I know it's hard as girls like yourself and in fact most girls love 'Bad boys' for some reason, but you have to just think logically - you need to say to yourself - 'these aren't nice people at all - they don't really care for my needs and at the end of the day - that's what I need - to be surrounded by people I can count on and trust. People who will support me through all the bad times and be there with me to share the good times'. With no time at all - I'm sure you will meet the right boys and make the right friends - ones you can rely on :)
2006-07-29 14:14:02
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answered by Anonymous
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The first start is to be comfortable with being yourself and knowing what you want in a mate. If you establish what type of person you want you'll filter out the bad unless that's what you prefer.
Like most people you're probably gonna go thru a lot of bad ones till you get to a good one because some people don't necessarily show their "true colors" right away. Some people also put up a wall & although they may seem harsh or cold they are really kind, loving people.
It's all a part of the process.. Good Luck!
2006-07-29 21:23:56
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answered by NicNac 3
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The million dollar question. And the answer is so hard but yet so easy..... It is by changing yourself.
We as human beings are attracted to people who have characteristics, qualities and traits that we do not. That's what draws us to others is that curiosity factor, initially. However, the more we feel we lack, the more we're going to be attracted to people who seem to have more. That more can be looks, attitude, confidence, egotism, self centerdness, selfishness, anything. These things may all be qualities that you don't have (and that's a good thing) BUT, you may find that others that have these characteristics are interesting at first but you soon become "let down".
It is ONLY when we learn to have self esteem, integrity and pride that we understand that these qualities mentioned above are useless in the face of society and serve no one but the individual who posesses them.
So begin by telling yourself that you are great and have great qualities and when you discover a "not so great" trait in someone else, simply move on and be glad you now have self pride to recognize it. :)
2006-07-29 21:18:51
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answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4
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Confidence doesn't have anything to do with not being nice. You should be attracted to confident people, that's normal...many of them are fabulous individuals...it's the low self esteem and low self confidence ya don't want to be attracted to because you'll spend too much time trying to support their feelings and it'll wear you out.
Popular kids are sometimes kinda snooty, but not always...you are attracted to who you are attracted to...if you want to change that, look at what it is about them that appeals to you and if those are really characteristics worth persuing...
2006-07-29 21:22:55
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answered by . 7
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Talk to the people that interest you, not the people that look attractive.
You may find they have more to offer and are not so self absorbed as to actually notice and appreciate you as a person and not an accessory
2006-07-29 21:17:32
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answered by Anonymous
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Two ways; stop dressing like them.
Find a club to join where you will meet other people.
Groups that volunteer to help others are very caring and warm people.
2006-07-29 21:13:54
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answered by Anonymous
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finding out why you are attracted in the first place is a start and then realizing that you can do without useless mirrors and reflect you own light...
Luv Pat
2006-07-29 21:26:15
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answered by patflo 2
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Have a good talk to yourself and make a serious plan to change your way of life! You know you can do it! Good Luck!
2006-07-29 21:14:02
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answered by Jackie 4
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By being drawn and attracted to me. I'm perfect!
2006-07-29 21:13:53
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answered by Anonymous
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u can't if u like em then u like em
2006-07-29 23:44:07
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answered by ♥♥♣BABY GIRL♥♥♣ 4
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