Ok, here I am asking another question. Well, to start off, I’m 16, and I’m gay. I live in a very homophobic society, and I’m struggling to differentiate fact from fiction when it comes to the stereotypes of gay’s (in particular, men, since I’m a guy) as apposed to the truth. So, I already found out that not all gay guys are “loose” to put it nicely. Now I just wonder if it’s true that most are more feminine. Why I wonder is because I am, and I don’t know any other gay guy to compare myself to. I don’t try to be, but I just come across as more girlish. I’ve tried to stop, but I’ve finally just accepted that I am who I am. Anyways, from the way I see it now, MOST (not all) gay guys are like me. Kinda on the more feminine side, attracted to the more macho types of guys. So, my question is, are there any masculine gay guys who are attracted to the more feminine guys? Please don’t get mad at me for my ignorance. I’m just confused, and I want the truth, not a bunch of stereotypes to further confuse me. Please don’t be offensive, or hateful towards me, or gay’s in general. After all, this is the Gay/lesbian/transgender section of yahoo questions. Thanks for your time.
2006-07-29 18:51:23 · 13 answers · asked by Kohl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi there, Cutey. Yes, many hyper-masculine and low-key masculine men really go for the guys who seem feminine. Where I think a lot of the he-men draw the line is when swishy becomes silly (and I am not talking about sociable drag queens and other fun people; I am talking about emotional immaturity, which is never attractive in ANYone, whether he-manish or swishy). You just be yourself and make the most of your natural attributes. You will then have many, many admirers.
Now, you will also want to watch out for guys who get pushy or abusive or who take advantage of what they might think is weakness. Anticipate situations where you might have to demand respect. You can demand respect and get it, of course, based on your humanity, your intelligence, and your way with language. Yes, I think you probably know many feminine women who know how to correct a man who is disrespectful, and you can do the same.
Most of the time, though, you will not have any trouble from other gay men. It's the self-righteous straight a--holes that you have to be wary of!
Give it your best, love yourself, and enjoy who you are!
2006-07-29 19:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere in between. Closest to what I would be "twinks", but I don't like using the term, it seems rather offensive. Maybe "pretty boys"? Guys you know are male at first glance, but can also probably guess are gay, with a little bit of muscle build, shaved. More masculine than feminine in personality too.
2016-03-27 06:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST "visibly gay" guys are like you. The less effeminate men who are gay, not everyone guesses it just by looking at them. And I'm not saying it's a bad thing to be you, but I did want to tell you: this is one stereotype that I haven't even found to be true of "most". To answer your question: yes. There are some, somewhere. I will tell you there's a lot of unpleasant people as well who won't actually get to know the rest of you because of your effeminate traits. Personally, I try to get a feel for the whole personality of the person I'm dating and go from there; I don't rule anyone out because of anything like that. Good luck.
2006-07-29 20:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey kid,
Firstly, you are right to stop fighting yourself. Be who you are. The answer to your question really is, yes, lots of them. Don't sweat that of all things.
Some masculine guys who are still closeted or have issues don't want feminine partners, but some do. I never made any differentiation. My lover isn't feminine at all, but if he were, and loved me the same as he did and does -- we'd still be approaching our 15th year as a couple. How masculine or feminine just doesn't matter to me. That the guy is cute (not necessarily knock down handsome, but cute) and takes care of himself and is loving and sweet and gentle -- those things matter -- how masculine he is doesn't.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-07-30 06:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
After all my years in the GLBT community...I can sincerely tell you that there is someone for everyone. I guess I'm one of your more 'masculine(whatever that means)' gay types and I'm just attracted to men on an individual basis. I think we make a great mistake when we limit our selves to certain types. Try to appreciate everyone for what they are..not what they're 'not.' I have no intention of being offensive or hateful to you--you asked a valid intelligent question. Cheers...
2006-07-29 18:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree - there is someone for everyone. I am more masculine acting myself and attracted to masculine acting men over feminine acting men in general. I do have many friends that are more feminine (or flamboyant) in their actions - more power to them - that is just not how I am. The GLBT community is just like any other - diverse - and as far as I am concerned that diversity is great.
2006-07-29 19:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, "most" gay guys aren't on the feminine side. I used to think that; man, was *I* surprised. It might seem like that at times, depending on your experiences. It's very likely that someone in your school IS that you'd swear ISN'T.
And yes, there are very masculine men who like sweeties. And there are some ... well, lots ... who ONLY like very masculine men.
So like every other kind of relationship in life, there's someone out there for everyone, no matter how weird you (or everybody else) think it is.
No need to worry. It's like M&Ms. As Eddie Murphy said in "Trading Places," "there's plenty, you know."
2006-07-30 02:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Luis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a masculine gay guy that happens to be attracted to gay men who are feminine. That is just who I am attracted to. So to answer your question yes there is.
2006-07-30 17:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that so many people are attracted to so many different people and have so many different fetishes. Yes without a doubt there are macho men attracted to feminine men. Good for you to ask. Hope you find someone great soon.
Signed Concerned Citizen
2006-07-30 11:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm more masculine than feminine and I am more attracted to masculine guys.
2006-07-29 22:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by djw008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋