We have been dating for over a year, we are both 17, and we just found out that she is pregnant. I was just wondering the best way to handle things like telling our parents, whether or not to get married, and so on and so forth.
2006-07-29 17:57:08 · 12 answers · asked by johnny boy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
We have been dating for over a year, we are both 17, and we just found out that she is pregnant. I definately want to keep the baby, and not have an abortion, she said she doesnt care either way and its up to me. When I hear about this happening to others I always think they should be mature enough to live with the consequences so I want to take my own advice in that way. I was just wondering the best way to handle things like telling our parents that this happened. Whether or not to get married, we talked about it before we found this stuff out but now we dont know if we should now, later, or not at all. I know there is a lot of risk involved with teen pregnancy but I dont know what they all are. I dont know if I should finish high school and get a job or if I should still go to college. I dont know how to feel, Im so scared I could actually cry, at the same time I am kind of excited to be a dad even though this is the worst time to become one. Please let me know your opinion.
2006-07-29 18:37:38 · update #1
If you were man enough to have sex, be a man now and face the results of your actions. Inform now all of your parents, get your girlfriend to a doctor for prenatal care, get a job, face the world. You should have thought of the consecuenses of your actions before having unprotected sex.
2006-07-29 18:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by flrt4fn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love your girlfriend and you are happy with her than yes marry her but dont marry her for wrong reasons. Just because she is pregnant dosnt mean you have to marry her.
About telling your parents just tell them let them know. Its best to be honest about it and they are your parents so they should support you in any decisions yall make.
Be there for your girlfriend this is going to be an emotional time because of her hormones but dont take anything to heart, things will be said that wont be meant.
If your worried about being a good dad sometimes it usually comes natural. You can always find a teen parenting class in yoru area. Also you and your girlfriend should defintely take the pareting classes that the hospitals have.
Dont stress things will work out.
Congrats and Good Luck..
2006-07-30 01:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by catherine b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Even though I've never met you or know who you are, I'm so proud. I've read some things on here where teen fathers want to dump their girlfriends. I think (if your and her parents are willing to help out until you van get a job, then) you should go to college. Support your girlfriend. If I were you and I truly loved this girl (which, I'm sure you do) I would wait until after the baby is born (don't abort) to get married.
Still so proud!
2006-07-30 01:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best way to handle this is for you both to tell your parents and tell them you want to get married. Since you are both so young, you will need alot of help both in raising your family and in supporting your family. They need to help you make a go of it for at least 5 years.
That is the best way to handle it, assuming you come from good families of normal, decent people.
Many people, do not. That sucks and may require a different strategy, depending on your situation.
2006-07-30 01:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get married just because of a baby, stand by her and be a father,definetly finish school and go to college, if you have to get a job while doing it , then so be it. it will be hard at first but it will pay off in the end. and if in the future you two still want to get married, then best wishes to the both of you... congrats and good luck
2006-07-30 03:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by sassy_girl200501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be responsible. Sit down with your girlfriend and discuss how you are going to support the child. When you tell both sets of parents, do it together, as a united front. Getting married is your decision, but a child deserves to have both its parents in the picture.
2006-07-30 01:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married just because she is pregnant. You need to get a job if you do not already have one, BUT do not let it derail your education or you will end up in dead-end jobs for life. Support your child. Have your parents go to dinner at her parent's house or have them come to your house and tell them all at once. They will probably not be happy about it, but the sooner the better because she needs to have proper pre-natal care in order to have a healthy baby.
2006-07-30 01:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I know you must be terrified, but even though your parents (both sets) are outdated to you right now, I am sure that they will provide love and support for the two of you..........Just be forthright and honest with them and tell them your intentions..........They will be shocked, hurt, and angry at first but please remember that parents are parents and even though we don't act like it sometimes, we've been through alot and understand that people make mistakes........Thank you for being the MAN and asking the question.......Shows me that you are mature and have lots of integrity.........Good luck and take care.........
2006-07-30 01:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no special way to tell your parents, just tell them face to face, togther, try asking one of your friends to be with you when you tell your parents, that way your parents wont freak out as much.
well i would sugest getting married and trying to work things out, be sure to finish high school it is very important. and both get jobs.
2006-07-30 01:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by rockon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words - planned parenthood.
and getting married is a stupider idea then keeping the baby.
2006-07-30 01:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by leer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋