Family is grieving?

Question

My wife lost her sister a few months ago. Her husband, her mom and dad, and her sister are grieving hard. Four months later, her brother in law's older brother whom they were all close too, Shoots himself in the heart in his bath tub in the same house that my wifes sister died in. My sister in law's cause of death is unknown. Her heart just stopped. No explanation. They don't know how to grieve. I am trying to get in a position to help them because I have experience with this. I have lost my parents, two brothers, six uncles, three aunts, and five friends that I was very close too. How can I help them get to a point that isn't self destructive? I don't feel anything. I'm numb to the whole death thing, so I can't empathize anymore. Need suggestions.

Answer 1

Oh, Wow, where should I start.
First I want to tell you that feeling numb is a normal reaction to multiple deaths. I too have experienced a rash of deaths, right in the middle of my aunts, uncles and grandparents deaths my beloved soul mate and husband died. After his death, death no longer phases me like it use to. I am still very empathic to those who lose loved ones. I still hurt when someone I care for dies, but I don't cry and don't fall to pieces.
Second, just be there for them.
Third, it sounds like some of your in-laws have unfinished business with the deceased one. A good way to deal with this is for each of them to sit down and write a letter to deceased one. They need to stop feeling responsible for his death. They aren't, you know.
Fourth: you may want to look at your own unresolved issues with death and those who have died, to lose ones empathy for others is a sign in itself that you have some issues left.
Good Luck.
oh, you may look for a Survivors or Suicide group in your state/area to help your in-laws.

Answer 2

That is a very hard thing to go through. My condolances to all! I would start looking for bereavement support groups, especially a few dedicated to coping after the suicide as a loved one. I would definately encourage the family to go together. Also, individual counseling if they can get it. It sounds like now is the time to have a professional step in and help guide everyone how to start putting the peices back together.

Answer 3

You may have experience with family deaths but in a totally unrelated way. When somebody kills themselves the family tends to blame themselves for not seeing it coming and not being there in the deathees time of need. Suicide is very unpredictable way to die so the family probably feels they should have bben more a part of his life and that might have prevented it.

Answer 4

U can not help them, help yourself calm first by think of what r going on now in Lebanon, what had happened in Tsunami in Indonesia and more....in our world, but the human being is still survived. So, let the past pass by and the future is coming for better.

Answer 5

Too much for one person to handle other than to
JUST BE THERE .

There are Grief Support groups available and you should encourage the family to investigate these..Also, it would be
a good idea to check in with the family physician for
help re depression.

Answer 6

Take your wife to counseling it's not the normal type grieving they are going through. Suicide is really harder to deal with and people deal differently. Good Luck

Answer 7

I will pray to Jesus for you and you do them same. Gods word states "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning." [Psalms 30:5

Answer 8

OK

If you can go through that kind of shi* and NOT feel like killing your self then I would start talking to them without asking us for information. You must be very clever at this!

If you can't, then they need to seek special help and NOW.

CREED

Answer 9

Geez, you're like a death magnet... stay away

Answer 10

damn,whos left ?