How am I gonna find real love when I am so young and have already been divorced?

Question

I have already been married, my wife decided that she hadn't done all of the partying that she wanted so she backed out, after four years we grew apart. I want to find someone, but all the women my age(I'm 25) can hardly believe i have been married much less divorced, and then when they find out, They instantly view me as the typical male marital disaster instead of, giving me the benefit of the doubt, and giving me a chance. I know this may not be a good place for this question.

Answer 1

Like you said you are still young so you still have all of the time in the world. I'm 40 and divorced with a kid. Try walking a mile in my shoes.

Answer 2

If I was single I would give you a chance to date me even though you have been devorced. There are a lot of reasons for being devorced. It's a sad thing that happened to you but it seems that it is you ex-wife that had the problem. Marrying young sometimes I think that this happens. I'm 24 and I get married at age 19 and I was very sick and never really got the chance to go out and party but my husband is all the party I need. We can party together. My cuzine however devorced her husband for the same reason she also was married young and devorced him in a year. They are still friends. Maybe some day, if you were willing you could be a couple again. However what she did is a lot of pain to get over. She put you through a lot. Hold your head up high you'll make it. It sounds like this divorce didn't have much to do with you. Don't loose your self confidance you are no less of a person because of what she did. Blessings to you.

Answer 3

Amazing, isn't it? Women who are divorced generally have quite the following, but when a man is divorced, the tables seem to turn. I've always thought there is someone for everyone out there. At 25, you have your whole life ahead of you. When the right one comes, you'll know. Might not be for a few years, but thats ok, too.

Answer 4

I was divorced at 22, so it could be worse. But I understand what you mean. It is difficult.
You need to try to forgive yourself for making a mistake. You put your faith in another person and it didn't work out. It is not your fault that your wife backed out. The fact that you are willing to try to date again shows tremedous courage.
When you're ok with your divorce, the girls will be too.

Answer 5

It's really good that you are straight out and honest to them. They couldn't appreciate that. The right person will come along, and will see you for what a wonderful person you are. This person will give you the chance. It'll work out, you just have to wait. If you get lonely, surround yourself with friends, listen to music you like and live your life. I know you will find them. I wish you the best of luck. Have hope, my friend.

Answer 6

Then those women are not for you anyway. Consider yourself lucky to be well rid of them. There is someone for everyone. You will find the woman who can accept you exactly as you are. Settle for nothing less.

Answer 7

Best advice, even though you want something right now, is to wait it out and let love come to you. Looking for it is just going to frustrate you until you end up settling for something much less than you deserve.

Answer 8

Believe me, love is real difficult task, it is important but the most importatnt is the LOVE you can devote to you, if you are well loved by yourself, then people will notice that aura gleaming on you and the good ones will come to you!!!
Love is interpersonal, too.
Gerry.

Answer 9

Give Your life to Jesus and He will bring you more love and friendship than you ever thought possible. But you have to hook up with a fellowship or church to reap the real benefits.

Answer 10

well im a physchatrist ( but not a very good speller hahahaha) anyways just go with the flow. u will find true love when u least expect it. so stop questioning.