we have been married for 1 year and have a 8 month old child. He wants to work it out, but i am tired of not being me. I am not happy. There is no romance, even when i am trying. I am so tired. I hate his attitude. He is never around. And before marrying him i was a single mom- marriage i have found to be more work, unhappy, and i dont feel i should have to continue to suffer everyday.
2006-07-29 15:47:34 · 20 answers · asked by sick of faking it 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to to what makes you happy If you are not happy you can't even emotional be there for your kids they will see you unhappy and it will affect them you need to take care of your self or you can't take care of them if the relationship with your hubby is bad it affects them it cause stress and tension they can feel!!!
I was married for 20 years and my kids are 16 and 12 and the last 10 years of the marriage caused me panics attacks and stress it was killing me so I got out of it my stress is gone the kids are happier and my ex is better off now too we can actually talk to each other with out yelling now and be nice to each other in front of the kids and I still got remarried to the man of my dreams and my kids like him and they know mom is happy there is such a think as happier ever after I fell in love with this man 24 years ago but we are finally together and my kids are OK with it!!! yes I think if you are wanting out than that is what you need to do and the sooner the better for the child's sake the child is young enough that the divorce won't be traumatic for them!!!
2006-07-29 16:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by mel416 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like you are getting nothing from the relationship and are not happy then there is no point in staying in. Alot of people will usually say stay together for the kid, but when the parents are unhappy then the child can pick up on that and think that is a normal relationship, when in fact it is not, and that is how he or she will judge their relationship. Divorce may be the best thing right now but make sure that you each have visitation priveleges every child needs a mom and a dad.
2006-07-29 15:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by jazminestarhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not happy being in the marriage you're in now, by all means I think you should divorce him, because people shouldn't be putting themselves in an unhappy situation. If you've tried so hard to work it out in the marriage but still not able to make any difference then there's no point in giving another shot at this marriage. but I personally don't believe in divorce unless the situation is really bad and has to be done.
But if I never loved the person before marriage I wouldn't have gotten engaged in the first place, because I think marriage should last for a life time. or I wouldn't be vowing infront of god saying I'll love him for the rest of my life.
2006-07-29 15:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy then y stay with him. You were better off with being a single mom. And yes there is more work when your married. If you don't want to work things out then you need to take action and move on with your life. Just remember that your child is also in the picture now, and you also need to think of the well being of the child.
2006-07-29 15:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by momokitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if anyone ever prevents you from being you, you need to leave the situation immediatly including divorce. Its hard at first but your only a year into it. try being 12 years into like me. I am finally divorced and happier then i have ever been and I am me and I have found a beautilful man that lets me be me. Yes divorce him.
2006-07-29 15:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by carmen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then divorce him. Who cares about his feelings as long as your happy right? Oh the kid? Who cares if they never learn what real love is? So they have a mom who apparently is not very selective in who she sleeps with. I hope the sarcasm is coming though!
2006-07-29 15:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the marriage fast....Not only is it not good for you but also not good for your babby....I know you thought you were doing the right thing for the kid, and actually its the worse cos as soon as the kid realises that you not happy and notices things about the both of you, he/ she will become miserable and will resent you.
2006-07-29 15:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Missylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yepper I think you could get a divorce and find someone else better and that you feel great being with and not have a miseralbe life
2006-07-29 15:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by suger baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is love there, maybe you should just seperate, because if you get a divorce, there is bitterness and anger, and if you realize that you do want to be in that marriage, it might be to late>
2006-07-29 15:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Whitknee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then divorce him, as of now this is a free country. It's your job to make yourself happy, sometimes people shouldn't be relied on for that.
2006-07-29 15:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋