I think my husband is "seeing" other women on the computer. is there a way i can look in the computer to find the answers i need? By the way , he is really good at hiding all info because i have cought him before. any info helps:)
Tammy
2006-07-29 16:50:32 · 21 answers · asked by T K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Clearly, you no longer trust him.
You won't be able to find all the ways he can use computers or other
methods for communicating with other women - does he have access
to a computer at work? Can he buy a throw-away phone?
I think you need to approach this the other way - tell him that you don't
think you are connecting with him - that it feels like he has a relationship
with someone else, probably on the computer (don't tell him what you
know) - and that you and he need to work on building trust.
If things change, great. If not, well, its time to move on.
2006-07-29 16:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Elana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know there are certain programs you can buy to track down every little thing on a computer. I'm not sure how much these cost...but if you are that worried you may want to look in to it.
If you cannot trust your husband, why are you with him anyway? Trust is key to making a relationship work, and its obvious that its lacking. Trust your gut, if you think he's up to no good...leave. If you can't get passed and build the trust up from his previous indescretions your marriage will never last...or at least you wont be happy!
A simple way to check (Unless he knows how to delete it) is to check your history. Also a sneaky way to make your husband not have access to stuff on the computer is to set your Content Advisor. Go to your TOOLS menu when you open an Internet Explorer page and hit INTERNET OPTIONS, then CONTENT.
You choose a password and you choose what level of language, sexuality, violence, etc you want to be viewed. Anything above what you choose won't be able to be viewed without a password. You also won't be able to open pages of messengers either. If he gets upset, explain to him that you simply cannot trust him after what he has done previously. Tell him if he hadn't done that in the first place it wouldn't be a problem. Explain that doing this will make you feel much more at ease and that should truly make him happy if he's not doing anything wrong.
Good luck
2006-07-29 16:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You caught one time Honey and you didn't throw him out to the cows for a while? Teach that man a lesson and leave him, then he'll lose the computer Women and just love you so much! Oh. and by the way you can place something on his computer to spy on him, get to the Computer store and catch him in the act by buying you a spy cam. But I warn you first that you may not want to see what you might already know. Then take the first advise I gave you, Good luck sweets.
2006-07-29 16:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SWEETHEART,IVE SAT AND READ ALL THE ANSWERES,I AM A PEER ADVISOR FOR THE E.A.P.IN NEW YORK STATE.IF YOUR MARRAGE IS WORTH A DAM FIND OUT WHY.THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG AND HE IS SEEKING WHAT HE NEEDS ELSEWHERE.SEX?COMMUNACATIONS?LOVE?THERE IS TROUBLE SOMEWHERE.SEEK A COUNCLER AND TRY TO WORK IT OUT.DIVORCE ISNT NEEDED IF THERE IS STILL A SPARK.TRY BEFORE YOU DECIDE YOU CANT DO ANY MORE,CONFRONT HIM FIRST.AND LET HIM KNOW YOU FEEL THERE IS COMPUTER ACTIVITY.HE CAN DELETE HIS FILES BUT YOU CAN NEVER DELETE THE MAINFRAME.ITS BURNT INTO THE HARD DRIVE FOREVER,THATS HOW THE F.B.I FINDS OUT,UNLOADING THE HARDDRIVE.BUT YOU CANT HAVE THAT DONE.FIX IT AND YOU MAY STOP THE PROBLEM.FIND OUT YOUR MARRITAL PROBLEMS BEFORE YOU SAY F.IT.(DM)
2006-07-31 07:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by lickit4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to keep this man around? And if so, WHY? When men turn to other women, it's because they are looking for something they aren't getting at home. Instead of playing sherlock and checking on his every move, put that energy into finding out what he's missing in his life. And if it's just variety....put that energy into packing up your stuff and moving on.
2006-07-29 16:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart. I know exactly how you feel through personal experiences of my own. My only advice would be stop! It is so easy to get caught up, sucked in and consumed by the need for answers. What you want to know is whether or not he is cheating on you. When you are consumed by this fear, it will do nothing but eat you up inside until you may begin to look for attention on the same sites he visited. Women take Internet activity that men abuse as a statement they are making that we are not living up to their expectations and needs. Women tend to feel down and hurt or feel and believe that we are not fulfilling or satisfying our man, our hearts bleed and need to find reassurance through others acceptance or desire for us. Before we know what is going on, we are ready to cheat on our man because we need to feel wanted. Then we have the mindset that they are definitely cheating because we cannot trust ourselves. It is a vicious cycle. Please try to avoid getting sucked in and follow your instincts. Ask him to go to counseling with you or have heart to heart talks with him. It is so scary knowing what is out there on the Internet. Good luck.
2006-07-29 17:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems which you and this different lady are permitting your husband to manage the the two one among you. He calls her in front of you, tells her off, you're confident and happy, he then is going to her, explains why he had to do it, he apologises and on and on the game is going. you're saying you're no longer able to circulate away because of fact of your 2 infants, he knows this so he keeps to cheat. there is no incentive at enthusiastic approximately him to no longer. How lots evidence do you elect? i'm sorry to declare yet you're in denial and function favored to stay there as the thank you to avert the reality. only understand, without substitute or action, issues will stay as they are. you would be able to desire to end being the pushover he has come to work out you as and instruct your infants a solid occasion on how lots a woman would desire to post with. Plan and discover the economic aspects to circulate on far off from this deceiving husband of yours. that's under no circumstances hassle-free to stand up and do what you understand is robust for you yet interior the long-term it is nicely worth it for the self understand you start to sense. better of success to you!
2016-12-10 18:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you start anything, you need to find out if this feeling your having is paranoia or just plain ol intuitiion..
He clearly doesn't hide things well if you ahve caught him hiding info before.
The best thing for you to do is to ask him if he's talking to other women.. You married him, you'll know if he's lying..Theres no need to snoop around..
2006-07-29 16:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have caught him before I mean cmon you don't need anything other than that...but if it is Yahoo you know you can like go to login and then say you forgot your password and type in his info and his screen name and get the password and see if he archives stuff or emails whatever!
2006-07-29 16:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can take the computer to a specialist, my friend's husband found out his dad was cheating on his mom, that way. they read the love emails. don't delay--you might get ill over this
2006-07-29 16:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋