have a male friend who is strictly a friend who wants to take me on vacation. Should I go?
2006-07-29 15:58:44 · 16 answers · asked by toothbrushx2 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds like it's time for an ultimatum.
Let your boyfriend know where you stand, and how unhappy you are that you are not getting the time and attention you need.
If he's resolved to put his success before you, move on ...
... and go clear your mind on vacation with your male friend. I won't tell you it's not gonna hurt breaking up with him, but it's for the best. It's good to know your priorities, and your needs are just as important as his.
Now, once you've broken up with the boyfriend, what you do or don't do with the male friend is entirely up to you.
2006-07-29 16:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by LibraHorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by talking to him about it. If he doesn't try to change by spending more time with you, then ask yourself if you can live with him working for the rest of your life. If you stay with him and don't like him anymore, you are wasting your time and his. Once you break up, he might realize that he really loves you and try to get you back and change.
About going on vacation with your friend...if it were the other way around, him going on vacation with one of his friends that is a girl, would you want him to go? I personally wouldn't want my husband going on a trip with some other girl without me and I totally trust him. The most important thing you can do in a relationship is to talk. I hope I have helped! :)
2006-07-29 16:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before making a decision on wether to go on vacation with your friend or not, you need to talk to your boyfriend about this, let him know what's going on.
If your bf is not giving you what you need, if you don't feel entirely happy with him, then I would recommend you to consider the idea of having a break and be able to do things on your own or with friends, without having to ask your bf if he's ok with that.
2006-07-29 17:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do, do not go on that vacation unless you plan on leaving your boyfriend. I know you feel that you and that are are rreal good friends, but vacations make people get really close and they start to see that "friend" in a whole new beautiful light. Plus, would you let him do it?
2006-07-29 16:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by FreeBass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the workaholic and enjoy your vacation--but bring
your cell phone, laptop and airfare home...just in case.
2006-07-29 16:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Baffled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go Im sure your boyfriend will be too busy to miss you any way. If he works so much he isn't on a fixed income.
2006-07-29 16:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by George J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a commitment to your b/f, then don't go. If not go on the trip and deal with workaholic later.
2006-08-02 13:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by LittleLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say use this opportunity to get back on ur boyfriend, i know this may just be friends hang out together. but you need to show your boyfriend the importance of having you. tell him that since he doesnt have time to spend with you. u just need to have fun ur own way. wait for his response then decide if its worth it to go with your buddies.
2006-07-29 16:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by tenchi_inu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if it doesn't bother your boyfriend. Or if you are willing to end the relationship bottom line it's your choice. But those may be the end results.
2006-07-29 16:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would dump your boyfriend as a workaholic will never change
2006-07-29 16:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ivanhoe Fats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋