My husband, just will not set her straight. My husband and I we're arguing and she was calling the whole time, so I unplugged the phone. She sent the police to my home claiming that I was crazy and holding her son captive. Moreover, after the police left because of seeing no wrong doing; she then pulled up and yelled at me for turning my phone off and then pushed before driving off with my husband. Furthermore, 3 days later I decided to apoligize so I could speak to my husband, she says that she does not accept and slammed the phone in my face! I want her out of the picture....help?
2006-07-29 13:31:10 · 18 answers · asked by marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been married 6 and a half years and we are 28 and 29. This is her second attempt to divide us.
2006-07-29 14:03:43 · update #1
Omg what a nightmare!
No mother of adult child has a right to interfere in that childs life and or marriage. You husband is a chIld to go off with his mother. He is a mommies boy. sick.
When a man is married, his puprose is to protect his wife, even if it is his mother he has to stand up to.
She needs to be asked an opinion before she gives one. She needs to not come over until she is invited. She needs to respect her son's choice in a wife. And there needs to be written down boundries set with your mother in law. When she crosses those boundries she needs to suffer the consenquences. She is acting like a child so needs guidlines like a child.
Also with all that is within you. never ever lower yourself to her level. Never let her see you angry. When you show her your anger and frustration that means you are letting her win.
Your calm spirit will drive her nuts.
Get some counseling asap
Stand firm
2006-07-29 14:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's attempting to regulate you. he's using your daughter in an attempt to manage you into doing what he needs. it is despicable. do no longer enable him to hold you hostage. you're no longer combating him from having a relationship together with his daughter, nor are you withholding her from that area of her family individuals. You get to set some regulations, so which you're ok, and thus, you would be a extra clever mum on your little female. the destiny is an prolonged way away, and you dont be responsive to the way it is going to all pan out. difficulty approximately your needs and your daughters needs top now. Your husband is a grown person (whether he's appearing like a new child) and can look out for his very own hobbies.
2016-11-03 06:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not contact her anymore, no phone calls, no going over to her house, etc. Leave them completely alone. If he contacts you, ask to see him in private and insist that his mother not know. Then sit him down and have a very long talk with him about this. If he cannot understand where you are coming from and is not willing to put a stop to his mother butting in and acting like a fool, you are better off without him. It's a wonder the police haven't pressed charges against her for wrongfully calling them. You can bet she's the talk at the police station.
2006-07-29 13:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a way to talk to him and tell him how you feel politely and calmly. Do not be shy about it. Then if he does not understand then you need to leave him becaues he is showing no commitment and maturity. Men can take a long time to completely commit and grow up. Make sure you are happy as well. Go out and get this book called 40 Days and 40 Nights written by ILENE SEGALOVE. It might help you alittle bit. Take it easy and stay safe. Good luck.
2006-07-29 13:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by lmfansler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he is that way now believe it doesn't get any better only worse. You don't say how old you two are but really that doesn't make any difference because he should not have left with her. Futhermore he took you as his wife and leave his mommy behind. You need to face up to it that it will only worsen as time goes on. I would have filed charges for her pushing and that would have let her know I wasn't playing her games because he is piting you two againist each other and enjoying every minute of it.
2006-07-29 13:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds life the crazy one. It sounds like she has never let go of your husband and allowed him to be an adult. She is still treating him as a child that she needs to protect. Does she have any hobbies (other that bothering you)?? Do either of you attempt to become friends?? Understand that she is feeling that she is his mother but ask her to understand that her son is now an adult and a married adult. Keep reminding her that he is an adult. Don't cut her out of your lives, family is important. If she cannot keep from causing problems limit your contact with her. You will need your husbands backing. Ask him what he wants from his family.
2006-07-29 13:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by redo123@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN RUN RUN your husband is a grown man and he left with his mother, not i dont think so you better leave that boy and find you a real man on yahoo answers. The in law is crazy, falsely calling the cops and pushing on you and your husband did nothing thank God you don't have kids with this man or she would be trying to take them to. Girl run
2006-07-29 13:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and you should be a team and not so seperated about this. If he is not willing to join your side then you have major issues. He should be agreeing with you fight or not. Not letting his mother handle your marital problems. Tell her to mind her own marriage. "a man leaves his family to join his wife" from the bible, maybe he forgot that part.
2006-07-29 13:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are way too giving in this relationship.Sit back and relax. you are married for 6 years. sooner or later your husband will start missing u .Honey a wife can be mother ,wife everything wrapped in one,but mother can only be mother she cant take your place.
you dont need to apologize to anybody. you will have lots of fights with your husband. why do u need to apologize to his mom.for heaven;s sake i have seen many women including my mother in law.,i want to say one thing cut the cord already.
next time your husband comes home dont let her interfere too much.give it to her in same attitude she uses against u .
2006-07-29 15:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to work things out with your husband, then talk to him tell him what his mother is doing that you think is not right. Talk to her and explain that he is a married man with a wife, she cannot take care of him forever, he is an adult, he can make his own decisions, choices, he can do things for himself.
2006-07-29 13:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by kznight1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋