Don is a former co-worker that I fell in love with instantly. He declares his love for me with passion, but he's married. Not to mention I was involved with his brother. Did I mention that he and his brother are identical twins? Don's wife had a sexual relationship with my ex-husband and she still confers with him regularly. Sounds like a soap opera, I know, but I really love him. I have never felt this strongly about any man in my life. I've cut all ties I have with any other man, waiting for Don. I know it's stupid and it's unfair to me to put my life on hold waiting for something that may never happen, but I can't help it. What should I do?
2006-07-29 16:02:56 · 13 answers · asked by shona71 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, it is a lovely feeling to be in love.
He is married and that is it. You need
to be strong and walk away. Tell him
you'd be interested if he was going to
leave his wife and get a divorce. You
need to set a boundary. Don't be trapped
into a relationship that is not really giving
you that true love and devotation you need.
Take care of yourself, and build a life that
you are worthy of. Do you want trust or
dishonesty.
2006-07-29 16:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by tychi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might feel like he is the most wonderful man, but obviously he doesn't feel the same about you. If he cared soooo much he would be getting a divorce and waiting until it was final to start a relationship with you. It's true what you hear "once a cheater always a cheater".
2006-07-29 16:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going down a very dangerous path, sounds to me like you have been there before as well. Probably has not worked out well before for you either.
You know what you should do, but you probably won't do it. On your current path you will either end up waiting a long time alone or destroying a marriage. Sounds to me like a lose lose situation.
2006-07-29 16:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will wait forever, and he will never leave his wife. I know from experience. The longer you wait, the more resentful you will get, but the more afraid/unable you will be to let yourself get close to other men. The sooner you get out of this relationship, the better!!!! It is a bad scene.
2006-07-29 16:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by B C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married you need to just go on with life and also if he is in this relationship with you while he is with his wife well what will happen when marriage gets rough with you you will be the wife at home living in hell because he is seeing someone else.Just remember what comes around goes around becareful
2006-07-29 16:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was in a similar situation with a colleague a few years back. The long and short of it is: he will never leave her. Please stop abusing yourself--give yourself some respect and find a great man who can give his whole self to you, it is what you deserve! You may feel helpless in this situation, but I think that you'll discover that you have many untapped resources inside of youself. Good luck!
2006-07-29 18:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are happy men and there are married men. If he is so unhappy with his wife he can leave her, maybe even marry you, and shortly after meet someone else and be unhappily married to you! Look at other single men. Pleanty of really nice guys are around!
2006-07-29 16:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are right, that is really stupid. Why would you ever want to share a man with another woman?
I think you should move on without him messing your life UNLESS he is planning to divorce with his wife. If a married man ever declares his love to another woman, he could do it to yet another woman. Be realistic and think about it..
2006-07-29 16:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by wennefoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life! He belongs to someone else and he's not leaving his wife for you.....for goodness sake you had sex with his twin brother and twins are really close....he's just enjoying the free sex!
2006-07-29 16:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Missylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he is ever going to leave his wife for you and if he says no then just walk away...... no drama....or maybe just go out with his twin brother if he says no i mean if they look the same maybe the sex will be as good......lol
2006-07-29 16:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋