Women seeing men's struggles?

Question

Men, consider males who are open-eyed to women's concerns or experience, and who are empathetic and truly concerned with the challenges or difficulties women face or endure.

Now, what would a woman see if she were to be equally as concerned for a man and his struggles? His pains? His setbacks, and his difficulty as a man in this world? How would you explain to her your experience as a man; what would you want her to know and take to heart, to be concerned about or aware of from YOUR persepctive and experience?

Answer 1

More than anything else, men want respect from the women who are important to them. Tell a man you believe in him and it will bring out his best qualities. Disrespect him and you will bring out anger and discouragement.

Answer 2

Wow! That’s a very interesting question and one that I’m not sure how to answer exactly. That’s because I myself find it easier to empathize with women because I was for most of my life raised by a woman with very feministic ideals. Have you ever seen the movie ‘Life according to Garp’? It one of Robin Williams’s earlier roles about a struggling writer during the early 60’s, his mother (played by Glen Close) is a feminist writer and Garp spends his life struggling within her shadow to find his own identity. I instantly could relate to that because although I was taught at an early age that I shouldn’t see women a certain way, I nevertheless have to, to a certain degree; otherwise I’d have to sacrifice who I am as a man.

Indeed, women shouldn’t be seen as a sex object (per se), but some women like to feel they are one when they’re with the right man. The question that I had to ask myself constantly in my younger years and still today was 'am I being too chauvinistic for taking an interest in a woman because I found her to be sexually attractive', because I never wanted her to feel that that was the sole reason for why I was interested in her. Another struggle was whether I was giving her as much love and respect as I was receiving. Was I saying the right things at the right time? With age I eventually learned when it was appropriate to say something and when it was not. A delicate balance that is often not easily achieved by the young and restless, and although I am still single I’ve never parted ways with a woman without still being close to her and respectful of her memory and what she meant and still means to me.

The pains and setbacks can easily be challenged as the breaking up or the failure of a relationship, but that dispute would ring hallow compared to the feelings of regret one faces in the aftermath. But therein lays the opportunity to hold the real treasure of what you once had, for to part ways as enemies means that you never had anything to begin with and you’ve just wasted the time you spent together. Whereas when you see the good that came from it you cannot help feeling that you may never be lovers in the intimate sense you once were but you still can love each other nonetheless.

The difficulties for a man is having to face other men and tell them what you once had, because not all men’s souls delve as deeply into the intricacies of the heart as others. This is because one can easily become jaded with what one doesn’t understand or worse yet has no desire to understand anyway. And men have a difficult time expressing these issues to other men because it’s oftentimes easier for ‘men’ to not talk about their vulnerabilities. Weakness in front of another person is very damning to ones self esteem as well as ones role in society sometimes. Especially if it’s a man in front of his male peers.

Answer 3

i'm conversing as a white guy right here so i've got have been given no stake in this. it variety of feels to me that the days of authentic, proper black oppression have been an prolonged time and centuries in the past, very similar to the days of authentic women oppression. In the two circumstances what keeps to be in the present day is minor in assessment, yet black oppression at its worst became a strategies worse than women oppression. presently as an outdoors observer they look the two extra or less even now, whether once you're a black female then you fairly get the worst of the two worlds.