How do I know if I am still in love with him or just still *care* about him??? What do I do??? I think about it alot.
2006-07-29 17:01:17 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, he is not YOUR man any more so stop thinking of him in that way. He has a name so use the name. Make him as impersonal as you can be not using any pronouns to identify him.
It is time for you to stop thinking about him a lot. You need to get involved with something else that will occupy your time and your thoughts. A hobby? Your job? Any children? Form new friendships? Get your mind busy with something else and your preoccupation with your ex will diminish.
2006-07-29 17:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are constantly looking back to the past that is where you will stay, how can you move ahead when you can't see where you are going? What is he doing these days? I'm sure if he was calling or spending time with you it would be mentioned here but it isn't so I'm guessing he has moved on with his life and his divorce is just some annoying thing he went through in his past. You need to let go of it and figure out where you want to go because you can't change history. It's already done, its in the books and can't be changed and can't be fixed. Start imaging what you want your life to be in the FUTURE and start taking steps to get there. Also, ask yourself if it is really HIM, who he was, the way he treated you, how he made you feel that you actually miss, something certainly went wrong or there never would have been a divorce. Is it perhaps the IDEA of being married to someone (not necesssarily him) that you love and miss? They are two different things and people often get them all tangled up together. Good luck to you!
2006-07-30 00:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has moved on, then you should too.
2006-07-30 00:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋