I found out my husband has an account with Adult Friend Finder, now what?

Question

Incase you are not familiar with it, it is a site to hook up with local people for sex....

my_eskies~~ I dont know who you are but for your info I have been married for 9 years... AND you have been reported

Answer 1

I'd find him a adult place to stay, like in an Attorneys Chair and a few papers to sign, while I was taking his Computer to the pond shop to finish off that deal.

Answer 2

If you know he's not happy and you want to save your marriage, start doing the things he likes to do. No matter how busy or how tired you are, keeping your man is like competing for a job. You always wanna be on top or at least try. If that doesn't work, ask him if he's happy? and if he isn't ask him what you guys can do to make your marriage better. Plan a romantic evening, be spontaneous. Occupy his time so he has no time for Adult Finder. In the end if nothing works out, catch him cheating or get proof and get a divorce. Dont take everything from him, just take whats yours and the support for your kids! Don't be greedy.

Answer 3

Obviously he has an account for a specific reason. How do you feel about him "stepping out" on your marriage? You know that is the only reason he would need that account. I have a feeling this is not the first time you suspected him of something or you would not have bothered to look for this account.

Is he worth your broken trust? Would you want to stay with someone who has no respect for your feelings? From your name I am guessing you have children that may end up effected by his actions. How would he like it if his children get older and find out what daddy has been doing all those years? He sounds like a self-centered and selfish person.

How would you like to proceed? Do you want to stay with him? Are things better if you stay together no matter what, or would they be better if you got away from this?

I would like you to consider three things.
1) counseling - even if he is not going you need to go to seek help in how you handle this
2) consult a lawyer. See what you would lose and what you would gain in case you cannot tolerate this any more
3) make a list of the goods things about staying in the marriage and the bad things about staying in the marriage. If the bad list is longer you may want to consider leaving.

Answer 4

apparently you spend your time at home dressed up like gramma, you give no importance to the sexual part of your relationship. his only way to feel sexual is creating a virtual illusion with friend finder. and chances are you've bored the sex out of him and hes looking for dudes on line. I would suggest some thing like Winguard a simple keylogger that will go undetected and you could see everything he does on line. and if you real want to piss him off for the stupid $hit you can create a really sexy account on the same site hes in and add him as a friend. that should get some sparks out his A$$.

Answer 5

I caught my husband doing the same exact thing and I know how much it hurts and disappoints you. Confront him and find out why..that's the number one thing you can do. You need answers and you need to know if he's been cheating on you with anyone he might have found on there. Don't let him make you feel like he did it because you are to blame. He knows how to think for himself and he knows the difference between right and wrong. If you find out he has cheated on you and you don't think you can handle it, get out of the relationship. If he cared about you, he wouldn't be in search of it in other places. And if he's done it once, who's to say he hasn't done it more than that or won't do it again? I hope my advice helps...good luck!

Answer 6

Girl, I am really sorry about that. You guys have been married for a long time. So I would confront him on the account he has w/AFF. That site is for people looking for a good "****" (if you know what I mean) & that is about it. Its okay, if your single & looking for a good time but NOT FOR MARRIED PEOPLE! I would tell him either delete that account or he just needs to move on. I wish you the best. Good luck!

Answer 7

You need to find out if this is just curiosity or if he really is acting upon something. If you have serious doubts then you may want to hire a computer expert to check out your pc for evidence or hire a Private investigator and follow him. Do you have any suspicions? Does he work late all the time or find excuses to go somewhere without you?

Answer 8

Don't despair..you sign up as well using a different name but you profile, look him up and see what it is he is looking for and be that for him. Go so far as setting up a date with him. Go on the date and surprise the crap out of him. It may be just the excitement that your marriage needs.

Answer 9

Does he know that you know? If not then start collecting evidence and getting prepared to get divorced. From the questions you have been posting today it sounds like its all over but the leaving anyway. Good luck to you!

Answer 10

Just for the hell of it, I had a look at that site. Geez......... if you can't account for every minute he is not with you, I'd assume he is making contacts with some of those people. Hmmmmmmm. Those who do that are called sex addicts. Good luck......Don't see hhow you can retain any respect for him for that....