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you all think a little (maybe). Those that give stupid answers...I'm "over" stupidness on here so that won't count. In reality, a lot of us have met people on here (email) --- helped each other, felt comfortable sharing stories, answers, questions in life, politics (big time fights). Why do we feel "comfortable" here but when we walk out our front door we don't communicate like we do here? I mean, there really ARE good people in the world. Is it just "safe" here for most of us or what? I enjoy Yahoo QA - but the truth..do any of you go in the "real world" and talk to people - find out what they are about? Meet someone in line at the grocery store and smile and "chat" - I guess I'm asking because I don't know why I feel comfortable here as opposed to the real world. How about U???

It's a little stupid to add this but a lot of you have become my friends in a way and I have no clue who a lot of you are but at the same time, I kind of know where your hearts are....interests, etc. and that is a good thing.

So also maybe when we are out in the world with other human beings we should talk the same way, right? I mean....just a hello can start not only a long lasting friendship but also a relationship.

Answer 1

I think the reason we all feel so "comfortable" on here is because we pretty much can dress the way we want on here (with noone talking about it) ...no matter what we look like on here we dont worry about anyone only talking to us because we look good or choosing not to be our friends because of the same reason.... pretty much people on here are less likely to judge us because of our appearances compared to the real world ..... they actually get to know "us" a little bit before they see us sometimes without ever seeing us at all

Answer 2

I feel comfortable being open on answers because it's anonymous, but I also feel comfortable out in the real world with people.

For years my daughter thought I knew everyone because I always spoke to people everywhere we went. She finally figured out that I don't know everyone. I just like to talk to people.

I'm the person in the grocery store chatting to the next in line. If I'm sitting on a bench in the mall, I'll strike up a conversation with someone sitting nearby. I like people, and I enjoy chatting with them. I always try to share a smile and a kind word, even if it's just to say, "Hello" to someone. Life is too short not to be kind to others.

Answer 3

I am around a whole bunch of people all the time.
I come in here to get away from them.
I like to talk, and read stuff. I guess this is just fun
Plus I am suposed to be learning to type and to learn the computer. and get comfortable with it.
I have really inproved my typing skills also If people say stupid stuff I tell them so. In the real world you can't do that.
You might hurt someones feelings

Answer 4

Well, When i tell someone on here a problem I'm having or i just ask a stupid question the people on here are not going to go to my neighbors and to the store where i shop and to my kids and relatives and tell my business. The people on the "outside" will break their neck trying to tell. Now, that's why i like this site-i am sure that it is different for everyone.

Answer 5

Because here we can't be seen, here It doesn't matter what you think. Here if you don't like the answer you just turn the computer off. It's the unanimity of the whole damn thing. I worked a job for twenty years were everybody wrote down every damn thing that i said. This is great **** being able to say anything that I want and not having to stand up for it or defend it!! To heck with what you or I think!

Answer 6

I think this is an easier way for some people to talk because they are annonymous. They don't have to worry what they look like, what they're wearing, or how they talk. No one is going to judge them from talking to their face, only by what they say in an answer or a question.

Another reason is that some people are shy and have a difficult time speaking with people, but when it comes to talking online, they have no problem at all. They feel more courage to help people or ask questions than they would in person. I mean, asking a question face to face is difficult for some people - what if someone thinks your question is stupid? Then you're just embarassed, but on here, no one knows who you really are! Or, in person someone may decide you know nothing about a certain subject, or judge you, and not listen to your advice, but on here they may decide you do know what you're talking about.

Yet another reason (and this one applies to me sometimes) is that some people like advice from random people. Sometimes your friends, family, and loved ones are prejudice in their advice. When you ask people you don't know, you have no ties, or expectations with, they are completely honest. You'll get full details on what they would do or what they think will help you. Sometimes when you ask someone close to you they will tell you what you want to hear or what they think you want to hear. Other times they have their own opinions of you (and sometimes they aren't always correct) and that factors into their advice. They think they know you and what is best for you, but that isn't always the case. For me, and I'm sure there are others out there who agree, random people give you honest answers sometimes.

Another possibility is that when we run into people in stores, on the street, resturants, etc., most people are in a hurry. They don't have time to say much except exchange pleasantries (and some don't have time for that...or don't know how). Getting involved in a deep conversation with someone is harder in person. On here you just post a question and anyone who has the time or can help, will take the time to do it. In person, someone may be in a hurry and just blow you off, but when the question is online they can answer the question in their free time.

One more possibility is that some people have the idea that when you are in public you have a general idea of what is acceptable. It's acceptable to hold doors for people, discuss the weather, or local happenings. To actually get involved in details about someone or help them is out of the question. Some people have the notion that is unacceptable behavior for in public, but when you're online anything goes. It's viewed that you are a little odd or a possible stalker if you want to find out about someone in public, but online it is perfectly fine. You have expectations of what is acceptable online and in public and so that factors in.



Sorry I kept babbling! I just enjoy studing people, sociology, and psychology. I've found these to be just a FEW cases of how people are more open on the internet than they are in person. For me, I'm the opposite. I'm more likely to trust someone I've met in person several times and gotten to know...whereas online I have no idea if the person I'm talking to is who they say they are or if I can trust them because it's easier to lie online than it is in person. However, it seems for most people they prefer to open up online and not in person. ;)

Answer 7

I'm sure people do feel safer here behind the mask of anonymity. I am just as comfortable in the real world though.

Answer 8

the real world is much too much hard for me. im a very sad human being and here in this cyber reality, i can find some kind of acceptance, no matter how small or trivial.
thank God for the internet.

Answer 9

I like talking i here because you meet different people here you normal wouldn't talk to... I wouldn't have meet my wife if it wasn't yahoo pool... That's how we meet... 4 Years later we married... Most people don't believe as when we tell them but we lived 3000kms away from each other we got chattin then I phone her then I went to meet her and we fell in love...

But this is good because people don't pre judge you... I like find out abot people... I'm so boring myself so it good to just getting to know people...

So take care and have a good day...

Answer 10

I do talk in the "real world" if I'm in the mood.

Man, I walked some old dude all the way to his gate one time just killing time.

Relax