(pls pls pls ....like this not to order)
feel proud of urself and you family.....always thank to great lord to giving you all happiness in your life. For your information we are also the same family (two boys only....15 17). Wish you all the happiness in your life.
2006-07-29 20:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by madan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not asking to much...although he works you have kids to raise and take care of 4 is enough no need to add another expessially because he's the father of the 4 children and should also have responsibilies even tho he works?
sorry if im not much help
2006-07-29 20:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he works more than 50 hours leave him alone but less than he should help out a little, very little.
2006-07-29 20:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tha Pimp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job and take classes at night. he can too. you'd both be getting ahead and be forced to share the load.
2006-07-29 19:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋