WHY do people give strange looks at mixed couples?

Question

I get strange looks from people when i am out with my boyfriend...he is white and im asian. also get even worse looks from white folks when im out with his neice, they look like i kidnapped her or something....what the heck goes through people's minds when they see a white male and an asian female couple together? HONESTLY...even if its racist.

hey WHATUP387 i agree with that i do live in a small city its automotive industry here lots of factories so prolly why ppl dont see much of mixed race couples, like u said in LA, NYC or like hawaii its common.

Answer 1

Why do you care? Maybe they think you are an exotic couple. Maybe they wonder what he sees in you. Maybe they wonder what you see in him. Maybe they are looking at the couple behind you. Maybe they are looking at you looking at them. Chill.

Answer 2

Well, where I'm from, it's considered disgusting for races to mix. Mixed kids get teased in school, and I just wouldn't do it for that reason. People need something to be proud of, but if you're mixed, which do you choose to be proud of. If things keep going the way they're going, in 1000 years we'll just be a world of yellow or brown people, anyway. Everyone is just straying to other races, except asians. Most Asians I see are with their own kind. I very rarely see race mixing of that kind. Mostly black guys with white girls.

I really don't care, but I know my dad would look at you funny. People used to get beat up over it..

Answer 3

I can't speak for all, but I think some people may feel that every kind should stay to themselves. I know I have wondered why some couples have kids that have to deal with a issues of deciding what race they are and who they can relate to.I know it is hard being just black never mind being mixed and having to decide am I just black, black and Asian, black and white or what ever. That is just how I see it. But I do not give weird looks

Answer 4

I think we're just accustomed to seeing things being the same--
it would draw the same look if two boys were holding hands walking down the sidewalk, but its not that strange in the middle east where the custom is very natural between friends. It would
draw the same look if you wore one red tennis shoe and one white one. The truth of the matter is, it doesn't make any difference at all---these people don't know you and they don't know your boyfriend.There are a lot us out here that would welcome the opportunity to know you both and its their loss that they don't know you. Be yourselves and enjoy yourselves as much as you can while you are together--life is too short and too fragile to be worrying about what other people think. When you get those stares--just smile back and comment just enough so they can hear you: "...its okay, I love you and I forgive you."
When they get around to figuring out what it is your forgiving them for--they'll get it./

Answer 5

People have various things going on in their minds, depending on their 'mind-set'...
These are few of the possibilities, of what must be in their minds !
1) Oh, so it is possible, did I miss my chance ?
2) Oh, what are the religious people doing. How/where did they fail in preventing this 'unholy' alliance ?
3) Ok, but how to 'classify' the offspring ?
4) Politicians, how did you fail to notice this ?
5) Do they think it will last... ?, will they fit in our society comfortably ? Did they go through a check-list, before deciding to get paired, or were they in a hurry, unable to wait ? What could have been such an irresistible attraction, that clouded their judgment to look at these fine-tuning points ?
...... and so on..... quite honestly, we have to concede, what is out of ordinary is bound to attract attention from all kinds of people, and most of them with a sincere concern and apprehension, not necessarily lacking warmth.

Answer 6

You're absolutely right. I disagree with the term white - these guys are not really white, only some of them are really that fair as to classify as white. I'm Asian too. But not Far East, Near East.

Its not racist. I don't think 95% of those of see you two together would disapprove of it from a race point of view. What is more likely is that some of " your" type would be viewing you with jealousy, and so would some of "his" type.

Another theory goes like this. Its not pleasing, but nature weighs it out.

Its something thats natural to the plant and animal kingdoms. Hammerhead sharks don't make out with white sharks, but with other hammerhead sharks, and white sharks with other white sharks, Blue whales don't mate with spleen whales, but with other blue whales. Bald eagles don't go out with golden eagles, but with other bald eagles. Nature has ensured that animals of the same species but of different 'races' are physically separated to an extent that they don't mix.

The human mind has defeated all of nature's original purpose. Humans have discovered the use of horses to migrate over thousands of miles. They have invented carts and wheels. They then invented ships, trains, autos and finally airplanes. All this means that different kinds of species are meeting and inter-mixing, when nature did not intend them to. While the human mind realizes that everything is okay for people of two different races to mix socially, the human subconscious is still at the earthy, natural level, which sees the mixing of two races as something not usually observed in nature.

It'll take time. 300 years of African Americans in America still gives rise to the racist debate. Asians like you and me have been around in America only for the last few decades in any noticeable numbers.

It would be the same thing if your American boyfriend was hanging out with you in your native country. They would look funnily at you too. In my country, they do, when they see mixed couples. They gossip about it, some people make all sorts of assumptions, and it finally dies down.

Answer 7

That's been an ongoing problem for a long time! First, I'm very sorry you have to endure that.

Most of it stems from bogus non sense about same race/same race which for the most part is STILL programed into children in many cultures, in schools as well as parents/family... the rest of it is just plain ignorance.

Answer 8

What you are pobably seeing is the anylasation of your untold story as your life is different from theres. Their mate is the same race. It's not actually racest or even negitive. They are just staring as they inquiry as to how the difference from your life to there's occured.
I could assume most OLD WHITE folks assume your relationship is a product of some war.

But let's not assume, maybe there just thinking DAMN, I SURE DO LOVE ASIAN CHICKS> GRrrrrr!

Answer 9

I am use to be with a white male and we got stares all the time. I think it's just that they are trying to figure out what we might have in common that would draw one another to each other and were the pickins so bad that the both of you couldn't find one in your own race. but the hell with them whatever maked u too happy

Answer 10

People of this world-even in 2006-are still curious when it comes to seeing people of different races together. We see it together all the time on the tube, on-line, etc. But when you see people together, it's somewhat of a novelty. You would think people had an extra appendage coming out of their head or something! Who knows, maybe in 2026 it'll be different, but I'm sorry my dear, that's just the state of the world right now.

Answer 11

I am a European American man married to an Indian American woman, so our experience of others' reactions to our relationship has some similarity to your own. I think it may be helpful to remember that in a racially and ethnically segmented and conflicted society, any interracial couple is going to be intrinsically exotic, different, and intriguing to many. But, moreover, two combinations of opposite-sex interracial partners are particularly mythologized in US culture: the pairing of an African American man and a European American woman ("Mandingo" myth) and the pairing of an Asian American woman and a European American man ("Madama Butterfly" myth). Racist stereotypes of interracial couples are particularly focused on these two types of couples, so they attract special attention.

On the bright side, you are doing your part in the multi-generational mission to destroy the concept of race utterly. Amen!