Why are men so concerned with a woman's weight?

Question

Why is it if you put on weight, they decide they are not attracted to you any more? But they can get bald and fat and it doesn't matter? No where in the wedding vows did I see anything about if your wife gets fat it is o.k. to act like an *** and with hold sex? What do you think, guys and girls please tell me?

Especially, if you were not thin when you got together and he was happy with you then, why can't he be happy now?

Answer 1

Me I started going out BBW all the time. Why, becasue they are beautiful, just had me go crazy. smiling.

My Wife not as big fat or anything but when she had 2 small children she wasn't very happy with her weight. I told my wife You know I love you no matter what. She said why? Honey, you always turn me on no matter what you looks like the outside. You are the same person from the inside and sure made me love you more everyday.

I do make love with my wife no matte what. I am glad i started big woman why? My wife felt so good inside and she has lost so much weight and where she is so happy. she told me that I was the Luckiest man in the world for loving her and made her feel good about herself.

If I was started thin women I might be a different person. I am so mad how men treat their women like that why can't they love her and show support love, caring, giver, stuff like that no they talk crap, name calling, stuff that hurts women feelings making them eat and unhappy and gain more weight and not feel love for themself.

I told my wife wow I am so fat now you getting thin. She tells me Honey I love you no matter what you look like becasue you love no matter what I look like. Wow, she sure made me feel good. smiling.

Answer 2

Concerned with the size and weight of his penis! lol... ok, seriously, that was childish. Here is the thing, sure... men are concerned with a woman's weight, but in all fairness, that is correctable. Whereas women are concerned with things that are not, like money or height. A man can't simply make money appear out of thin air to buy flowers, dates, car... but women look for these things. A man can't change his God given height, but a woman will write off a man simply because his height doesn't match her shoes. Is that fair?

Answer 3

Not all men are concerned about thier wifes or girlfriends weight and those that are is the ones that has the real problem for not being nice & considerent of ones feelings & if he's with holding sex from you buy a toy that will help you until he does come around to his senses

Answer 4

Ok... I could go on with something someone else said, but, me being me, I'm not. Here goes, please bear with me.

I married a lumpy lady. I went for personallity (and cooking skills, too. She's majoring in Culinary Arts.) and heart over body fat percentage. I don't really notice if she's getting fatter or slimmer, yet she does. At any rate, I don't think I'm gonna divorce her, except if she plans on leaving me. I love her too much.

As for men getting fat and bald and unattractive and acting like it shouldn't matter (especially if they're ripping you about a little weight gain), then you're with the wrong man.

Answer 5

First, ALL men are NOT concerned about a woman's weight. Obviously yours is. (I am too) A healthy person is a person who takes care of themself and has self control. Most overweight Americans are that way because weak, undisciplined, and too lazy to learn proper nutrition and change their eating and exercise habits. If you travel around the world you'll see we are one of the most overweight, if not THE most overweight culture in the world. Clearly some people have medical issues that affect their weight, but most people just don't care enough about themselves to change.

That's not attractive. A healthy woman is strong and empowered and that IS attractive.

Witholding sex is a much deeper issue that requires a counselor to get to the source of it.

Answer 6

Weight's not an issue w/me... How about you...? Remember when you were young and all those fat, bald men that you found so appealing then that you just couldn't get enough of...? Neither do I and neither does your husband... You've got an entirely valid point, though, with regard to the wedding vows... However, most men - and women, for that matter - think of them as merely "guidelines" and disrespect their promises to God...
But hey, don't get me started...!

Answer 7

Some men want to live out certain fantasies which may include having a slender woman or wife; and then, there women who feel the same way.

Really, it's just a matter of personal preference. I believe people with such hangups shouldn't get involved with anyone with the intentions of changing them.

Answer 8

Unfortunately we are living in a busy world where human values are diminishing. Most of the people dont find time to think but act according to their instant sense. People want everything easily but dont want to work for it. Marriage is the most sacred, but today it is on papers (alas - 'marry today and divorce tomorrow is possible'). You seem to be living in a society where beauty of a woman is certified by others and that too a 'skeleton sketch'. Look around the world in particular Asia, Africa, Far East.

Answer 9

I think that alot of men are shallow that way. If they didn't think they would love you if your appearance changed, then they shouldn't have made the vows and gotten married. You can't be with someone for their looks and expect to be happy forever. It's what's on the inside that counts. Relationships cannot be built on appearance...they need to be built on trust, honesty, love, friendship, etc. Just think of it this way..if your man doesn't love you anymore because you put on a little weight, that's his loss because he's going to be lonely someday if he continues to be judgemental. No one in this world is perfect!

Answer 10

The media tell us to! Most men in reality don't mind some gain in weight, but there is a big difference to some weight, overweight and obese. Of course you are entitled to condemn those who condemn you, but I think you come closer to the desired effect if you bend his negatives to positives. A little exercise never hurt anyone, on the contrary. As long as all you do is counter his negatives with yours, you are only allowing the downward spiral more space in your relationship. So buy jogging shoes, go lift some weight and see how soon he picks you up again.

Answer 11

Every guy likes to have a hot wife. And who says that women don't lose their attraction to their partners when they get fat? I've seen lots of questions about that. I don't think this is about vows, I think its about respect for yourself and your spouse. If he didn't marry a fat woman then he didn't take those vows with a fat woman now did he? On the sex thing, people can yell about it being wrong all they want but the fact is that if you don't find someone attractive you aren't going to want to have sex with them. If a woman was saying my man wants me to have sex and I don't want to we would all say well he's a jerk and shouldn't ask you to do things you don't want to do, isn't that what is happening here? Nobody wants to have sex with someone they aren't attracted to...it would sure change the bar scene if they did though wouldn't it? Sorry, right or wrong, if my man got fat I might stick by him but no way he'd be getting any!