how can i get my son to stop kissing me on the mouth?

Question

my 19mo. will give me kisses, but he always kisses on the mouth. how do I get him to give kisses on the cheek? my husband thinks it's stuipd that he even kisses.

p.s. i never said that i didn't want my sons affection. i just wish he wouldn't slobber on my mouth. or in my mouth(like when i'm laughing)

Answer 1

Don't brush your teeth =)

Answer 2

Habits are are difficult to change once u get it, so make sure first that u want it before it's too late.
U need to make the change very softly. Make something that makes him laugh, give him a kiss on the cheek n make him give u back the kiss in the same way. Make it like a play. The more the child enjoy the play the more is the chance for him to accept the change.
This also works in some other situations, give a try n good luck!

Answer 3

Jeez, he's only 19 months old. Babies do not have the capacity to view or look at kisses the way adults/adolescents do. They don't, even to the ripe old age of seven or so, nor could they form the intent, unless someone messes with them. Let your child kiss you. Do you give him kisses on the mouth and cheeks? On the belly? Blow bubbles on the belly? It's a sign of closeness and affection and bonding between mother and baby.

Is your husband jealous? Maybe you need to get him in on the kiss-fest, then put your child to bed and,......well, you know. Now, when my boy turned four or five, I started telling him he could only kiss mommy on the lips or cheek, and everybody else got a hug or handshake. By six, mommy only got kisses on the cheek, to cut down on colds, and my son needed to make sure and wash his hands at appropriate times.

Now he will ask for a kiss once in a while on the cheek, and a hug, maybe, but he just turned thirteen, so the fact that he even lets his mother, of all people! come close to him is a miracle. But we love each other. He and his dad do that chucking on the shoulder thing.

Answer 4

He's ur son. So I don't see why its such a problem. as long as ur not slipping him the tongue or anything then its ok. he'll start kissing you on the cheek when he gets ready. Enjoy this time now cause in a while it will be mom instead of mommy and you'll miss those days. And tell you husband to kick back on the masculinity there is nothing wrong with kissing family members especially Mom and Dad.

Answer 5

Kissing a child of yours on the lips is simply inappropriate. That's what we need to teach children and then they will know.

If it's so 'normal' or there is nothing wrong with it..when your child, boy or girl reaches puberty, then what do you tell them then? Kissing on the lips is a sensual thing. Yes, if your child does that to you , you wouldn't make it sensual, but the bottom line is that kissing is a very sensual thing and kissing on the lips is something that should be reserved for someone that you are going to be sensual or sexual with .

It's just simply inappropriate for children to be kissing their moms and dads on the lips. (little babies and young children do not know this , so their kisses , wherever are totally INNOCENT, but it s up to us as responsible adults to teach our children what's appropriate and what is not an appropriate kiss for someone.

If you think that kissing your child on the lips is appropriate, then perhaps you just had the wrong instruction from your parents. I would look into the behaviour and really examine what is happening.

Kissing on the lips IS the beginning of incestual behaviour.. IT opends the door to other things , unexpectedly, and perhaps sometimes even unplanned. It's just simply not appropriate.

Answer 6

First of all, your husband is stupid if he thinks your kid kissing you is stupid. Your baby loves you and giving kisses is a natural way to show affection. Your husband's attitude is a surefire way to mess the kid up for life if he doesn't cut it out.

If you don't want the baby to kiss your mouth, start teaching him to kiss you on the cheek. When he tries to kiss your mouth, stop him and redirect him to kiss on the cheek, and tell him, "Not on the mouth. Kiss on the cheek." It will take practice but he will figure it out.

Answer 7

you husband is a fool children need lots of love and affection you son is doing nothing wrong ...so what if you get slobber on your mouth love is more precious than not having a little slobber on you...feel lucky that you have him there to give you kisses a lot of mothers have lost their children to illnesses and would give the world to have that slobber to have their kisses back

Answer 8

Gosh, I've never heard of a mother to act so hostile about her son kissing her... He's only a toddler and doesn't know any better. Don't do anything to stop it, he will grow out of it soon if you don't respond as lovingly towards him as he is to you.

Remember, he loves you, and if you push him away now, it could be too late by the time he's a young boy. Do you want an unaffectionate kid?

Sorry... hope this doesn't sound like I'm preaching but I had to say something... mind you I'm only a teen myself - anyway....

Answer 9

why wouldnt you want your son to kiss you on the mouth? He is trying to show you that he loves you! Does it really matter that he slobbers on you a little, you can always wash it off! Your son obviously loves you lots so why not show some love yourself

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with your baby kissing you on the mouth. I say encourage it. My 8 yr old daughter still kisses me on the mouth. Shes just getting to the point where she cant do it at school saying goodbye "its embarrassing" she says. But I definetly encourage it, its just showing love and affection.

Answer 11

he is probably just modeling. He sees your husband kissing you, or other men kissing women, so he does the same. If it bothers you, just gently, but firmly look him in the eyes and say something like "Mommy likes your kisses, but you shouldn't kiss mommy on the mouth. Mommies like kisses on the cheek even better." I think it is sweet that he kisses. Don't let your husband rob him of his affectionate personality. :)