I wanna know how to be more aggressive....dont get me wrong i like my nice guy personality and dont wanna change it........but i wanna be more the type of guy whos nice to people but at the same time wont put up with bull **** from idiots out there because we know there are idiots out there.
2006-07-29 16:55:39 · 3 answers · asked by anonymous 27 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To not tolerate B.... from other people, doesn't have to mean getting loud and angry. You have to set up your own boundaries; you have to decide when to stand your ground, and when to let something slide. I've found that when you can be gracious yet firm, you maintain the high ground. I advise you to think of the strength of someone like Gandhi, or Dr. Martin Luther King, who were known for their peaceful natures, BUT, they simply did not give up their principles, no matter how badly someone treated them. (and they won. Even though King was assassinated, he won) As someone said, no one can take away your dignity, unless you let them.
A good book (it may also be available on audio) is "The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense". It offers strategies in being alert to subtle ways in which "put-downs" occur, and how to out-maneuver "difficult people".
2006-07-29 17:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by Joya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make direct eye contact, don't look away and speak your mind. People will know you can be passive and get along with anyone but you can also be aggressive if they push your wrong buttons.
2006-07-30 00:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it in a non-aggressive way. Say no with a smile.
2006-07-30 03:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋