What does it mean when you began to get very unemotional? I used to let everybody push my buttons and get very upset. My mother died a year ago almost. I went off my antidepressants about 4 months ago because they weren't working. Since then, I have done pretty good, but lately, I have really been dry and short with people. I feel like I am coming into my own and have ALWAYS been a suck up and now I am telling people to BACK OFF. I am the kind of person who used to watch 7 kids in my home and still fix my husband tea when he walked in the door from work because either he asked for it or would say, "Boy, it sure would be nice to have some ice tea", as if though he were the only one working. Lately, I have been very short with my daughter and I feel like the most terrible person in the world. I seem to have no perspective. I suffer guilt as if though my behavior was comparable to Hitler. I feel guilty that I argue with my husband in front of my child, but I get so mad at him.
2006-07-29 18:09:41 · 7 answers · asked by LaLa Land 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't sound like you are being unemotional at all. You are just not being overly sensitive to what others want. After all anger is an emotion. It is good to set boundaries. However, I think the anger has to be addressed. It may just be you are overwhelmed. To repeat everyone else it sounds like there may be something else that is the root of the problem and you are letting your negative emotions about that rule you and color your life. Guilt is a negative emotion and negative begetts more negative. Learn to forgive yourself, you are only human. Yes you may be coming into your own, but you may also be taking it too far. It is a delicate balance between assertiveness and aggression and requires thought and practice. Reconnect with sources of positive energy in your life (whether it be a hobby, friends, or visiting a special place).
Then again, you may not be behaving as badly as you perceive you are. It sounds like you were always trying to please everyone else (which may indicate a lack of self-esteem) and it may just be the adjustment of becoming assertive feels unnatural to you because it was your habit or way of life. I agree with seeking counseling. If you are not comfortable with this, then maybe ask your husband (or better yet someone you trust who is not involved personally in the situation) for support. Don't expect that person to fix anything, but talking things out can help.
2006-07-29 18:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 06:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it's time to take a deep long relaxing break. Get some time off to yourself. I used to be this way though i didn't take any anti-depressants for it. Also, a death in the family changes people. I used to be a pushover till my dad died, then all of a sudden i turned into Rambo within 2 years. I let my hurt and anger over his death build up in me for too long. I thought that i had fully grieved, but i hadn't.
Don't feel guilt, (easier said than done) you just need a break. also it takes time for your body to adjust to being without your medicine, this could also be the cause. I would seek my dr.s advice first before considering doing without them, it may seem like they are not working but in fact it changes the chemical balance of your structure.
Most importantly, take some time out for yourself. It seems like stress is catching up to you.
2006-07-29 18:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out exactly what it is that is making you mad. I think parts of this are good and that you are finally starting to stick up for yourself. However, if you are being unreasonable with your daughter and husband you need to get some control over yourself. Figuring out exactly what is at the root of it will help a lot, if you can't get there on your own go see a consellor, someone to help you figure it out. Good luck!
2006-07-29 18:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been kinda emotionally detached for a while now. Ever since I a breakup I had a while ago. I guess I won't let myself fall into that trap again.
2006-07-29 18:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by JoeIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk with a professional instead of a bunch of dorks on the internet??
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2006-07-29 18:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋