Please help I'm gonna get an abortion if pregnant? Help Asap?

Question

Hi Im 16 yrs old and a junior in highschool I was wondering could I be pregnant? Well it started from may 14th 2006 when I started having sex with my bf We HAVE ALWAYS HAD UNPROTECTED SEX and I think I may be pregnant well he always used the pull out method but one time during may I wasn't getting moisture down there and He nu**** on my vaginal area unprotectedly and we had sex from there! Last time I had sex was june 1st right before i menustrated, and We didn't use a condom but I dont think He nu**** in me! But I also got my period on july 4th but was abnormal I have been feeling weird starting today could I be pregnant? or should I just wait, at night I have been feeling Real naseua like I have to throw up, light headed, and hot flashes, and a increase of weight and a firm stomach and been feeling real tired Is it stress or signs of pregnancy can anyone PLease Help With These Syptoms? I AM NOT STABLE FOR CHILDREN BUT MY BF IS I THINK HE DID IT ON PURPOSE?

Answer 1

Don't listen to people who say "if you're not ready for a child, you're NOT ready for sex!". That is stupid, and irrelevant.
Sex doesn't always have to be about children. It's about pleasure. If you're sexually educated, want to have sex, are emotionally ready for pleasure, then you are emotionally ready for sex!
In case protection doesn't work (it's rare, but possible), you can easily have an abortion. Planned parenthood gives abortions for cheap, and you do not need parental consent.

Anyway, Here's a question for the religious adults who don't believe in premarital sex and say "if you're not ready for a child, you're not ready for sex!" :
After already having a few children, and not being emotionally and financially ready for more, why do you continue to have sex?

You're contradicting yourselves! You're having sex even though you are NOT emotional and financially ready for more children.

So, don't listen to those religious fools. They don't know what they are talking about, and are too stupid to use their own brains because the only book they've ever read is the bible, so they rely on "god" to guide them through life. Everything they say is wrong because there is NO proof of "god", therefore their "facts" are fiction and can NOT be proven.

For the pro-life idiots:

Pregnancy should be a choice. How can somebody force a woman to carry an unwanted child? That is abuse. NOBODY can and/or should be forced to physically do something they don't approve of. Carrying a child for 9 months requires alot of PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL energy and strength. Being pregnant is not as easy or as pleasant as some may think. Being pregnant means being EMOTIONALLY and FINANCIALLY ready to have a child. Why would somebody even think about having a child when they are on the verge of going bankrupt, living on the streets, and not being able to support themselves? How can you expect them to support a living, breathing child emotionally and physically? Why would you introduce a child to such a miserable life? They are better off dead. Poverty sticken people have the right to have sexual pleasure and sometimes, even if protection is used, mistakes happen; That does NOT mean that they should be bringing a child into this world.
Abortion is also an option for the more financially secure people. Accidents ALWAYS happen; Condoms can break, Birth control is not 100% effective, and sometimes people just forget to use protection or don't have protection at the time. That does NOT mean that they should have an unwanted child. Something else which has happened many times is RAPE. Many girls have been raped in the past and were forced to carry a child. That is the stupidest thing ever! How does that make any sense? Why should somebody be forced to carry a child which is the product of RAPE? Why would somebody even want to mother a criminal's child which is only alive because of a TRAUMATIZING experience? That's insane! Abortion is not wrong. Anybody who says "Abortion is murder" is an ignorant fool who should use their brain and THINK OUTSIDE OF THE BIBLE. Abortion is not murder. [ MURDER- Noun. The unlawful killing of one human by another, especially with premeditated malice. ] THIS IS COMMON SENSE: How can abortion be considered "murder" when the fetus was never even born? If the "baby" is not breathing and living on its own, without the the help of the mother's body, It can not be "murdered". Somebody can not be murdered untill they are born! It just does not make sense to call it "murder".
Most pregnancies are terminated before the fetus is even visible. How can it be considered murder when the fetus is almost invisible? The fetus can not feel a thing therefore nobody can say it is "wrong". Even if the fetus is already visible, "living", and breathing, it is not a REAL life. Think about it this way: If you took a 4 month old fetus out of the body of a woman, it would NOT be able to survive on its own. It is only a REAL life when the baby is viable; when it can survive on its own without the help of the mother's body...Otherwise, it is just a potential at life and NOTHING ELSE.
Even I admit that abortion during the third trimester is WRONG. For example: If you took a 7 1/2 or 8 month old baby out of a mother's body, as opposed to a four month old fetus (as I mentioned above), it is more than just a potential at life, it IS life. That 7-8 month old fetus has the chance of surviving outside of the mother's body at that early of an "age" (with medical assistance, of course) while the four month old fetus has NO chance at survival no matter how much medical assistance is provided.
Anyway, This is not about the fetus, about what it can "feel", or about what's right or wrong, It's about the Mother. A woman's body is a woman's body and NOBODY can force her to do something she doesn't want to do with her body. When a woman is pregnant, it is still HER body and ONLY her body and she can do whatever she wants with it. A woman should not be forced to go through 9 months of Physical and emotional discomfort for something that will be born into a ****** up, unwanted child. Forced pregnancies will only give the child a bad life. The child won't have sufficent love, emotional, physical, and [in some cases] financial support. This child will most likely not have a quality life and does not deserve to go through so many difficulties. The mother also does not deserve to have to deal with an unwanted child; She should not have to waste time, money, and energy to raise an unwanted child which was brought into this world by force. It is NOT fair.
Also, It is NOT about the fetus! It's about the mother! Who cares about the fetus? Since when is a tiny piece cells and tissue that can NOT feel anything more important than a grown woman? NEVER! Women are more important!

Something important:Men do NOT have the right to stop a woman from getting an abortion. Abortion is ONLY the woman's business because it is HER body and HER choice and any man's opinion does NOT count; he does not have the right to stop the woman from getting an abortion and/or judge and critisize a woman who has had an abortion, has considered getting an abortion, or one who will get one in the future. How dare a man even say that abortion is wrong when he is a MAN? He will NEVER IN HIS LIFE get pregnant. Men don't have the slightest clue about what it is like to be a woman. How can a man say abortion is wrong when he doesn't nor will he ever understand the phyiscal and emotional difficulty of pregnancy? IT JUST DOES NOT MAKE SENSE. If you're a man, I suggest you SHUT THE **** UP and GET A CLUE; The day your penis turns into a vagina and your body changes to accomodate a child inside your stomach, you will have the right to talk about abortion...Too bad that will never happen so shut the **** up. You never will have to carry a child and i'm 100% sure no man would ever want to, so why do you all assume that a WOMAN would want to?

Another big issue: Abortion is none of anybody's business aside from the mother. If all you brainwashed, brainless, ignorant, stupid, highschool drop-out, trailer trash, bible freak, pro-life whores are so anti abortion then don't get an abortion! It's THAT easy. Just worry about yourself and leave everybody else alone! Stay out of everybody's business. If we want to "kill" fetuses, then we can. It's our business, so go get a life and stay out of our lives.

Also, Many people say: "Why would you kill a child when you can just give it up for adoption? There are so many people who want children but can't have any."
That is the stupidest thing ever! Why should somebody have to suffer for 9 months? Why would they want to carry a child for no reason? Going through so much emotional and physical discomfort for 9 months is pointless if you will just go back to your life as if nothing happened and you will have no affiliation with the child afterwards...You will be thinking: "What did I just waste the last 9 months of my life doing? I could have accomplished so much in those 9 months. I can't believe I went through so much pain just to bring a child into this world whom I will never see again. etc etc"
It is a waste of time! You are only making YOUR life worse.

Even if you do go through 9 months of pregnancy to carry an unwanted child, You WON'T want to give it up for adoption after you see it. It's not that easy. Do you really think that you can give a child away after you've gone through so much to give it life and after you've had it come out of you, held it, heard it cry, etc? NO! Even if it was an unwanted child, It's not THAT easy! After it is born, You will want it.

BUT...Let's say that you DO give it up for adoption, Don't be so sure that somebody will adopt it. Please remember that there are SO many foster homes with children who have been living there for years and have been waiting for a family to adopt them. There are plenty of children in this world who don't have families, so whoever says "There are so many parents who can't have children but want children and there aren't enough in this world" are idiots! Look around you, this world is so overpopulated! Go to your local foster home and you'll see so many sad children without families. Why don't you adopt them all since you're so "Pro-life"?
The world does not need anymore unwanted children. There is not an 100% chance that you child will be adopted. If there were an 100% chance, then there wouldn't be SO many children out there without families.


Why abortion is LEGAL, should REMAIN LEGAL, and why abortion is RIGHT:

1. Laws against abortion kill women. To prohibit abortions does not stop them. When women feel it is absolutely necessary, they will choose to have abortions, even in secret, without medical care, in dangerous circumstances. In the two decades before abortion was legal in the U.S., it's been estimated that nearly a million women per year sought out illegal abortions. Thousands died. Tens of thousands were mutilated. All were forced to behave as if they were criminals.

2. Legal abortions protect women's health. Legal abortion not only protects women's lives, it also protects their health. For tens of thousands of women with heart disease, kidney disease, severe hypertension, sickle-cell anemia and severe diabetes, and other illnesses that can be life-threatening, the availability of legal abortion has helped avert serious medical complications that could have resulted from childbirth. Before legal abortion, such women's choices were limited to dangerous illegal abortion or dangerous childbirth.

3. A woman is more than a fetus. Some people argue these days that a fetus is a "person" that is "indistinguishable from the rest of us" and that it deserves rights equal to women's. On this question there is a tremendous spectrum of religious, philosophical, scientific, and medical opinion. It's been argued for centuries. Fortunately, our society has recognized that each woman must be able to make this decision, based on her own conscience. To impose a law defining a fetus as a "person," granting it rights equal to or superior to a woman's — a thinking, feeling, conscious human being — is arrogant and absurd. It only serves to diminish women.

4. Being a mother is just one option for women. Many hard battles have been fought to win political and economic equality for women. These gains will not be worth much if reproductive choice is denied. To be able to choose a safe, legal abortion makes many other options possible. Otherwise an accident or a rape can end a woman's economic and personal freedom.

5. Outlawing abortion is discriminatory. Anti-abortion laws discriminate against low-income women, who are driven to dangerous self-induced or back-alley abortions. That is all they can afford. But the rich can travel wherever necessary to obtain a safe abortion.

6. Compulsory pregnancy laws are incompatible with a free society. If there is any matter that is personal and private, then pregnancy is it. There can be no more extreme invasion of privacy than requiring a woman to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term. If government is permitted to compel a woman to bear a child, where will government stop? The concept is morally repugnant. It violates traditional American ideas of individual rights and freedoms.

7. Outlaw abortion, and more children will bear children. Forty percent of 14-year-old girls will become pregnant before they turn 20. This could happen to your daughter or someone else close to you. Here are the critical questions: Should the penalty for lack of knowledge or even for a moment's carelessness be enforced pregnancy and childrearing? Or dangerous illegal abortion? Should we consign a teenager to a life sentence of joblessness, hopelessness, and dependency?

8. "Every child a wanted child." If women are forced to carry unwanted pregnancies to term, the result is unwanted children. Everyone knows they are among society's most tragic cases, often uncared-for, unloved, brutalized, and abandoned. When they grow up, these children are often seriously disadvantaged, and sometimes inclined toward brutal behavior to others. This is not good for children, for families, or for the country. Children need love and families who want and will care for them.

9. Choice is good for families. Even when precautions are taken, accidents can and do happen. For some families, this is not a problem. But for others, such an event can be catastrophic. An unintended pregnancy can increase tensions, disrupt stability, and push people below the line of economic survival. Family planning is the answer. All options must be open.

At the most basic level, the abortion issue is not really about abortion. It is about the value of women in society. Should women make their own decisions about family, career, and how to live their lives? Or should government do that for them? Do women have the option of deciding when or whether to have children? Or is that a government decision? The anti-abortion leaders really have a larger purpose. They oppose most ideas and programs that can help women achieve equality and freedom. They also oppose programs that protect the health and well-being of women and their children.

Anti-abortion leaders claim to act "in defense of life." If so, why have they worked to destroy programs that serve life, including prenatal care and nutrition programs for dependent pregnant women? Is this respect for life?

Anti-abortion leaders also say they are trying to save children, but they have fought against health and nutrition programs for children once they are born. The anti-abortion groups seem to believe life begins at conception, but it ends at birth. Is this respect for life?

Then there are programs that diminish the number of unwanted pregnancies before they occur: family planning counseling, sex education, and contraception for those who wish it. Anti-abortion leaders oppose those, too. And clinics providing such services have been bombed. Is this respect for life?

Such stances reveal the ultimate cynicism of the compulsory pregnancy movement. "Life" is not what they're fighting for. What they want is a return to the days when a woman had few choices in controlling her future. They think that the abortion option gives too much freedom. That even contraception is too liberating. That women cannot be trusted to make their own decisions.

Americans today don't accept that. Women can now select their own paths in society, including when and whether to have children. Family planning, contraception, and, if need be, legal abortion are critical to sustaining women's freedom. There is no going back.

Answer 2

Well if you are 16...you shouldn't be "dating" nevermind having sex with somebody who is old enough or stable enough to be having kids. Obviously he's not too smart or he wouldn't have watned to impregnate you. If he did do this on purpose...how much does he really care about you or your future. However, at the same time how much of you future were you thinking about while having unprotected sex with him?

HOWEVER!!!

These could be signs of a pregnancy...they could be signs of stressing over a pregnancy that isn't there as well.

Quit stressing wait and see if you have a full cycle. A lot of times you can have implantation bleeding however, probably not the case with it being a month apart.

I would go see a doctor and get a blood test done, however might be hard without your mom or dad since you are only 16 years old. If you are not pregnant, thank your lucky stars, and get on some form of birth control, I would suggest abstinance but sinceI know that is unlikely I'd try the pill, shot, patch, whatever will work best for you.

Reconsider this b/f if he's stable enough to have kids, he's too old to be sleepign with one. (sorry you are still a child)

If you are PLEASE PLEASE discuss this with somebody (other than your b/f) your mother, if you can't talk to her talk to a counselor or somebody..Please don't have an abortion there are lots of couples out there waiting to have a baby of their own that could give your baby (if pregnant) a good loving stable home with 2 parents that love them and woudl do anything for them. There are even adoptions that would help with the expense if that is an issue. Weigh out ALL your options....Abortions even though are more common and not done in back alley's anymore still have MANY MANY risk...from infertility to death!

Answer 3

1. Stop having unprotected sex, it's as stupid as you can get.

2. Don't kill a baby, give it up for adoption, just because you were dumb doesn't mean the little human in you should die a horrible death
(MYTH: It's a woman's body and she can do what she wants with it. TRUTH: Once you're pregnant it is no longer your body, it belongs to the both of you, just because you cannot see her doesn't mean she isn't relying on you.

3. Grow up, now.

To ROSE below me with the long and pointless answer:

I am not a full pro-lifer of even believe in god. Your pushing your agenda towards a 16 year old that may be pregnant is way way off base. Do you think she needs to hear your s**t right now? It has nothing to do with the question! Get a clue you moron and shovel it somewhere else, not to little girls that need sound advice. How do you correlate her having sex with her maturity level, most likely it’s her boy friend pushing her. Are you some kind of psychic ? No, didn’t think so. It’s people like you who promote teen sex idiot!

PS: I read your entire rant and you say it's ok to kill because the fetus isn't visible? Either were you at one point and still aren’t. The atom is not visible but watch what happens when you smash one. You weigh more then the 40 lbs of plutonium used in "Little Boy" but it made a much bigger boom then you EVER will.

If you think the world is over populated why are you having children? Kill yourself and remove one useless person from the earth. PLEASE!!!

Answer 4

wow.

a bloated stomach with nausea would be your first indicators, as well as weight gain of three or more pounds within the first few weeks. hot flashes...more typical in an advanced pregnancy than early on, but faintness is also common. the stress is more from worry, kid.

Go to your local women's clinic for one of their pregnancy tests; they have to do that with confidentiality. Make sure you really are pregnant, no matter what you do. That situation is frightening, more so when you are as young as you are. Pregnant and still bleeding can sometimes mean there is a complication, like a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy. Go onto Yahoo Health and look up their Baby Center pages for signs of pregnancy and other resources.

He might not have done it on purpose. A termination is a big decision; give it serious thought, okay? Preferably, don't do it. It might seem like an 'out,' but I wouldn't consider that your only resort. Abortions hurt women emotionally, even when they feel it is their only way out. A baby has a functioning nervous system at seven weeks. You can't feel it yet, but he or she can feel you. There have been some good answers here about adoption. It's nicer if you really can't keep it yourself. Much better than acting on this out of fear. Your parents might get mad, but they love you, and they would be really upset if you made a decision like this by yourself, especially since you're THEIR baby. Not trying to sound like a jerky adult, just trying to be helpful. Good luck.

Answer 5

You are 16 years old and do not wany any kids but you have unsafe sex, you are very smart...NOT.

First of all you if can go around acting like a grown adult having unprotected sex with your BF then you can deal with the fact that you maybe pregnant or have some STDs or even AIDS for that matter.

Abortion is killing your own child that you are carrying. That is a NO NO.

If you do not want to be pregnant just do not have sex or use all forms of birth control. Since you are not an adult you have no business having sex in the first place because you are irresponsible at it.

Do put the blame on him, you allowed this to happen.

Answer 6

This is the exact reason why you are too young to be having sex. You are not stable enough for the consequences that come along with such an act. If you, and not just your boyfriend cannot financially deal with a baby for the next 18 years, you need to think of better choices for you. You need to get to the doctor for a pregnancy test, and then get prenatal counseling. There are other options available, like adoption or abortion, and after you either have the baby or abort it, you need to think seriously about birth control, because abortion is not a method of birth control, and it can cause some serious damage to women who keep getting them. These women who use it as birth control, run the risk of never being able to have children again, even after they've married, and are financially and mentally stable to have a child. I wish I could, but I can't tell you to stop having sex til you're much older, because it looks like Pandora's box is already open on that one, but you do need to look at some of the diseases that you may already have been at risk for: like Chlamydia, Gonorreah, Crabs, and AIDS, to name a few. Adoption is another option open to you if you are pregnant. Since your parents are still responsible for you, you need to talk to them before you make any decision. You are still their child, even though you think you're grown just because you had sex. Then seriously think of changing your risky lifestyle before you end up dead. You're running way too fast, and you need to slow down.

Answer 7

You could be or you could be just scared and thinking you are! Do you have supportive family? It will be okay and I dont think abortion is a option you got yourself into this situation. You know what could happen by having sex so you need to stand up and take responsibility. You think the unborn child asked to be put into this crazy cruel world NO There are soo many people that would love to have children but cant get pregnant adoption would be better than abortion im so against it. I was young when i had my first child it was scary and i wasnt ready but i became ready and let me say i am glad i have him he is a angel and wouldnt change a thing. If you are good luck and everything will fall in place and another thing i believe is everything is MEANT to happen its meant to be.

Answer 8

First off, you can get pregnant from dry humping. All it takes is one sperm to get close enough to swim to the egg. Secondly, get a pregnancy test. They are at any drug store nowadays or you could even go to your local Womens clinic and get it for free with some counseling to follow. Thirdly, if youare young and not ready for kids, why are you having unprotected sex? If you knew your man wasnted kids and you didnt, why didnt you put yourself on birth control? You have a future and an obligation to take care of that baby. If you cant do it, give it to someone who can. There are people wanting kids everyday and then kids like you thorwing them away, I think you need to figure out if you are before you start making a death sentence for an unborn human being. Lastly, you woudnt be showing or gaining weight yet until about your third month. I have had three kids and I am peteite. I dont show til my third mo at that earliest. I think you have been thinking about this and are giving yourself the symptoms based on what you know. Calm down and get a test.

Answer 9

You shouldnt have said you were going to get an abortion... all the anti-abortionist are gunna make you feel like sh*t... which is totally not their place to do... anyways

I think you should wait considering you should start your period within the week... if the last time you had sex was june 1st and you had your period on july 4th then you are totally not pregnant... trust me... but take the test just in case... you are probably paranoid and think that all of the symptoms are pregnancy signs when in fact they are just smptoms of your next period... girls have a funny way of always doing this!! but I bet you anything you take the test then you will start your period the next day... its kinda like tricking your body into it lol!!

But so this doesn't happen in the future at least get on some kind of birth control if you aren't using protection... then you won't have to bear having an abortion... at all costs please take precautions to not have an abortion.. I can gaurentee you won't want one!!

Answer 10

Hey girl, im a 16 yr old girl as well and im preggo. But if you are please dont get an abortion, give it up for adoption. It is such a wonderful thing to give a child to a couple who cant have one of there own. And wouldnt you feel horrible killing a baby when it could still have a good life, even if its not with you? Im sorry your so strssed out, wait a week and then go and get a pregnancy test. If you need someone to talk to about being pregnant(if it turns out you are) my email is [e-mail]

Answer 11

Because you had your period I would say that your stressing and that's what's making you not well.... Do a home pregnancy test and that will tell you....... Just so you know.. sperm can enter the vagina while having sex before he finishes... if you don't want children now you need to use a condom every time from start till finish... I hope for your sake you aren't pregnant but I do hope that this lesson will smarten you up... Abortion is not a form of birth control....good luck