Im getting married and im 19.....is that 2 young?
2006-07-29 19:47:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you feel you're ready... then it's not too young... congrats!
2006-07-29 19:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Brownie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number and everybody matures at different rates so of course I couldn't say for certain in your case. Not to rain on your parade, but I tend to think 19 is too young for most people to get married. Shoot, you just got out of high school not long ago! Are you going to go to college? Despite all good intentions, it is soooo much harder to get an education if you're also juggling a new marriage and possibly a job. People change so much in the span of years between 19 and 25. Maybe the two of you will grow together, but it's hard to say because you're just so darned young. What you value in a life mate at 19 could be completely different when you have little more life experience under your belt. As I said, everyone is different. The fact that you're asking tells me you have concerns as well. If you have doubts, please hold off. What's the hurry?
2006-07-30 03:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Leah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends...do you and your fiancee' have a plan set out for your life? Or are you getting marriaed becasue it sounds so so romantic? If you don't have a plan mapped out and have fully discussed it with your finacee' then you're not ready for marriage. Regardless if you love each other or not ...without a plan the chances of you making a good marriage is poor at any age.
WHy is it that you want to get married. You're young and have many things in life you want to experience. It was okay to get married int he old days...but now you're gonna change many times before you settle down on just who you are. Why bring a husband (and eventually kids) into this? Can you honestly say that for the next 60 years this is the man you want to come home to each and every day? Is he ready to do the same..
Get a life plan and have your financee do the same. Then compare and see if it matches.
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Good luck
2006-07-30 02:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that, look deep inside your self and ask am I ready for this? do i want to settle down? have i done the things i want to do in life? Are you having second thoughts? Is this your first love? Don't jump into something until your sure. You can still love someone and get to know them better before you marry.Your only love you should experience life be young an enjoy your freedom no need to rush. What ever decison you make Good luck. We all make mistakes in life and grow from them life is a learning experience. I was 18 when married for 10 years i never knew my adolescant years i regretted it then divorced but i am stronger an now have no regrets.
2006-07-30 02:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 19 years old, totally capable of making your own decisions. if you think that 19 is the right age for you to get married, then go for it. don't let anyone tell you "you're too young for this or that" cuz seriously, i'm 27 and i'm told i'm STILL too young for some things. i got married at 19 too, and though we're divorced now, i have learned a LOT from that relationship, and we are still friends now because we grew up so much during that time. good luck and congrats!
2006-07-30 02:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by hello_beautiful_222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd really think about my future if I were u. RU in college or preparing for a college education? Do u have a steady career and does ur fiance have a steady career as well? Do u know where ur going to live and all the details regarding the costs of living? All of this is important. I'd really think about the consequences and the importance of marriage. Sometimes couples get too involved too young and they end up getting a divorce. U need 2 understand that marriage is not a temporary thing- it's supposed 2 last a lifetime. Think hard and long and if ur heart still says "yes" then go for it! Good blessings!
2006-07-30 02:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! When you're 19 there is so much to learn. You would also be missing out on being young & single, going out with friends, having fun. When you get married, all that ends!!! I wish I had waited until I was 30 to get married!!
There is a whole world full of options, & marriage is only one of them. Explore other possibilities first.
2006-07-30 14:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by DragonLady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the person you are at 19 is not the person you will be at 25, 30, etc. You both are constantly growing and changing. Until you know who "you" are, why not date? What's the rush? I got married in my mid 20's and I'm going to tell you, I had a lot of life experience under my belt and had done a lot more than some 40 year olds. I wish I had waited until I accomplished all of my goals. Now I have to consider my husband and how my decisions will affect us both while continuing to strive towards my goals. Marriage is not easy. I'd say wait, if he/she loves you now, they will love you in a few more years. Get your education, work on a career, etc. Have something to offer your children if you have any.
2006-07-30 03:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is no guarantee that you are going to live happily ever after as people change, drift apart, see a different light of anther, meet someone else, etc., but this is no reason to not get married if you feel like you are ready then go with it. There are billion of people on this planet and the one for sure thing is everyone of us is a dead man and woman. So enjoy your life and do what you feel is right with the current knowledge you have. Trust in yourself that you will make the right decisions in the life that you have to make.
2006-07-30 03:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very young to me, but I guess it would be more important to ask the reason you are getting married? If you're pregnant or have a child with this man, then I would say go for it - give the child a happy home with a mom and a dad. If there's no kiddos involved, then have a long engagement........make sure it's right before you jump in!
2006-07-30 02:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by vw4meee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple that was married at 17 and grandparents at 34. They have been together now for 31 years and their daughter has been married for 14 years now. You can make a marriage last if you are willing to devote your life to it. If you are not committed enough to sacrifice everything you want for the happiness of your spouse then you have no business getting married.
2006-07-30 02:56:55 · answer #11 · answered by maxpdman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋