i'm a straight guy but have started to have some 'feelings' for my good guy friend. i think he might be gay, but i'm not sure- so let's just assume he's straight. i'd like to tell him how i feel about him, but i'm not sure if it's a wise thing to do (afraid it'll ruin our friendship, etc.).
the plot thickens/more info: this guy and i are in college. we became good friends quickly (we'd hang out and drink together, he'd always send me instant messages, etc.), and after months of getting to know each other, i told him that i 'really liked' him. i guess i wanted to tell him the truth right then, but when he asked, 'so you're gay?', i shyed away and said no.
ever since then, it's been different between us: i always feel that i have to initiate our conversations- and when i do, he doesn't talk much. i also feel like he's avoiding me.
so i guess my questions are: 1) why do you think he's acting like this, and 2) should i tell him how i truly feel?
2006-07-29 17:10:15 · 10 answers · asked by A B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
are you gay.......if so then say so
2006-07-29 17:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by cleopatrais42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off. You will probley get alot of stupid biggots making stupid remarks to this question just ignore them. What you really need to do is talk to your friend. Ask him why since you made that comment to him he has seemed to shy away and seems to be withdrawn from the friendship. Perhaps its possiable that he is gay and when you said you were not he thought that maybe you were trying to trick him into saying that he was. Just ask him why you may find out that there really is no problem. Good Luck ]
2006-07-29 17:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much of being interpreted as homosexuality, but "other guys" doesn't fall in the appropriate list of "Things guys talk about." It's a courtesy really, you wouldn't tell your best friend you'd like to bang their wife, would you? However, the art of admiration for a man's looks by another guy is a tricky subject to mention, and normally buried. Saying "Man, that guy must get it good." is roughly translated as "I think that guy looks good." without actually stating so. It's because of the subltities in Men's conversation that we do subconciously that only men understand their intricasies.
2016-03-27 06:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard to tell someone how you feel. Even more so in your situation. Love is crazy and it hardly ever makes sense. If you never tell him you will never know for sure. I know it is scary to think you may loose him altogether but you must tell him. Whatever happens is meant to be. Just trust that and go with your heart.
2006-07-29 17:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ocean H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is gay and likes you but since you told him you are not gay then he is kind of shy and scared to tell you also. i think you should tell him how you truely feel and see how he responds. if he is a true friend he should still be your friend even if he doesnt like you that way.
2006-07-29 17:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by ::Hannah:: 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first ask him to dinner. say you want to hang out or something then ask his opinion about the gay lifestyle. see what he says if you get the feeling he might be gay then ask him. point blank. then tell him how you feel. and just wing it from there.
2006-07-29 17:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Teri D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight guys don't have those kinds of feelings for other guys. It just doesn't happen. So, you may need to re-think your sexual orientation title bud.
2006-07-29 17:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by kel_kat28 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if he is avoiding you because of what you said. If hes an honest friend he'll open up to you.
2006-07-29 17:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by inquiring minds want to know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off your not a straight guy, And you probably grossed him out.
2006-07-29 17:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by chubbiguy40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your gay
2006-07-29 17:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋