i hate being gay. i wish there was a medical cure?

Question

im not religious, i just dont wanna be gay

Answer 1

try Dr Jesus

Answer 2

You don't hate being gay--you hate not being the majority and what is considered "normal". I know it's still hard to be gay in this world because you are a minority and there are still so many prejudices and discrimination. But you should accept the fact that you are gay cuz from what I know, there is no medical cure! If you have difficulties accepting yourself as being gay, contact any organization or group support for gay people and you can try to meet gay people of your age and share with them. Why don't you ask another question on this website to help you find other people in the same situation as you?

By the way, I still would like to encourage you that even if there are still prejudices and discrimination toward gay people, there are still more and more openess about it--depending of the countries. I don't know where you come from but you most likely come from a country where being gay is not a crime.

Answer 3

Don't listen to religious advice. It will only mess with your head.

Seek out a support group, a counsellor, or talk to your doctor about getting some moral support and some guidance.

You can't change being gay. You can TRY, but it won't work. You might as well try changing the colour of your eyes. That won't work either (you could get coloured contact lenses but that isn't a true change).

Just accept yourself for what and who you are. But do go for help. There is nothing to be embarrassed about and you should not feel any shame. This is the way you are. And do not let people try to tell you anything different, because they are just messing with your head.

Good luck, and I wish you the very best.

Answer 4

I highly doubt that your self loathing truly sprouts from your sexualorientation. That just happens to be a handy crutch to blame it on. You want a cure for low self esteem? That I an help you with. Start by sitting down and making two lists. First being things ou don't like about yoursefl, and then things you do like about yourself. Oh, orientation is not on either list by the way. This is about the rest of your life. It is really no different than being an alcoholic, you have to admit to the problem before you can start the cure. Then it's just like a 12 stpe program to get your self esteem up and running again.

If you can't really sit there and make an honest list of self likes and dislikes, you may want to try counselling.

Answer 5

You didn't ask a question.

In any case, yeah, you could try to "pray the gay away." It might be as effective as praying for God to change your eye color or skin tone or height. In other words...isn't gonna happen. "Ex-gay" ministries are largely concluded to be ineffective and psychologically damaging.

Perhaps you need to look more carefully at WHY you feel being gay is despicable. Are you afraid of discrimination? Do you fear God will think you're "in sin"? Perhaps those views are what need evaluation.

Many religious groups seem to exhort their followers to stand up when they differ from the world, yet they condemn those who are different from the world as well. No matter what you are, don't let anyone stop that! Find solace in your individuality.

Answer 6

You need to focus on the reasons why you dislike being gay:

1. Is it conflicting with your religous beliefs? if so, then you'll need to change your religous beliefs.
2. Are you being subject to homophobia? if so, then you'll need to take appropriate action.
3. Do you dislike the gay scene? if so, then you'll need to look for gay support elsewhere e.g. a gay social group. Not all gay people like the gay scene.
4. Have you been hurt by a gay person?
5. Do you feel different from what you perceive to be the norm?
6. Do you have feelings for the opposite sex, and feel like you're in conflict because you have feelings for the same sex? if so, then look up bisexuality.

If you became straight overnight, then how would your life improve? Make a list - how much of it revolves around you, and how much of it revolves around pleasing other people?

Homosexuality and bisexuality are regarded as naturally occurring both in animals and humans. They were removed from the list of mental disorders back in 1973.

It sounds like you've internalised the concept of homosexuality being a disease. You need to change this underlying belief, or you'll continue to feel anxiety. If you're having trouble coming to terms with your sexual orientation, then you'll need to contact a registered counsellor/psychotherapist.

Answer 7

No lasting "cures" for being gay. Essentially, the things that exist attempt to get you to stop any associated behaviors, but you'll always have the feelings and thoughts you have now. There are counselors who can help you deal with said thoughts and feelings in a homophobic and heterosexist society. For what it's worth, I think many of us have been there at least for a little bit at some point in time, but...you get over it. Relatively happy person now and all that.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Zac,

If you are gay, you are gay. If you have sexual feelings for other guys, and none for girls -- you are gay. You can hide it, you can run from it, you can lie to others, and perhaps for a time to yourself -- but what you are, is what you are.

If you embrace it, instead of fearing it. If you love yourself as who you are, rather than wanting to be someone else. If you live a life of love toward others and believe in yourself and what you can do to help the universe, you will be more successful than you dream. If you spend that same energy attempting to change yourself into something you are not -- you will simply waste your life. It's too short for that.

You say that you are not religious. That may well be, but the entire social construct that leads you to want to discard your own nature for another comes from a certain subset of religions. So you may not be religious, but your self-hatred is.

You can do better, email me if you need to talk.

Kind thoughts,

Reynolds Jones
http://www.rebuff.org
[e-mail]

Answer 9

I'm sorry, it is tough being different, isn't it? Unfortunately, the success record of those places that claim to "cure" homosexuality is almost zero. They do train some people to avoid having sex. But they mess up more minds and end up creating psychological freaks, more than anything.

Take joy in who you are. If you don't feel like having boyfriends or having sex, lay off it for a while. But don't ever be ashamed. Find a friend to talk to. Email me if you don't mind old guys. You are a wonderful creation of love, gay, straight or otherwise.

Answer 10

There is not cure is like if a dog hate to be a dog, or I'm brown and hate to be brown, I have a lot more to worry than the color of my skin or my sexual orientation i try to be as happy as I can with what I have, and i you are not carefully you will spend a lot of time trying to be something you are not and when you accept your self then is to late all the time you lost is lost never come back again, so please just accept your self the way you are and enjoy life.

Answer 11

Unfortunately, it can be worse to try to change that part of yourself. Many men who have aparently been "cured" through (mostly religious) programs, get depressed and end up in relationships with woman that they aren't attracted to. A lot of them go back to gay behaviour, but have to hide it instead of accepting it as part of who they are.

I suggest that if you are gay, you learn to accept it as part of who you are. Ask yourself why you hate it.