He tells me that she still trying to get him back. We do not live in the same state as her; she is on the east coast we are on the west coast; I am not sure why he tells me sure I tell him I'd rather not know or keep up with the about times she is contacting him?
2006-07-29 18:48:41 · 17 answers · asked by BmoreBabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
at least he's telling you so you know what's happening. imagine if he never said a word about it and you found out some other way. you'd probably think he was trying to hide something. if i were you, i'd respect his openness and honesty. he might be telling you because he's concerned about her behaviour and the way it might affect your relationship. maybe he's trying to get some insight from you how to make her stop, or perhaps just preparing you in case she shows up unexpectedly at your home some day. his reasons could be something else entirely but at least he's keeping you in the loop.
2006-07-29 18:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by jbslass 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I couldn't take hearing about an ex all the time and my reaction would be to say look if you are still all about her go be with her but shut up about it already. However, you have a point about keeping up with developments. How about you say she doesn't need to be contacting you anymore, change the number, the live on opposite sides of the country its not like they are going to run in to each other. Losing contact with someone is pretty easy to do IF you actually want to. Besides if all the ex was getting from him was f*ck off everytime she called she wouldn't keep calling, something is happening to encourage her to continue because nobody is that big a glutton for punishment.
I'd solve the whole problem by say he shouldn't be having contact with her at all and it should stop immediately. If that doesn't work talk about ex boyfriends of yours everytime he brings her up, he'll get the message pretty quickly once he understands how it feels. It sounds like he's trying to use the fact (if it is a fact) that she still wants him to try to make you jealous and/or to make himself think he's more desireable than he really believes he is.
2006-07-30 01:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the ex wife is really trying to get him back, your husband may be trying to stay loyal to you. A sure way to do that is to keep you posted on her actions.
Women can harass men as easily as men harass a disinterested woman. If he is really over her, he should tell her to move on and not to contact him anymore. If she won't do that maybe he should change phone numbers, etc.
If he's not really over her then maybe some couple's counseling would be good for your marriage.
2006-07-30 02:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sounds like he is trying to get a reaction out of you. I wouldnt tell him that you would rather not know, because to me it's an important part of a marriage, keeping up with what's going on outside his life. That's exactly where she should be too, outside of his life, not in. She has no buisness contacting him unless they have children and then i could understand that. If it really bothers you that bad i would suggest to tell him not to accept her phone calls, or for him to tell her to let him go, that it's over. Either way, let him know it bothers you.
2006-07-30 01:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he may have a guilty conscience.
Not that he is doing anything wrong but the fact that he probably still has feelings for her, depending on how long they have been separated.
By telling you, it helps him to reinforce in himself why he left her. Help him by telling him how much you love him and want him and why you are with him so that he has less reason to want to ever go back to her and then feel really guilty.
2006-07-30 02:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he is try'n 2 make u jealous
or
he secretly throw'n u hints that he might secretly b considering going back 2 her and he's observing ur reactions as he talks 2 u about her
think about it
y else would he constantly bring her up in conversation?
i think u need 2 b like me and do sum private investigating
2006-07-30 01:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by BOSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really am not sure what your question is....it is unclear. If they have no kids together, they should not even be speaking anyway. If they do have kids together, their conversations should be strictly about the children. It sounds as if he is contemplating a reconnection with her, and if that's the case...why are you still there?
2006-07-30 02:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He trusts you so he is sharing his grief and rage.
Try to be understanding. Everyone is ok if it fades as a topic over the next year or two.
2006-07-30 01:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey everybody in a relationship like to brag a little bit.Seems your hubby is not over her or she isnt.Try to be a little attentive about your husband and his communication before its too late and you are hurt.
2006-07-30 03:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is trying to get your attention. or he feels guilty and is only telling you part of the truth. you better monitor this more closely.
2006-07-30 01:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by dirt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋