I've been involved with this man 4 15 years, but we both have separate lives. I'm single with a 2.5 yr old girl, He is divorced w/ 2 kids & in a current relationship w/ 1 child.. Its a confusing situation but i'm pregnant. what happens now? I am having this baby(there is no other option 4 me Thats what i believe in) but he's freaking out. We do love each other but he is still at home with a family, He & the g/f have a horrible relationship. & he is the main care taker of his son, so that's y he stays.. So my ques. is What the hell do I do now? any advice thats not too harsh is greatly appreciated thanks
2006-07-29 19:46:46 · 9 answers · asked by i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he knows that I'm pregnant & he has also told her as well
2006-07-29 19:52:47 · update #1
hw i & I were in a long relationship before He was with her
2006-07-29 19:59:07 · update #2
I can't tell you how happy I am to hear your keeping the baby. you need to do whatever it is to keep your children happy and heathly. You can't make him leave. I don't know how you ended up it that situation, but your already there so , only time will tell. If he is the main provider, it is possible that he could get custody if he wanted to. You would just have to look up your options and discuss what to do now.he won't be upset later about the baby. and if he's not ever going to leave maybe you should end the relationship and find someone who will love you and your children. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-07-29 19:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any harsh words are necessary: you are already painfully aware of the situation, in all it's implications! It's down to this: how would you like to handle this? You will find that in the end, it WILL be down to how you take responsibility for the outcome of having a relationship with someone who is already up to his neck in problems~ you will need to seek some help, and I really hope you have a trusted family member, or friend, that you can turn to. good luck with this.
2006-07-29 19:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is with his family so obviously they come first. Have this baby and look after him or her on your own.If there is a next time then be more careful. How can this be love if he is with another. You know they always say they are staying in their relationship for the childs sake. They also always say it is horrible. Wake up and look after your child. Good luck with this.
2006-07-29 19:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lieing. He is staying with his G/F for more reasons than the child. Have the baby and collect child support from him. You really should stop haveing relationships with men that are ALREADY in relationships. He gets what he deserves. Put the screws to him!!
2006-07-29 19:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all advise him to get out of the relationship with his girlfriend. Thats never good. Then maybe explain to your kids that you love this guy and maybe want to marry him. Make sure they're ok with everything before you do anything else.
2006-07-29 19:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him, if you want to be with him that he needs to either decide if he is going to have a family and a relationship with you, or if he is going to live his separate life, in which case, you would have to go through some legal stuff Im guessing.
2006-07-29 19:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Alias Anarchist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad decisions cause bad outcomes. You've got to decide now what you want. He needs to be honest with his family. You both have been quite deceitful to his g/f.
2006-07-29 19:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years!!! wow. I don't know what to say. Obviously you're not ready to let him go.
2006-07-29 19:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by alphonsemarceau 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a whore.. and have him push you down some stairs.
2006-07-29 19:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋