About washing baby girls...?

Question

Is it okay to just let them soak in a pan of water and a little baking sodas when they poop for about 5 minutes, and then, just wipe them down? I know i saw my mother do it when my sister was younger. She has come to expect all these washings though, and it's not always available like when she is at daycare (even though I specifically advised this) They now tell me she cries about poopy diaper changes, and she never do at home when I do, because I put her in the foot tub in baking soda water. Have I spoiled her? I heard a rumor that wipes are not healthy for baby girls all the time, so being a scared new dad, I went with what I saw my mom do. She has no rashes ever, she only gets redness from being wiped all the time at daycare. I just don't know what to do about the daycear situation...they should follow my instructions, right? Otherwise care is great, though, so I'm reluctant to complain...any advise?

Answer 1

What I would do is get the sensitive wipes for her then get a diaper cream like A+D, Butt Paste or Desitin and tell them to use it after every diaper change just to be sure she wont get a rash. Daycares usually change the diapers every two hours (I know this because I work at one) Ask them to change her every hour. For poopy diapers they can use a warm wash cloth to wipe her. That may help.

Answer 2

No one will take care of your daughter better than you. It sounds like the wipes irritate her bottom. You can have the daycare not use wipes, but a soft cloth with warm water instead. That may help a bit. Be sure to check that daycare changes her often. You could also ask the doctor to recommend a creme for her bottom. The day care should put the creme on at each diaper change. I use Desitin when my son gets a little red. In a daycare setting, it may not be practical to have her soak for a few minutes, because they have 4 or more other children to tend to. You could hire a babysitter or a nanny to watch your little girl, but that is more expensive.

Answer 3

You sound like you are really trying to be the best Dad you can be. I think I remember from an earlier post of yours that the babys Mom is in the service and is overseas. God bless you all for holding down the fort at home, and for fighting for the freedom of all of us. You have spoiled your little girl a little bit with the baths with baking soda after she poops her diaper; but if you can't spoil your own baby, who can you spoil???? I wish more people today would take such good care of their children. I am friends with a woman whose grandaughter has not been potty trained yet, and she is nearly 4 and her parents are just clueless about keeping this girl in a clean diaper and/or training her. Her grandmother is doing what she can, but it's a losing battle at the moment. The poor little girl ended up getting a kidney infection just recently, so they are really learning the hard way. Do not feel guilty about wanting your child taken care of in the best way possible. Due to the fact that most daycares are crowded, or as full as they can legally be, for many reasons; they may not be able to be taking the time to give your daughter an individual bath after she has a dirty diaper. You may want to purchase some of the baby wipes that are made for sensitive skin and also unscented as a lot of baby girls have allergies to a lot of products. My daughter was allergic to many products when she was young, especially any soap and bath products. She even has to be careful now and she is a married woman with two children of her own. Send some of the unscented, gentle baby wipes to the daycare along with some of the new Desitin Creamy which is really mild and gentle (it has vitamin E and aloe in it) and have them put some of that on her after she has been cleaned up with the wipes. It would be very difficult for your daughter to handle having another change in her life right now, with her Mom being away; so taking her out of the day care is not a good idea unless you do not see this situation improving within a couple of weeks of speaking to the caretakers and taking in the products you want used. God bless you and your very lucky baby girl and her very brave and wonderful Mom!!! Have a good night !!!! I'll pray for all of you and especially a safe homecoming for Mom!!!

Answer 4

You have completely spoiled her rotten! And good for you!

It's a shame that children must go to daycare while their parents work. If you must send her to daycare then try these things:
Ask the daycare director and caregiver to use sensitive skin wipes and provide them yourself. Also, to help with rashes, ask the daycare to apply Desitin or A&D Ointment after diaper changes. You might need to provide this for them as well. She will probably still fuss over diaper changes. But at least her poor little parts won't be so tender.

Answer 5

How old is the baby? If she is crying about poopy diapers it may be time to potty train. A good time to start is when the kid realizes that poopy diapers suck and going in the toilet means no more mess.
If she is close to 2 years old, start. She at least needs to be talking enough to ask to be taken to the bathroom.
Logistically, a day care center can't do a soak for every poopy diaper she has. Wipes are necessary. If she is getting redness, have them sprinkle her with powder. That will dry her skin and keep her fresh.

Answer 6

Uh, I've never heard of this before. If you wipe her and dry her and then apply some baby powder she shouldn't get a rash. She'll get over the diaper changes soon enough. Clearly she'll have to because there is not always going to be a tub full of baking soda water for her to soak in while she goes! Besides, isn't that tantamount to sitting IN the toilet while you go? Who wants to do that?!

Answer 7

Does she have sensitive skin? She shouldn't have redness from wipes. What are they using? sandpaper? The wipes with perfumes are bad for baby girls, not all wipes are bad. I think that asking to have your daughter soaked after a poo is a little much. I would switch daycares if my son came home with redness though, sounds like it may not be the wipes but how long they leave her in dirty diapers. Sorry, this must be frustrating for you.

Answer 8

If the daycare insists on using wipes, supply them wipes for extra sensitive skin...huggies makes some good ones...that's the best advice I can give you...they can't always do the soaks at daycare because yours is not the only baby they have to take care of...and I do think you have spoiled her a bit, but if that is what works for you guys, then there is nothing wrong with it. Good luck!

Answer 9

The soak is a nice touch. I've never heard of it before. However, as long as her bottom is cleaned properly she should be ok. A little diaper ointment can help with the redness. Also there will come other times when there is absolutly no place to give her a little bath so she'll get used to it.

I've been diapering kids for over 40 years.

Answer 10

The care that moms and dads give to their babies will never compare to the one they receive at the day care... I have to say that Im lucky because my baby stays with my mom (which is equal or better than me taking care of him). But I do agree that they should follow your instructions... Just tell them that your daughter has developed an allergy (a little white lie) to baby wipes and that is the procedure that should be followed when she has a poopy diaper.