i mean like, i do have freinds, but not any good ones. they call me crap when i help them, and they are really mean to me sometimes. what should i do?
2006-07-29 17:23:49 · 37 answers · asked by sad but cute 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-07-29 17:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have encountered such situation before where I have no friends. I only have bad friends who like to use me whenever they need help. I think about myself why I don't have good friends. Sometimes I'm just being too perfect that almost everyone looks up at me and use me for help. But if you're not perfect, who wants you?
If you're too perfect in anything such as studies, don't get upset. I'm just only 15 but I don't know your age. I don't care how much I don't have friends. But the most important is your future.
So, in order to answer your question straight away, you should ignore them, don't help them since they call you crap. And if they ever need you to help them, be firm, and I repeat, BE FIRM to them and say "NO". However, you must not always not to help them, because they will think you're unfriendly. Help them occasionally.
In this way, your bad friends will think that you're not a person to be bullied or used.
2006-07-29 17:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by horensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a good friend I'll be your buddy then once trust is earned i'll be your friend. I know what you mean by not having good friends, let them go like I did. Friends are there to catch you when you fall, not help push you over. It's time to stand up and be a woman. It may be lonely for a while, but the right friend will come along.
2006-07-29 17:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by *Taken* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not your friends they are just using you. Better no friends at all then ones like these.
You need to just relax and not worry about it. Appearing needy is a big turn off so you should go about doing and learning things that appeal to you, find what you like and then go out and do it. When you do that, you will find people who like the things you like and when you are doing them together you find other things in common.
Remember to smile and be open but do not worry about how many friends you have. Work on you, make you happy and that will attract you friends that are real friends not users.
2006-07-29 17:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by digimutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are not overnight accomplishments. It sounds like you don't have true friends. You need to be open and honest with people, and hopefully lay the groundwork for a fabulous friendship. Don't limit yourself to a certain "group" of people or to one certain type of person.
You need to get out there and find someone who will let you cry on their shoulder once in a while instead of you always getting crapped on!
2006-07-29 17:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by I like pizza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek out and meet more positive people..they're everywhere, they're just not always easy to see. This forum here is a good barometer of the cross-section of people you're likely to encounter in the world...we're a representative sample. There are those who will reach out to you and give you helpful, solid advice, and then there are those who will recommend harmful behavior either sarcastically or out of their own misery-laced perspective ( such as the moron who advised you to try solving your woes with alcohol) simply because life isn't treating them the way they think they should be treated. We all have people in our lives that have a parasitical grasp on us ( people that want to use us) but there are others that show genuine concern. As much as possible for the rest of your life, try to surround yourself with positive people, and you will develop positive habits that will serve you for a lifetime. Good luck with this journey. And good luck to us all.
2006-07-29 17:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't sound like very good friends to me. First of all I wouldn't do them anymore favors. They aren't doing you any! You need to find friends that really care. I know that is much easier said than done but you definately should try. I think I would rather have no friends at all than to have to deal with the ones you have now.
2006-07-29 17:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Smartypants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you need help go to your famliy they will help and they love you . Your so called friend i don't have many too and i would start to look for new ones . In the past six months i had about 10 friends come and gone and not one of them like me today and i would not have it any other way
2006-07-29 17:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by ranger19802003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your "friends" to go screw themselves, and find new ones. Real ones. Any boddy who treats you like that is not you freind there just using you. Look at all the people who already want to be your friend!!
2006-07-29 17:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you help sincerely you dont have to worry your freind will know some how like you know for yourself about your friend,how good they are to you,keep your mind clear love comes with in not from outside
2006-07-29 17:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by muhammad m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell u what to do, tell them off, tell them what u think of their name calling, if they stop then they're ur friends if not stop helpin' 'em. E-mail me instead, I'll b ur friend and wont call u stuff,K? Cances r that they r just trying to show off to their other friends. Those r not very good friends n u probably deserve better.
2006-07-29 17:32:15 · answer #11 · answered by Todd N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋