am i loser?

Question

here's where i am in life. so please tell me if im a loser or not. because where im from im considered one.

im 27, i dont own property, i dont know how to drive, i've never had sex, i've had 3 girlfriends in my life up to this point all of them who loved me and i didnt know how to appreciate them, im single now, i've got like only 15,000 bucks in the bank to my name, im ok health-wise, i dont have a college degree, but i got a job here in new york all on my own, and i may end up going to LA for another job, i dont have a lot of friends, but in all my life i've always had at least one that was close to me.

Answer 1

Dear cheese eater,

I'm pretty confused by your question. Of course, you live in Ne wYork, and I haven't ever met anyone from there of ANY substance. They are so involved with their little politically correct, materialistic lives, busily running down the streets like a bunch of trapped sewer rats.
EVERYTHING you describe in your question involves things of ZERO importance in this life.
Did you help anyone today ? Did you sacrifice for someone else ? Do you live for yourself or others ? What is most important to you ? What are your dreams and goals ? Do you study the bible ? What are your strengths and weaknesses ? If you died today, what do you wish you would've accomplished ?
Most all of these questions are needed to describe whether someone is a loser or not in my opinion. I have never met a rich winner. Their minds are on their money.
I have lived in LA, you will be much happier there, I bet !
Good Luck !

Answer 2

Of course, you are not a loser! You have a job, have savings in the bank, and live in New York on your own. I think you're doing just great!

You don't need a car in New York City, and you don't need a lot of girlfriends or guy friends, either. A few close friends are far better than not-so-close or not-good-for-you friends.

Having sex isn't as important as loving and caring for the people you love. If you don't know how to appreciate women, just ask them. Each woman is different, therefore, she should tell her boyfriend/husband what makes her happy.

If you want to have a Bachelor's degree to get a better job or feel good about yourself, that's fine. However, please do not blind believe what the society tells you. A college degree, a decent job, or money has nothing to do with your happiness.

Your happiness is your choice!

Answer 3

First of all, you are a child of God, (whether you believe in Him or not). It's not material things in life that make a person. It's what's in your heart and how you treat others. It sounds like you're reasonably intelligent and likable, so you can have the things in life you want, you just have to some effort into it. A college education is almost a must these days, but if you've go a decent job that you're happy with, then you may not need it. It seems like you have some problems with self esteem which improving it can be very difficult. You are blessed with many gifts, just try to take a look at your life and see what they are. Concentrate on the "haves" and "can do's", instead of what a lot of people think make someone successful in life. I learned of a group of people in some other country that travel by a make-shift boat fairly frequently. They were very happy. They had each other, and possessions were something that was something they didn't want or need because they were fulfilled by each other and living life. If they acquired things, they gave them away before they set sail for another place.

Answer 4

NOOOOO....you are not a loser.....You live in New York. You don't need to drive there as the city has an excellent bus service.

As far as not having sex, you just have not met the right lady. Only three girlfriends shows you do not flit from lady to lady. I do not know about cost of living in New York City, but lots of people here in Texas would kill to have 15,000 in the bank.

What else...I read in the newspapers that most people have only three really good friends in their entire life.

Property owner??? In New York City???. I guess you could own your condo....

Anyways, I would say you have a life a lot of people would envy.

Chins up sir. If I were 27-30 years younger, I would hunt you down and try to snare you :)

Answer 5

If your happy no. Just remember life is more about happiness than material things. It is also very expensive to own property in NY. As for the girls as you get older you are more mature and a little bit more picky about who you have a relationship with. Do not worry about a college degree. I have a CPA; education is somewhat overrated. If you want a college degree maybe you can find an employer who will help you. I suggest you keep saving your money and in due time a nice girl will come along.

Answer 6

What you have or don't have doesn't make you a loser. It does seem as though you need to expand your social horizons. There is so much to do in NYC. Take a class like a cooking class at a nearby school. Often local & larger book stores have discussion groups and can link you to people w/ similar interests. I know there is a bicycle group in the city. They arent the Lance Armstrong type of cyclists but leisure riders. If you expand your social circle you will see that the more you interact w/ other the more they will want to interact w/ you.

Answer 7

you're not a loser...It's better to have one close friend who loves you than a load of friends who hardly know you at all. So what if you've never had sex...What have you learnt from you last girlfriends? And what are you going to do about it now that you have awareness?

Life is journey...a it's hard and sometimes it's fun and sometimes you think just want to give up...but that's how you grow as person...how you become a better human being to your fellow human beings...

Who cares how much money you have? It's who YOU are as a person that counts. And from what you've said above it seems that you a deep thinker about who you are and where you are in the world...and too me...that's what is important...

Answer 8

No, I wouldn't say your a loser. If you didn't appreciate your girlfriends, then they probably weren't right for you. When the right girl come along, you will love her and appreciate her very much. You have more in your bank account than I do, & I am 34 and married. Of course, we have seven kids and a grandkid on the way! You gotta a job, that's good! You got at least one friend, that's good. So... you ok!

Answer 9

of course not! but if u still don't think so: u could learn to drive, it'd make ur life easier, i bet. u don't have to own property, just rent! sex isn't important, it's the love that matters, and the number of girlfriends you can live with don't matter, it's the one you can't live without u should go with. u could get a bachlor's degree, u could get a good job that way. having one close friend is better than having fifteen friends that aren't close 2 u. i think u're not a loser at all.
Live your life responsibely, but live to be happy!

Answer 10

no. usually i would make somebody for asking a question like "am i a loser" but seriously, ur not. don't have a lot of friends? go to a bar a couple nights a week, great way to make friends, and girls. money seriously should NOT be in issue unless you ahve troulbe paying bills and stuff. if u live in NY who cares if u cant drive. if depressed go to a psycologist or something and they can really help. And seriously, you can meet SOO many people just hangin out at a bar sometimes. good luck man