There were things done and said in regards to me that left a bad taste in my mouth and when I got the chance to confront the other person, they didn't really answer my questions. Now, I the situation feels unresolved.
2006-07-29 14:50:25 · 8 answers · asked by tcos...a guy with questions 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Yes the Double Chocolate ice cream seems to be a no loose choice.. And as long as you know that you are not to blame, then move forward and onward, with no regrets.. Speaking for myself, I look for honesty in people I let into my heart.. And if I feel it is not there and they are not true blue, I eventually slowly let go... If you feel you have unresolved issues that you regret ultimately we cannot supply you the correct answer, so you will have to take a shovel and dig deep to see what it is you feel you should do... We have all been there so don't feel bad...... It happens to all of us at some point or another... I know that what makes it easy for me to make a clean break is if I know that I have given all of myself and am True blue in the sense I like to have someone be True blue to me... Now....... " Go grab that ice cream and while you are at it, have a big bowl for me too....!" LOL! Best wishes to you .♥
2006-07-29 16:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I have had this experience what has worked best for me is to write the person a letter. This can be so liberating, what you want to do is write the letter first as a draft; write it with brutal honesty, use "I" statements, (I feel, or, I felt like this when this happened. Also in this letter make for your own closure, as in "I forgive you for this because it is what is best for me". Once you have laid your feelings on the line rewrite and send the letter. Sometimes we just cannot get the closure we need from others for a variety of reasons. In one of my past experiences with my step mother she never apologized or even acknowledged that any harm had ever been done. Writing her that letter really, really, help me let go of allot of negativity and anxiety about the entire issue. Try it, it certainly won't hurt, only help.
2006-07-29 15:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by mchlmybelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I have and I found out the other party involved didn't really give a hoot about unresolved issues. That was my problem. So, I figured if the other person didn't value our friendship enough to act and be like a friend, then sad to say they have lost out on one heck of loyal and abiding friendship.
2006-07-29 15:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices - confront the person and get the issue straightened out - then have the double chocolate ice cream
Have the double chocolate ice cream and not know the answers.
Either way - double chocolate ice cream is necessary.
2006-07-29 14:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by trying to confront the situation...and since you've put the effort forth and they did not respond...i'd say the situation needs room to breathe...try to move forward with your life as gracefully as possible and perhaps in the future you can mend things...but for now, that person isnt really benefitting you in any way
2006-07-29 16:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by rachel k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it behind you. I went thru the same thing but with a husband. He cheated and treated me terrible, I just had to let it go. I never got the opportunity to tell him how badly he hurt me and ask him what the hell he thought he was doing leaving me and 2 little kids for a slut like that. It took awhile, but I learned to live like he never existed and I got over it. You can spend the rest of your life trying to resolve and mull over issues. Just live and go on.
2006-07-29 16:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them a letter even if you never send it and get it off your chest. Then move on. Was it really a friendship if it was one sided. They speak, you listen. You speak, they answer your question with a question. You are better than that and don't forget it. :-)
2006-07-29 15:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it with a pint of double choclate ice cream
2006-07-29 14:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by Taternutts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋