It's really starting to effect things, i never had them before intill about a month ago and don't know why they surfaced now. I don't recall ever being raped or anything before so if any one can help me figure this thing out it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
2006-07-29 18:00:32 · 14 answers · asked by snwangel360 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
perhaps you repressed something go to a shrink?
2006-07-29 18:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by foopy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of things to look at. How are things when you and your boyfriend get intimate? Do you feel a part of what is occurring or just like you are there to please him? Does he listen to you and try to please you or does he just do whatever he wants? Are you comfortable with the intimacy or are there other issues and concerns in your mind that make it feel awkward? Did anything happen a month ago that might have affected your reaction to sexual activity? Think about these things in your mind and if you haven't talked to him about this do. He may be able to help you deal with this.
2006-07-29 18:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by tcos...a guy with questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be you hear about it all the time on T.V.
You could also feel like you are not the one in control unless you say "NO"! The only way Ibelieve you can get the true answer is maybe talk to a professional or to a LOVED ONE who will listen. There is noone out there that knows you better than yourself!
2006-07-29 18:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety...The first thing that came in my head is: Your b.f. does he treat you with respect??? What about the way he talks to you,...Is he nice and sweet in is tone or: Is he kind of mean and pushy??? If this fits your b.f. behavior: That he doesn't respect you and talks to you like hes mean,Pushy and thinks hes in control...Your having fear,That if you decides in the middle of foreplay that you don't want to have sex with him, He will slap you around and then he will rape you...I have seem girls go through something like this before...Let me tell you,It's not a pretty site...Be care away your b.f....It just doesn't feel right to me...
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2006-07-29 18:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its a sick fetish.
Or it might even be something that your brain is throwing at you from all the crap you see on tv and hear in the news.
I dont know what to tell you about that other than if it persists then you should seek help.
2006-07-29 18:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal
its a sexual fantacy u have
it might sound weird but a lot of people r turned on by this
u can casually turn these thoughts into reality by.....
rejecting him just a lil bit when u first start having sex - make him push ur legs apart. turn away when he tries to kiss u and he'll grab ur face and make u kiss him. just kinda tease him and play hard to get.
just 2 c if u like it.
it might even turn him on 2
2006-07-29 18:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by BOSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to analyze what brings these thoughts-could it be that you are not ready, or maybe its the physcial way your boyfreind treats you during intimate moments. Whatever it is, you need to find out because it isnot healthy to feel that way.
2006-07-29 18:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by suheilly13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a rational fear of sex. It could be your intuition. Maybe you should listen to your instincts. If nothting else, learn how to defend yourself. It couldn't hurt.
2006-07-29 18:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by theenormusnorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be somewhat of a fantasy/ turn on for you too though, becuase I had that for a while and I jsut realized it jsut turned me on for some odd reason
2006-07-29 18:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm maybe u just arent ready to do something like that and ur gut is saying this fuznt feel right and u shouldnt do it.
2006-07-29 18:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Joanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are afraid of him. Either that or you have repressed some sexual abuse. Honestly, i think that is a good possibility. Something triggered the flashbacks. Please go see a good psychologist.
2006-07-30 09:20:09 · answer #11 · answered by prettyinpunkk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋