In the end he can't make the final decision (cuz the woman signs the birth certificate, he doesnt have to), but if I go through with it we might wind up getting divorced cuz in his mind it's a lack of respect towards him, even though I AM the one pressing that big thing out of my body and messing up my shape!
2006-07-29 16:54:00 · 39 answers · asked by Boo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
In the end he can't make the final decision (cuz the woman signs the birth certificate, he doesnt have to), but if I go through with it we might wind up getting divorced cuz in his mind it's a lack of respect towards him, even though I AM the one pressing that big thing out of my body and messing up my shape!
He has his mind set to a certain name he wants and wont step back from it, I said, my name first and his name as a second, but he only wants to agree to it if his is first and mine is second...
2006-07-29 17:04:35 · update #1
it's up to you!
why don't you two pick a name you BOTH like! Or mix and match names!
2006-07-29 16:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by alexandra k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pressing that big thing out of your body that is half his DNA. You are working hard for a few minutes to push it out. He's going to work hard for eighteen years for $$ at least to support this kid. Especially if you leave him with and make him pay child support. You need to agree on a name, it's not only your child.
It makes me laugh that women would feel superior over something that they don't do by themselves. By the same token, men have no right to claim that they do anything family-related by themselves. You are a couple now. 50-50 or 0-0. Any gains are not your own. Any losses are all the child's.
2006-07-29 17:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with who "pushes the big thing out". He has as much say as you do. If naming a baby is TRULY the issue (although it seems that there is probably more to it) why don't the two of you sit down and make a list of the names that you like. Then, compare lists and see if you have the same names anywhere. Good luck to you.
2006-07-29 17:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Helen T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married he has to sign the certificate. It would be different if you were not married, but even if you were to divorce before the baby was born his name would still be on it because it is his child. Sit down and agree on a name BEFORE the birth. If you are fighting all the time you need to go into counseling so your child is not born into a war zone.
2006-07-29 16:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the name you have and the name he has and put it together. Like use your first name choice and his middle name choice or vice versa. It should be a mutual agreement. Please don't fight to much over this, the stress is to harmful for the baby. Me and my husband came to an agreement when we found out I was pregnant with my first child. I named the girls and he named the boys. We only wanted two and we both got to pick names out. But when the 3rd child came, I picked out the first name and he picked out the middle name. I hope you two can come to an agreement soon. Good luck
2006-07-29 17:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! It looks like your partner is too stubborn, doesn't seems to be comprehensive, caring for you or demostrating love to you. I have 41 years of marriage, that's why I can speak with experience. Men are very selfish, first are they and last are they. Their mind doesn't let them think the correct way. If at the beginning he is presenting this way of being, I am sorry for you, really. If life continues this way, don't wait years to get divorce, it will be an error, really, it will be worst. Life is too short and complicated, imagine if we fight for simple things, how it will be in only few months or years...is going to be a war. The way you meet a man, that is the same way he is going to be all his life. "Nobody changes the character of nobody" A marriage is of two persons!!! Congratulations for your new baby........! Wish you the best!!!........pray a lot....GOD BLESS YOU!
2006-07-29 18:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by rosy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there are other issues wrong with your marriage besides the baby's name. You both need to sit down and have a serious discussion regarding everything. Discuss the baby's name and compromise-agree on a name you both like for the first name and use the one you like for the second name.
compromise - Patricia
you like - Sandra
baby's name - Patricia Sandra
2006-07-29 17:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a minor thing like a name of child will cause a divorce, then there is little chance that your marriage will work out in the long run anyway.
Sounds like you shouldn't have gotten married and had children with the guy.
2006-07-29 16:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this, there's no point in arguing. It's his child too and you should both agree on a name. Ask if you can have your pick as a middle name? Go back to the drawing board and try to find something you both like.
2006-07-29 16:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, if you are married that , * this body is mine* thing just dont wash..... yes, in most matters it does, but a baby between a couple is just that, a baby !!! and it is PART OF 2 people , NOT one or the other. so I would say the naming falls to the both of you.. you choose one and let the daddy choose the other.... put a few names, you choose in 1 hat and a few he chooses into another..... pick and choose one name from each hat.... then call it even and halt the fueding..... God bless
2006-07-29 17:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep coming with Ideas until u come up with something u both like. Try using both ideas for one for the 1st and the other for the middle name. My husband has a girl middle name so I just through his name in and he was estatic.
2006-07-29 16:59:52 · answer #11 · answered by Porsha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋