Ok, I have a friend that has been pretty horrible to me in the past. For example, she would make me buy her lunch everday or she would give me the silent treatment if i didn't. She also would get upset if I hung out with anyone but her and she would constantly make me feel like she is much more superior and more attractive than me which resulted in a loss of self esteem for me. She is great when she is a nice person but those times come rarely and thats why i hang out with her. I hope she will be the nice person i know she can be. Should I just stop talking to her? How do I distance myself from her so that it isn't so harsh? Also, she lives right near me and we have to see each other on the bus everyday so I don't want things to be awkward unless they have to. HELP!
2006-07-29 17:02:26 · 10 answers · asked by Katie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have had talks with her and she gets amd and just leaves
2006-07-29 17:06:42 · update #1
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2006-07-29 17:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am curious...How does she MAKE you do anything? The silent treatment? Are you afraid of the silent treatment? She doesn't sound like any definition I have come across as a friend type, and I have been around a while!
So let her pout,and not speak. You don't have to be treated like that. I would personally rather have a friend.
2006-07-29 17:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misery loves company. Does she have friends besides you. Personally, I would leave her alone. If she cared anything about you as a friend she would not hold something so petty as to not converse with you just cuz you didn't buy her lunch. You are not responsible for feeding her. I would tell her how you feel because she might actually be oblivious to her own actions. Then, if she doesn't apologize, then i would commense to ignoring her ***. Don't worry about the seeing her everyday situation, just think that she is not good for you. You come first.
2006-07-29 17:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by high_yella305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...........u sound as though you may be co-dependent.....Worse, you say that she makes you do this, and makes you do that however, no one can make you do anything. We choose our own destinies. You have chosen to stay in this relationship for whatever reason, and this is something that you are going to have to figure out for yourself; nobody can do that for you.. We also teach people how to treat us; if we allow people to walk all over us, then that's what happens; if we set up limits and boundaries with people and let them know where to get off at, then they usually end up respecting you in the long run for having the courage to take care of yourself. Either way, only you can change the nature of this relationship. Sit your friend down and tell her exactly what you've shared with us; let her know how you feel and then tell her if the situation doesn't change; you will have to do something different where your relationship with her is concerned.....and don't just say it....do it!!!...
2006-07-29 17:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends like that too. She doesn't give me a silent treatment but she gets really pissed off. If you really think you can keep her as a friend go for it. Talk it out with her! Just say it nicely like "Are you going through something tough? Do you want to talk about it?" or things like that (:
2006-07-29 21:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by missjaneyxD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u should 1st have a seriou talk with her, she sounds like she has issues. She may have problems that causes he r to be this way. So have a talk with her about the way she acts
2006-07-29 17:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me shes more like a bully than a friend I'd tell her straight up to start treating you like a friend or go find another person to mooch off of
2006-07-29 17:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by camarozsonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be aroundpeople taht make you feel like less than you should which is fabulous. real frinds have a give and take relationship. she just wants to take. give her the boot.
2006-07-29 17:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by tinyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can migrate for once reason
or mayb u juz ignore her.. there are alot of other gal who prefer to be ur true fren
2006-07-29 17:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by kzzxguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure but just start treating her the way she treats you
2006-07-29 17:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋