talk behind my back. I caught him today talking with a store clerk (male) while loading his truck with some material we purchased. The guy was helping him load it, and he made a nasty remark about me, and he didn't know I heard him. Ok keep in mind that he always says I don't do that to you, why should I you are a great wife and I adore you, Yeah Right? and Yes I confronted him on it, and of course he tried to deny it..
2006-07-29 15:57:48 · 15 answers · asked by Sunflower 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As for la_vaca_mooo
the jerk below named, for your information, he is sitting here, and he knows I asked for opinions, just to show him how much of an a s s he was... so bite me..la_vaca-mooo
2006-07-29 16:19:11 · update #1
My husband used to do the same thing to me. He would do it at work though. His mistake was my brother worked there as well and told me what he was saying. I don't think it's so much the fact that they make remarks, it's more that you can't figure out why they are directed to the person they are married to.
That's like the ultimate blow. They are supposed to love you, yet they talk crap about you. Personally, I think it's the whole male ego thing when they are around other men. It's like "Check me out, I can talk crap in front of my wife and she won't do a darn thing about it".
Unfortunately for my husband, he learned the hard way that I will do something about it.
As for that la_vaca-mooo, don't act like you're so righteous that you've never done it yourself. Obviously you have if your that quick to defend.
My husband sits here with me when I ask questions too. It's called "having a secure marriage".
2006-07-30 07:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For some reason he thinks that talking like that makes him look better. He must feel threatened by you in some way. Is there some difference in education level? How about social status before marriage? He is having issues with self esteem. From here you have to chose whether it bothers you enough to take action or not. You could calmly explain (again) how you feel about it. You could demand marriage counseling or even individual counseling for him. It may be a good idea for you to seek counseling to see how you can best respond to the next time this happens.
2006-07-29 23:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women both put down on others to make them look better or bigger than they are. My husband does it too, and I told how hurtful it was, he doesn't call me his old lady either. I am his wife, and I deserve respect not some smartassed remark that makes me look like the wicked witch or some dumb bimbo...Have more respect for your wife! Name calling, nasty remarks should have been left on the playground. You owe your wife an apology and nice night out on the town. Her choice of places and what she wants to do. I do have to give him credit for being man enough to let all of us chew him out! Now, be man enough and a loving husband and not do in anymore. Ok, kiss and make up....remember you owe her a date! make up sex is the best-so turn off the computer and go for it! God bless us all.....
2006-07-29 23:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either crazy or can't tell the truth, or thinks this is funny and a part of his sense of humor.
Either learned to accept him in this nutty ways . Or never leave his side, or try and get a recording of what he says to prove to him what ht says.
I have a feeling that he has an odd sense of humor.
2006-07-29 23:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are overbearing and controling and he feels he cannot tell you the truth without you exploding or arguing with him about how right you are about everything. If this is the case you need to change cuz in 5 years he will leave you.
2006-07-29 23:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by carmen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's forgetting to honor you. He needs to know that when it's too late it's too late. I hope he stops saying ugly things about you before it is too late. If he doesn't, one day a wall will go up--you'll know when it happens and there is nothing he'll be able to do to tear it down.
2006-07-29 23:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men say crap like this to try and project some kind of tough guy image towards themselves. He probably really doesn't mean to say bad things about you. Its just his stupid macho coming out. It doesn't make it right to say crap like that, let him know real good, that he better stop that sh!t
2006-07-29 23:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I guess you are not aware that you are now doing the same thing that your husband is doing. Talking and posting to everyone your problems about your husband. His was only to one person, yours is to everyone on yahoo. I think you need to grow up and face it that you are no better than he is .
2006-07-29 23:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks that's the masculine thing to do. Putting down your wife is sorry and very unmasculine. I hope he stops.
2006-07-29 23:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lucille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men talk just like women do, they love to say that they don't but they do, just check him about the remark he made then kiss and make up.
2006-07-29 23:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋