should i trust her?

Question

my wife recently been going out latly with the girls.i found out she has been talking to her ex .she tells me they are just friends.well i wouldnt have none of that.so she says she has no contact with him.but yet she still wants to go out like every weekend.should i just not worry and trust her?

Answer 1

Call that show Cheaters!

Answer 2

I think U should have a talk with her asking her things like if she would mine if U and ur ex became friends again all of a sudden. see people never think of it in a way where they have on the other persons shoes. U will know by her reaction if it is ok for U to become friends with ur ex or with any other female for that matter. I mean friends enough where U must go out every weekend and have some friendly fun. I guarantee she won't like it and discontinue this behavior. If she gives U the non-chalant attitude as if she doesn't mind U hanging out with ur ex then it is time to reevaluate the relationship. Follow ur mind not ur heart with this one because ur intuition may be right. She doesn't deserve U if she cannot respect ur feelings enough to break it off. Good Luck!

Answer 3

She's your wife - you know her better than anyone. Do you think she would lie to you about something so important? Has she ever been untruthful about about anything else? How long have you been married, and are you both happy? These are questions only you can answer. Going out with the girls is not a bad thing, especially for a busy woman who doesn't work outside of the home - she needs some kind of social outlet. Do you ever take her out on the weekends? It's important that you spend time together alone - obviously you have children, fatherof3, but your marriage needs nurturing too. If you're going out with her, you know who she's with!

Answer 4

Did one have anything to do with the other? If the going out and the ex had nothing to do with each other then don't worry about it. How often is she going out? Is she secretive about where she is going or who she is going with? Is she home at a reasonable hour? I personally don't think its a good idea, I think if married people spend too much time in bars without their spouses sooner or later something is going to happen. I saw it all the time as a bartender and it all could be avoided by simply not going out without each other. At least not all the time. I saw a lot of people who 'trusted' their spouse and honestly didn't mind them going out, I saw a lot of them find out just how wrong they were too! You are talking about a bad environment take that and add alcohol and you are asking for nothing but trouble. Of course its fine to do it once in a while but if its happening every Friday I'd be having issues with that. After all she isn't going to church socials so she isn't hanging out with the best of people. I can honestly say that over 4 years I didn't see one single couple stay together when one was hanging out at the bar and the other was not, every single one of them ended.

Answer 5

Well, I'm in a similar situation...her boredom means your metaphorical castration...all i can tell you is to trust her. And at the risk of sounding heartless, if she IS fooling around: you're the good-guy. You're not a woman, so the courts are already against you---BUT if you're the one with documentation, then you come across as the good parent/abused provider..

- don't be confrontational, keep a cool head.

- see if you can't get her to go out a few weekends with YOU. Invite some buddies over when she's gone. What else can you do at night besides

.. and good luck. Be legally ready if you seriously suspect something.

Answer 6

The best thing you can do is trust her because you cannot control her actions. If you create distrust in the relationship it will make things harder for both of you. However, if you suspect shie is cheating the gut instinct is usually right. If she comes home late, acts nervous, messed up clothes, smells differently, and is defensive with answering some questions chances are she is cheating. If that is not the case give her the trust she wants. If you can't trust her then your marriage may be having problems.

Answer 7

It does seem strange that she is wanting to go out every weekend with the girls. It does not necessarily mean she is cheating. It does mean she feels she is lacking in something. Going out w/the girls once a month or so is great. Every weekend is a signal. Before next weekend, plan something for and with her. Shower her with attention and make her remember why she married you! She is probably a little wanting in the attention department. If that doesn't work, sit down and have a chat with her to find out what is going on. Good Luck!

Answer 8

the every wk end thing worries me on a lot of levels.... this is just not proper acting for married women or men.... every now and again is fine. we all deserve off time from each other and to be with just freinds..... girl talk, and men talk.... but all the time is a big NO NO in a marriage, if one or both partners disagrees with the situation.... it can and does cause BIG problems.... yes trust is important on both parts.... but an ex is an ex..... but I, or no one else can tell you what is right or wrong for the 2 of you... sit down and talk it all over and out... tell her in a calm and soothing way just how and why you feel about all this.... she may not realy understand your doubts..... or she just may NOT want to...... I cant say........ God bless

Answer 9

Although I go out with my girlfriends and do not cheat, this sounds a little suspicious. Be careful with this. Why did she not tell you about talking to her ex before if they are just friends? If you have the resources, hire a private investigator and find out for sure. I have to stress though that if she is seeing someone else and a P.I. discovers that, you have to make sure that you are ready to leave her. Otherwise it will just happen over and over. If a P.I. is not available to you, get a detailed phone record for home and cell phone. Most companies will not charge for this and then line up the calls with when she is out. I really really hope that for your sake you are wrong. Good luck!

Answer 10

Women go out late "with the girls" together to pick up men for sex.

So, that would be no.

Don't get me wrong, it's not always like this. If your woman is out and about during daylight hours having lunch and hanging out with her friends, especially if they all have kids and are doing this together, that is just fine and, quite frankly, necessary. Women have a biologically driven need to do this with other women.

However, a woman staying out past 10 pm, going out drinking or worse, clubbing, is cheating on you. I can almost guarentee it. Likely, she is also doing drugs. You absolutely cannot allow that behavior. Either she stops immediately or you divorce her. It's that serious. This is 20 times more serious if you have a baby and she is going out and leaving you with the kids.

Answer 11

I think that U should talk to her. take her out on lke a Firday night just u and her no family talk to get about it say listen hunny I have to aske u something and if she says that shes been talking to him then say well I dont like that and tell her that she should respect u and ur decision on her going out. The night that she says that she wants to go out with the girls say listen hun I'd really lke to go with you u know being stuck at home is really no fun and I'm sure ur friends won't mind and if shes all stand offish then you will know something is up after you do that ten take her out to dinner no kids no family no people just start treating her eally good and if she is doing something with this guy u make her think about what shes missing out on.
Just remember communication is the key with out heres nothing in a realtionship married dating divorced single its just the way it goes.