Ok guys...My husband knows that i smoke and have been smoking for the past 6 years (I know its a bad habit...?

Question

But i just can't get rid of it). He thought i quit 5 months ago and yesterday he came back early from work and found me outside the balcony puffing away, and now he's upset and won't talk to me. I didn't tell him I stopped he just assumed that I did.

Please help, i want to stop and i have tried but just can't stop....I've tried to make him understand and he just won't hear me out.

Answer 1

Best way to stop is "COLD TURKEY"
do it on the weekend with your husband home that way he can be there for support... empty all ashtrays and remove all cigarette butts from the yard!!
take a good two whole days to get the nicotine out of your system and keep busy and don't go out stay at home or if you do go out make sure it is not any place that you can get a hold of cigarettes!!
As far as for your husband right now he is disappointed with you he will get over it and ya'll will talk and everything will be OK!!
Good Luck!!
Oh, and remember remind your husband that you will not be the best person to be around during this time and apologize to him before hand for your crankiness!!
It also take a good 3 weeks to break a habit and smoking is not only a addiction but a habit!!

Answer 2

Tell him it is very difficult to quit smoking and you need his support. Quitting is even more difficult if you are left on your own. He can at least help out by helping you while he is around. When he is not around, it is harder to resist. Try to make an agreement with him at any time he is around and that you will not smoke in the house or car. And that you will keep trying to quit on your own at the other times. Let him know you are not giving up on quitting.

You may also draw up a plan with him. When he's not around, you will keep track of each time you smoke. That way you guys can work together on it. Just let him know not to be pushy about it so you can write them down without worrying that he'll blow up. If you chart this all down, he will feel more like he's being a part of helping you quit.

-- I'm a smoker too. I'll quit 2-3 times a year but I'm certain that if I keep trying I will be successful. The more you quit the easier it will become. Before I quit the first time, I actually thought there is no hope to going even a day without one. But now I am more confident and have a hope in quitting. It will come one day.

Answer 3

i smoked for 5 years and quit cold turkey one day after realizing i went 13 hours without a cig not counting sleep hours. after a month i didnt even want or care about a cig anymore and i was proud to say i dont smoke. my skin cleared up and my teeth brightened. and i know this sounds wierd but being around smokers actually helped me build a resistance because every time i said no thanks to a cigarett was one less that i smoked. you have to look at quitting as something you are actively doing as apposed to something you are not doing. like instead of saying I'm not going to smoke today, say I'm going to not smoke today. and every day you DO this makes it easier to do the next day. instead of getting rid of the habit of smoking, gain the habit of not smoking. and don't be hard on yourself if you have a cig, just don't keep having them. eventually when you realize how disgusting you smell from smoke it will gross you out!!!! i never had any idea how bad it made people smell until i quit and started noticing the smell on others. any way i have not smoked for a year and a half now and my boyfriend smokes! it can be done but every time you fail it weakens your will power and you tell yourself you cant. so if you dont want o quit you wont. by the way i did not gain any weight. i actually lost some!!! good luck!

Answer 4

Well first he should understand that you have an addiction, and that getting mad at you for not being able to only makes it harder for you to quit. You see I am in a similar situation, my wife smokes and I always give her $h!t about it so do you think she is going to be serious about quitting of course not. What he needs to do is give you encouragement and help you in anyway that he can, if he can't do that it will make it worse on you and him when you finally get around to trying to quit. This is funny I am calling the kettle black, this is what I should be doing also.

Answer 5

They should have a smokers anonymous... It is just as addicting for some people if not more than alcohol... But they make too much money off of it to really care what it does to peoples health... You should do what ever it takes if you truly want to quit not for him but for yourself... You cannot do it for him it has to be that you truly want to S T O P ! I am sure you are well aware of how damaging it is to your lungs. And the risks of cancer... Find the power from with in and stop but do it for you... I hope the best in this quest to quit for you... And also realize his frustration is only because he loves you.. And cares about your well being...

Answer 6

You need to ask your doctor about different ways to try to assist your efforts to quit. I think that only by truly giving it up is your hubby really going to get over this. He may seem to stop being mad at you in a few days time, but I think it will simmer underneath and blow up again in the future unless you quit for good.

Answer 7

Oh, so you didn't out-right lie to him; you just deceived him. Yeah, that's totally different--------------NOT.

I would say your smoking is the least of your worries. You've lied to your husband, period. You may not have told him the lie directly to his face, but you know that deception is the same as a lie. So, you have to confess that you lied, and ask him to forgive you for the lie.

Then you can deal with the smoking. I have a feeling that his trust for you has gone up in smoke, along with that last cig you just had.

Answer 8

Go to your doctor and ask for some help. There are medications now that help ease the physical side effects felt when a person quits smoking. That's what I did and it worked.

Answer 9

If you didn't exactly tell him that you quit, then it was just a bad assumption on his part and you should talk to him about it. Tell him that you're trying to quit, but that it's hard.

Also, if he married you as a smoker, then albeit it's a very bad habit, he's suppose to love you through sickness and in health, for richer or poorer.

Do try to quit, it's better for everyone...

Answer 10

why would you want to spend all that hard earned cashed blown away on cigarettes that will blow away your health. Apparently you have a great husband that cares for you. show some respect and stop smoking cold turkey. you can do it. it takes will power and all women have it. prove it to your hubby.